Did you just come on here to antagonize?
That's great you feel that way but I necessarily don't, hence starting this thread.
Thank you for exposing yourself as a judgemental moron
He was responding saying having Christ was better than having wives, and you responded like this. I appreciate this honesty, but this concerns me. You don't think it is better to have Christ than a wife or sex? Does it bother you if you are thinking like that?
The Greek word for repentance actually means a change of mind. I believe you need to repent, and have a change in your way of thinking. Maybe you realize that.
You know what, I can really relate to your desire to have sex. Before I got married, having sex was like a dream of mine. It was something I wanted so badly... after I was married of course. Just looking at sexual frequency surveys, I'm a high drive kind of fellow, and I waited a lot longer than many of my high school and college classmates. But I also wanted to avoid having sex outside of marriage, too. Reading the Old Testament about being obligated to marry a girl whose virginity you took stuck with me, too. What if I slept with someone and become one in body with her, and then felt convicted that to live right with God, I had to marry her. What if she got pregnant? If you think about it, that is yet another reason not to go out and fornicate. Let's say there is some woman you think you are attracted to enough to have sex with once, but not to marry, and you fornicated with her, and to live right with God after that, you believe you should marry her. For example, you took her virginity or go her pregnant. Then you are stuck with a woman you found suitable for a one-night stand. You are stuck with a woman whose morals let her have a one night stand with you. Also, imagine if you got a woman pregnant who you could under no circumstances marry. Then you have a baby that maybe you can see on weekends if the mommy doesn't decide to murder the child in the womb.
I wouldn't want to put myself in a situation where I wasn't living right with God. Sometimes, to repent, you have to do something, like restore something you defraud someone of, for example. If you steal a car, and you repent, you at least have to restore the car. If not, you are driving around in a state of sin if you won't give back the car. I didn't want to put myself in a situation where I didn't know what was right to do, either. I didn't want to put myself in that situation in a relationship, either.
Like I said, I really wanted to experience sex. I wanted the physical release. I wanted the emotional connection. I wanted someone to love and someone to love me, and I also wanted that on a sexual level, too. I had a hunger for that and a lot of other good things that came with marriage. So, what did I do? I cried out to the Lord.
I think you are on the verge of making the absolute opposite decision of what you should make to meet your objectives. You want to have sex, right? The right way to do that is to marry a fellow believer. But you can't just go to Walmart, compare Christian brides, and pick up the best one for you off the shelf and take her back for a full refund before 30 days if you keep your receipt. Brides are harder to acquire. You really need God to help you arrange it. So you really need to pray and ask God for help on this one. Entertaining thoughts about giving up your faith to have sex are working in the opposite direction of getting you to your objective of having a wife to have sex with.
Before I met my wife, I went through a time when I was alone for a while and lonely. So I started praying. I believe the Lord did a purifying work in my heart as far as lust is concerned. But I was lonely and I told the Lord I wanted a wife.
I asked the Lord to send an angel before me to get a wife for me (as in the story of Rebecca).
I asked the Lord if He had someone for me to hurry up and bring her to me.
I asked if she was dating someone else for Him to quickly, gently break them up and bring her to me (which is how it happened, btw.)
Within a few months, I'd met her. You know what I found out? When I actually met this wonderful woman and loved her, lust wasn't as big of an issue. I didn't sit around thinking sexual thoughts about her. Of course, I had to try not to, and I was pretty busy with dating her. We were attracted to each other, and I'm not saying there was no temptation. But I appreciated her as a portion, and something about the love in the relationship satisfied something in me that I was tempted to satisfy with sexual thoughts before that. Of course, when we married, there was plenty of sex, especially during that Honeymoon phase of the first year or two, before the first baby came along.
Here is something else to think about. What if the Lord has a really wonderful daughter that he cherishes so much on reserve for you? Why would He bring her to you if you are going through this phase of wondering whether you should abandon the Lord to have sex? Why would He want to subject her to that? So repent and get over that and try to find a wife or whatever solution to this desire you have through getting closer to the Lord. It doesn't sound like you are cut out for life-long celibacy. The Biblical answer for you would therefore be to get married.
I think you should get your heart right on this and pursue a close relationship with God. Intensely devout yourself to prayer on this very topic, and then be very diligent about meeting a wife. If you can't find a woman in real life, there are lot's of women online looking for husbands. If you want a fellow virgin, that may be harder to find, but you can search all the free dating sites using the Google 'site' command searching for strings like "I am a virgin" or "virginity" and "I want a man who love's Jesus" or whatever other phrases until you find profiles of virgins. You might try finding a woman overseas who has an online profile from a country where women tend to be virgins until marriage and where they are eager to marry without the lengthy dating process. Spend enough time with her to make reasonably sure that her faith is genuine, that she isn't abusive or just plain crazy, that she isn't promiscuous, that she is hard-working, and that she has a good attitude toward the role as wife. If sex is important to you, talk about sexual expectations in marriage (e.g. Twice a year on special holidays might be a deal-breaker.) Or maybe there is a church singles group you could go to.
As you pray and look, always submit all your decisions whether it's about who to get to know or who to marry to the Lord. If you don't have peace about it and feel like a decision would be against the Lord, don't make it. Acknowledge Him in all your ways and definitely pray about the marriage decision.