Ariel, I know a man who got sucked into the Oneness Pentecostals. Besides the mess it made of his doctrine, it really screwed up his children.
I am also good friends with his oldest daughter, and have done a lot of counseling with her. She has told me of terrible abuses done in the name of this church. She was not allowed to read any books that were not school books or the Bible. She was not allowed to listen to any music unless it was a hymn. When they went to camp, the boys were totally separated from the girls, esp. at the swimming pool. She has horrible memories of swimming with heavy black plastic all around the pool. I guess they men thought the young boys might be tempted by the girls, but one has to wonder if it was the men in control who were really the tempted ones!
I attended the wedding of her younger sister a few weeks ago, the father did not want to dance with the bride, his daughter because he figured dancing was bad. We convinced him to dance with the bride. Then because I am a pastor, and another couple who brought this man, the husband was also studying for ministry, and I danced with my husband and the other couple danced (really good ballroom, I might add!), we encouraged him to dance with his daughters and granddaughters. He was very uncertain, but started having a fun time, and the next thing you know, he was dancing with the bridesmaids and really enjoying himself, realizing he was not hurting anyone.
The daughter I am friends with and I were outside talking and she started to cry. She told me that I gave her father back to her that night - that he became a real person, not just someone who wouldn't let her do anything in the name of God. That is ungodly fear of God, because of the control of men is true spiritual abuse.
I pray that anyone who is experiencing this kind of rigid control will leave that kind of church. God gave us the Holy Spirit to guide us in the Word.
By the way, the Word of God is clear that dancing (not for the purpose of sexual immorality!) is a gift from God.
"You have turned for me my mourning into dancing; you have loosed my sackcloth and clothed me with gladness," Psalm 30:11
When we have Jesus as our Saviour, we can truly dance with joy, and be glad.
As far as the man who danced, he did give a lovely testimony of God's love and God's expectation for love in marriage later that evening. Ironically, it really saved the evening, as many had wandered off in the heat, but came back to hear the message of God's love, which this man really preached. I have prayed for him for many years to be free of the evils of Oneness Pentecostals, and I am so glad to see God answering that prayer.