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It depends if you want a boyfried just for him to want you then sorry thats sort of like thinking of yourself i mean yes everyone feels that way BUT we should also return the feelings & as christians we should want oursould mate to be a christian too who would Put God before anyone including yourself.
Maybe you can start going to bible studies & there meet a christian boy & maybe he will be the one that God picked for you.
Pray to God not to be so hasty, in wanting a boyfriend & pray to him to save a guy for you a christian guy for you & if it is possible to meet him soon.
Just remember if you put him before God that will NOT make God happy.
take it from a 18 year old girl who used to want to be wanted & have boyfriends or a best friend, its not so bad being alone if you have GOd =) my longest relation ship was 2 months you know why? because i was sooo hasty in wanting a boyfriend & a good friend.
I do understand the loneliness of wanting someone there to talk to about God & thats the main reason i came to this site so i can have others to talk about God & to help me learn more things & make christian friends =)
Just pray to God to help you not be so hasty & help you find a good friend who is a christian so you & her or him can talk about you & if it can be possible to meet the one God is saving for you or picked for you soon & NOT to depart from God after meeting him.
Also remember ONLY God can take away what he gives.
So if you pick a guy who is not for you & will cause you to stray from God Or a guy that you will fall in love with & do drugs or bad things & end up dead or in prison God will take him away from you , so remember if any guy ever leaves you or God puts obstacles in your life to be with him meaning obstacles for you two NOT to meet again or talk again or so on then maybe its because he is not the one for you or he will drive you away from God.
God loves us SOOOO much that he pulls us away from those who will make us turn aside from God =)
Maybe you can start going to bible studies & there meet a christian boy & maybe he will be the one that God picked for you.
Pray to God not to be so hasty, in wanting a boyfriend & pray to him to save a guy for you a christian guy for you & if it is possible to meet him soon.
Just remember if you put him before God that will NOT make God happy.
take it from a 18 year old girl who used to want to be wanted & have boyfriends or a best friend, its not so bad being alone if you have GOd =) my longest relation ship was 2 months you know why? because i was sooo hasty in wanting a boyfriend & a good friend.
I do understand the loneliness of wanting someone there to talk to about God & thats the main reason i came to this site so i can have others to talk about God & to help me learn more things & make christian friends =)
Just pray to God to help you not be so hasty & help you find a good friend who is a christian so you & her or him can talk about you & if it can be possible to meet the one God is saving for you or picked for you soon & NOT to depart from God after meeting him.
Also remember ONLY God can take away what he gives.
So if you pick a guy who is not for you & will cause you to stray from God Or a guy that you will fall in love with & do drugs or bad things & end up dead or in prison God will take him away from you , so remember if any guy ever leaves you or God puts obstacles in your life to be with him meaning obstacles for you two NOT to meet again or talk again or so on then maybe its because he is not the one for you or he will drive you away from God.
God loves us SOOOO much that he pulls us away from those who will make us turn aside from God =)
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Thanks
I am trying so hard to remember all this!! It's hard some times! Please pray for me!
I am trying so hard to remember all this!! It's hard some times! Please pray for me!
You welcome, i understand its hard, But trust me God can put it in you to not want one sooo much, Now im happy being single even though theres a 2 guys i often think about & miss they are just moments of weakness & dont last long =)
Will do =)
My advice for ANY teenager, boy or girl.
Do not worry about a relationship as in a boyfriend or girlfriend. To much temptation in today's world. Focus on your relationship with God. Focus on school. Find good christian friends to help encourage you. I have missed SOOO much out of life as a teen because of my choices. I WANTED a girl. God knows girls are my weakness. As a teenager hormones are going crazy and with what the world is telling you, yeah its normal to want someone to "love" and someone to "love" you back. It makes you feel important. I think through praying to God to provide you with only what you need, praying for HIS will in your life to done, not YOUR will. So instead of saying God give me this because I want it, say God i want what you want for me, whatever you want for me I know it will be enough. Once you seek what God wants then everything will start to fall in place. Look very closely to see if what you want is a want of the flesh or a will from God. We all seek for relationship, it is in us. That is relationship with God. Satan can decieve us and make us think its relationship with others. But by working on your relationship with God, he will bring people in your life. Test the spirits. When someone comes into your life, are they trying to help you with God, or break you from God? In all that you do, do it to glorify God. I was born into a christian home. I grew up knowing God, and knowing he loves me. It wasn't till after I seeked drugs and girls that my life turned upside down. I used either drugs or girls to make me happy, not that I thought I was seeking those to be happy but i was. Even while i roasted a bowl of meth I would be talking about God. As I slept with girl I would speak of love from God...as i was rolling on e I preached Gods message. But the message was distorted. I dropped out of highschool because I got depressed over a girl. I seeked girls first..when the relationship ended I seeked drugs. Then meet another girl and think this girl must be true cuz she is helping me get off drugs..then she left me, bringing me back to drugs. This pattern continued in my life until I had a son. and I thought what am I doing. What happened to me, I was the little goody two shoe christian boy how did i become what I am. I see it has a perfect example of the Prodigal Son story. I use to defend drug use as in, I would to say if people take tylonal for a headache why cant I smoke pot or take anyother drug, just cuz man made a drug "illegal" or "legal" its still a drug. I was not seeeing the spirit behind things. If i could go back ot my teanage years I would stay away from girls and drugs. And focus on God not careing anything what they said about what I was doing, because I know now all that matters is God, and all I have and will have is because of God. Not saying everyone that goes into a relationship or even do drugs will end up as crazy as I got, but the possiblity is there. And i never once WILLED for it, I never once decided to become that it just creeped up on me. Now I am 28 years old and I have not graduated high school and i have no college, and even thought it was my actions that brought me here, it was my actions with drugs and girls that got me here. I think for for teanagers, even christian teanagers, to get into a relationship is like playing with fire. You may not get burned at first but keep playing with it and the chances get greater. I SUGGEST TO EVERYONE DO NOT HAVE SEX UNTIL MARRIAGE...IT WILL BREAK YOU. This is from a former candy kid raver wou loved sex. who liked to do anything that was kinky. but now because I came back to God...my old ways have died I no longer desire drugs or sex. I know desire all that God wills for my life. and it is AWESOME. I wish i would have listened to God when I was yonger, I would probably have a college degree and a good job by now in my life, not to say I cant get a college degree and good job but satan has robbed me of over 10 years of my life. 10 years of the most important part of you life i think. that 15-25 year rage is SO important for your future. but at the same time it could be the most tempted part too.
Well lol I think i have said enought. but I would love to talk to anyone that wants to talk. I am here for you!!!! To help encourage anyone and everyone in there walk in the Lord. I have done some crazy things, I would NEVER judge one person for I honestly have broken EVERY commandment in some way or form. But God restored me, and continues to restore me. I know his work in me is NEVER complete until the day I am at home, in heaven.
God bless you all!!!!
with Love from our Father,
Donald A. Dean
[email protected]
feel free to email me about anything love you all!!!
Do not worry about a relationship as in a boyfriend or girlfriend. To much temptation in today's world. Focus on your relationship with God. Focus on school. Find good christian friends to help encourage you. I have missed SOOO much out of life as a teen because of my choices. I WANTED a girl. God knows girls are my weakness. As a teenager hormones are going crazy and with what the world is telling you, yeah its normal to want someone to "love" and someone to "love" you back. It makes you feel important. I think through praying to God to provide you with only what you need, praying for HIS will in your life to done, not YOUR will. So instead of saying God give me this because I want it, say God i want what you want for me, whatever you want for me I know it will be enough. Once you seek what God wants then everything will start to fall in place. Look very closely to see if what you want is a want of the flesh or a will from God. We all seek for relationship, it is in us. That is relationship with God. Satan can decieve us and make us think its relationship with others. But by working on your relationship with God, he will bring people in your life. Test the spirits. When someone comes into your life, are they trying to help you with God, or break you from God? In all that you do, do it to glorify God. I was born into a christian home. I grew up knowing God, and knowing he loves me. It wasn't till after I seeked drugs and girls that my life turned upside down. I used either drugs or girls to make me happy, not that I thought I was seeking those to be happy but i was. Even while i roasted a bowl of meth I would be talking about God. As I slept with girl I would speak of love from God...as i was rolling on e I preached Gods message. But the message was distorted. I dropped out of highschool because I got depressed over a girl. I seeked girls first..when the relationship ended I seeked drugs. Then meet another girl and think this girl must be true cuz she is helping me get off drugs..then she left me, bringing me back to drugs. This pattern continued in my life until I had a son. and I thought what am I doing. What happened to me, I was the little goody two shoe christian boy how did i become what I am. I see it has a perfect example of the Prodigal Son story. I use to defend drug use as in, I would to say if people take tylonal for a headache why cant I smoke pot or take anyother drug, just cuz man made a drug "illegal" or "legal" its still a drug. I was not seeeing the spirit behind things. If i could go back ot my teanage years I would stay away from girls and drugs. And focus on God not careing anything what they said about what I was doing, because I know now all that matters is God, and all I have and will have is because of God. Not saying everyone that goes into a relationship or even do drugs will end up as crazy as I got, but the possiblity is there. And i never once WILLED for it, I never once decided to become that it just creeped up on me. Now I am 28 years old and I have not graduated high school and i have no college, and even thought it was my actions that brought me here, it was my actions with drugs and girls that got me here. I think for for teanagers, even christian teanagers, to get into a relationship is like playing with fire. You may not get burned at first but keep playing with it and the chances get greater. I SUGGEST TO EVERYONE DO NOT HAVE SEX UNTIL MARRIAGE...IT WILL BREAK YOU. This is from a former candy kid raver wou loved sex. who liked to do anything that was kinky. but now because I came back to God...my old ways have died I no longer desire drugs or sex. I know desire all that God wills for my life. and it is AWESOME. I wish i would have listened to God when I was yonger, I would probably have a college degree and a good job by now in my life, not to say I cant get a college degree and good job but satan has robbed me of over 10 years of my life. 10 years of the most important part of you life i think. that 15-25 year rage is SO important for your future. but at the same time it could be the most tempted part too.
Well lol I think i have said enought. but I would love to talk to anyone that wants to talk. I am here for you!!!! To help encourage anyone and everyone in there walk in the Lord. I have done some crazy things, I would NEVER judge one person for I honestly have broken EVERY commandment in some way or form. But God restored me, and continues to restore me. I know his work in me is NEVER complete until the day I am at home, in heaven.
God bless you all!!!!
with Love from our Father,
Donald A. Dean
[email protected]
feel free to email me about anything
love you all!!!
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Hey thanks for all you advice and for telling your story, daffy4christ.
All the stuff that everyone has said has helped me soooo much. I felt God telling me to not worry so much about have a boyfriend. So I gave up on my will. I took Gods will instead. I have been trying so hard lately to NOT be in control of my life. I want God to control it. And if God's gonna control it then I better let him take my worries away. So I gave this issue up to him- like I have been trying to do for a long time. The more I think about it- the more I realize how dumb dating actually is in high school. I mean I causes so many distactions with school and God. And some one usually ends up getting hurt. I learned that from my friends' experiences. This has a all become really clear to me now, thanks everyone, and thanks God. So now I am praying for all the kids in my school who are caught up in ungodly relationships or involved with drugs and stuff. Or just don't know God. My heart goes out to them even though it's hard to love them sometimes. I dontwant to see them continue the life they're lving. I know God wants me to be a light in my school but that's so hard to do all alone. I pray that those people will know Gods love for them and it will seem totally and completely real like it does to me.
All the stuff that everyone has said has helped me soooo much. I felt God telling me to not worry so much about have a boyfriend. So I gave up on my will. I took Gods will instead. I have been trying so hard lately to NOT be in control of my life. I want God to control it. And if God's gonna control it then I better let him take my worries away. So I gave this issue up to him- like I have been trying to do for a long time. The more I think about it- the more I realize how dumb dating actually is in high school. I mean I causes so many distactions with school and God. And some one usually ends up getting hurt. I learned that from my friends' experiences. This has a all become really clear to me now, thanks everyone, and thanks God. So now I am praying for all the kids in my school who are caught up in ungodly relationships or involved with drugs and stuff. Or just don't know God. My heart goes out to them even though it's hard to love them sometimes. I dontwant to see them continue the life they're lving. I know God wants me to be a light in my school but that's so hard to do all alone. I pray that those people will know Gods love for them and it will seem totally and completely real like it does to me.
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Amen, He let you see what our human eyes cant.
The truth, Amen so nice of you to want to help =D
You can start off with trying to talk to kids who dont have any friends or are usually alone, Try & make friends with them, then tell them about God =D
Be there for them like true friends are so they know that there are real friends out there =D
Spreading the word of God is a good way to help others depart from their sinful ways. Like for example when they use drugs & have sex, they might either stop doing it right away or slowly depart from it when they start getting into the word of God =D
The truth, Amen so nice of you to want to help =D
You can start off with trying to talk to kids who dont have any friends or are usually alone, Try & make friends with them, then tell them about God =D
Be there for them like true friends are so they know that there are real friends out there =D
Spreading the word of God is a good way to help others depart from their sinful ways. Like for example when they use drugs & have sex, they might either stop doing it right away or slowly depart from it when they start getting into the word of God =D
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Thanks a lot of people at my school think God is super boringggg. They can't see the truth about God and all they see is that old church that they used to attend that sang one-note boring songs and long lectures that bored them to tears. I want them to know that God is the total and complete opposite of boring.
a lot of people at my school think God is super boringggg. They can't see the truth about God and all they see is that old church that they used to attend that sang one-note boring songs and long lectures that bored them to tears. I want them to know that God is the total and complete opposite of boring.
I am so glad you look at it that way, you should set a example for the ones in your school and other peers. God bless you!!! If you need any encouragement hit me up. I am here for you 110% I want to and pray that you succeed through Christ.
your loving brother,
Donald A. Dean
email
[email protected]
your loving brother,
Donald A. Dean
[email protected]
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Hi , Im 19 and have yet to date anyone not for lack of wanting or even no one being interested God just never opened the right doors which is probably a good thing because I must admit lust is one of my biggest temptations. But just for all you girls out there I dont care what age you are or how much you think he loves you dont have sex before marriage. Not sayin you would cause you all sound like good christian christian girls ( need some more of you around my area but its amazing how many people fall into that. From experience if a guy would ask you to do something like that he probably has no intent of marrying you. The only girls that I never had trouble keeping my eyes to themselves and keeping my thoughts pure when they walked by was the girls that I truely was interested in. I looked at them but in a different way even when I was unsaved. But I know what your sayin sometimes you just want to be close to someone but you just have to trust that God will give you someone in his own time. No harm in lookin real hard for when the right person may come by though
but its amazing how many people fall into that. From experience if a guy would ask you to do something like that he probably has no intent of marrying you. The only girls that I never had trouble keeping my eyes to themselves and keeping my thoughts pure when they walked by was the girls that I truely was interested in. I looked at them but in a different way even when I was unsaved. But I know what your sayin sometimes you just want to be close to someone but you just have to trust that God will give you someone in his own time. No harm in lookin real hard for when the right person may come by though
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Hey thanks ben. Yea it's good to hear what guys have to say on this too!!! But I would never ever ever have sex before marriage. I made a promise to God and to myself- which I wouldn't ever dare to break. But I don't think (at least i hope not) I will have this problem in high school because all the guys at my school don't really know God so I wouldn't date them anyways. That's another promise I made- to never date anyone who is not a strong christian at least as strong as I am. But them if the guy really truely is a Jesus freak and loves God more than anything- he wouldn't try to do that kinda stuff. So I guess I am learning that it's probably a good thing that God didn't put a guy in my life so I would have a risk of getting hurt or doing something I regret. Now I am fine with that. Gods overwhelming joy and love has filled me to the top and is overflowing!!!! I don't need anything else- God is sooooooo amazing. I cannot describe it!!! Indescribable! ( haha like the song!) for once I feel confident I feel satisfied! I love this amazing grace. I am free! I feel soooo joyous right now! God has shown me that he's all I need and ever since I've been trusting him more and more- I feel better and better. Better than I ever had. This joy is 100000000million times better than any happiness this world could bring! This is heavenly joy!!!
I feel satisfied! I love this amazing grace. I am free! I feel soooo joyous right now! God has shown me that he's all I need and ever since I've been trusting him more and more- I feel better and better. Better than I ever had. This joy is 100000000million times better than any happiness this world could bring! This is heavenly joy!!!
Hey thanks ben. Yea it's good to hear what guys have to say on this too!!! But I would never ever ever have sex before marriage. I made a promise to God and to myself- which I wouldn't ever dare to break. But I don't think (at least i hope not) I will have this problem in high school because all the guys at my school don't really know God so I wouldn't date them anyways. That's another promise I made- to never date anyone who is not a strong christian at least as strong as I am. But them if the guy really truely is a Jesus freak and loves God more than anything- he wouldn't try to do that kinda stuff. So I guess I am learning that it's probably a good thing that God didn't put a guy in my life so I would have a risk of getting hurt or doing something I regret. Now I am fine with that. Gods overwhelming joy and love has filled me to the top and is overflowing!!!! I don't need anything else- God is sooooooo amazing. I cannot describe it!!! Indescribable! ( haha like the song!) for once I feel confident I feel satisfied! I love this amazing grace. I am free! I feel soooo joyous right now! God has shown me that he's all I need and ever since I've been trusting him more and more- I feel better and better. Better than I ever had. This joy is 100000000million times better than any happiness this world could bring! This is heavenly joy!!!
I feel satisfied! I love this amazing grace. I am free! I feel soooo joyous right now! God has shown me that he's all I need and ever since I've been trusting him more and more- I feel better and better. Better than I ever had. This joy is 100000000million times better than any happiness this world could bring! This is heavenly joy!!!
Very wise young lady you are dear...*chants Morgan, Morgan, Morgan*