A Husband's role

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tourist

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If you are attempting to insult me, I hope you are ready to get your feelings hurt. I will avoid it because you are not a strong person and it is not my nature. You have really had it in for me when I indicated on one of your past thread that women over 30 would have a slimmer time in getting married. You took it very personal and always had a "snorty" remark to me when you would post to me.
Please, lighten up Bisquick! This woman is one of the nicest on this site. You would know this by reading her inspiring and most interesting posts. She is also one of the most respectful and meant no harm to you. I believe you to be a good man and that you might consider offering to her a sincere, contrite apology.
 

tourist

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#62
If you are attempting to insult me, I hope you are ready to get your feelings hurt. I will avoid it because you are not a strong person and it is not my nature. You have really had it in for me when I indicated on one of your past thread that women over 30 would have a slimmer time in getting married. You took it very personal and always had a "snorty" remark to me when you would post to me.
Perhaps, it was because your post was insensitive.
 
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Ugly

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If you are attempting to insult me, I hope you are ready to get your feelings hurt. I will avoid it because you are not a strong person and it is not my nature. You have really had it in for me when I indicated on one of your past thread that women over 30 would have a slimmer time in getting married. You took it very personal and always had a "snorty" remark to me when you would post to me.
*notices you didn't answer the question. Hmm....
 

seoulsearch

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If you are attempting to insult me, I hope you are ready to get your feelings hurt. I will avoid it because you are not a strong person and it is not my nature. You have really had it in for me when I indicated on one of your past thread that women over 30 would have a slimmer time in getting married. You took it very personal and always had a "snorty" remark to me when you would post to me.
The most interesting thing to me, and I do mean this in a respectful, but factual way, is being threatened with and told to prepare myself for emotional annihilation by someone who is, at the same time, trying to tell Christian women how they need to live and act, as well as what Christian men will expect from us (while chastising a Christian man who was trying to state his own viewpoints.)

Will a mature, Christian man threaten my feelings and then tell me he's being a gentleman to hold back because I'm too weak to handle it? I surely hope that's not the kind of Christian man whom God is preparing for me but I trust God has made me strong enough to handle whatever He has in store for me. After all, it's one of His promises. :) It just makes me terribly discouraged that... a person who would say these things and also see themselves as an authority in the matter of who we are to be in Christ, especially women.

And, this is exactly why I voice my thoughts in such matters... because it's disheartening to me to see a beat-down being handed out along with a lecture.

Chandler, I'm sorry for derailing your thread. I truly do appreciate all your thoughts. Thank you for giving us Christian women hope that there are kind, loving, Christian men out there. And yes. When we see that in you... I think we won't mind making you a sandwich at all. :)

In fact, for a Christian man like that, it would be a true privilege and honor.
 

Fenner

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I find it funny that Christians often argue about biblical topics and don't use scripture.

I also find it quite interesting that people are surprised when the crazies come out to play. I think it should be a singles forum requirement that if you want to discuss a biblical topic, then you MUST post scripture with it. If we do this then the crazies will visit us much less often.

I was curious as to what people thought the role of Husband is. That's all.
 

Fenner

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OK this thread started out normal, then got whacked while I was at the park with my kids and Husband. Mod's if you want to close it fine with me.
 
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biscuit

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Please, lighten up Bisquick! This woman is one of the nicest on this site. You would know this by reading her inspiring and most interesting posts. She is also one of the most respectful and meant no harm to you. I believe you to be a good man and that you might consider offering to her a sincere, contrite apology.
Sorry, if I am wrong I will apologize ... but in this case I am not. Have a nice trip to Hawaii.
 

DuchessAimee

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I was curious as to what people thought the role of Husband is. That's all.

My comment wasn't directed at you, and I apologize if you have been offended by it. It wasn't my intention. :)
 
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Please, lighten up Bisquick! This woman is one of the nicest on this site. You would know this by reading her inspiring and most interesting posts. She is also one of the most respectful and meant no harm to you. I believe you to be a good man and that you might consider offering to her a sincere, contrite apology.
"For there is no respect of persons with God" (Roman 2:11)

She has exhibited a mean-spirited streak towards me over the course of several threads. You can fall for the so-called fake kindness ... but I won't. I suggest you find & read her posts to me before you judge me.
 

DuchessAimee

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Sorry, if I am wrong I will apologize ... but in this case I am not. Have a nice trip to Hawaii.
You obviously don't think you're wrong, even though we can prove it as a community. So why bother to apologize at all?


Furthermore, the women of this community do not have to take your "truth" to heart because you haven't provided ANY scripture to back up your words. If you bothered to provide biblical proof that pertained to the topic, then you might be received better.
 

seoulsearch

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Oops Fenner, I'm so sorry... I thought Chandler had authored the thread because I had re-read his post a few times.

Very sorry for derailing--never meant for it to get this far.

Biscuit, you're entitled to how you feel, and I wish you the best.
 
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biscuit

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You obviously don't think you're wrong, even though we can prove it as a community. So why bother to apologize at all?


Furthermore, the women of this community do not have to take your "truth" to heart because you haven't provided ANY scripture to back up your words. If you bothered to provide biblical proof that pertained to the topic, then you might be received better.
I really could care less what you or board members think of me.
 
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biscuit

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Oops Fenner, I'm so sorry... I thought Chandler had authored the thread because I had re-read his post a few times.

Very sorry for derailing--never meant for it to get this far.

Biscuit, you're entitled to how you feel, and I wish you the best.
I wish you the best also.
 

DuchessAimee

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I really could care less what you or board members think of me.

That's of course not true because you were sure to tell me about it. What is with people like you (the rah rah men! camp and the overly zealous feminists)? You all are far too sensitive. Just chill and go with the flow, man.
 
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biscuit

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That's of course not true because you were sure to tell me about it. What is with people like you (the rah rah men! camp and the overly zealous feminists)? You all are far too sensitive. Just chill and go with the flow, man.
Just do your homework before you judge.
 

seoulsearch

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And hers is not?????
I do honestly believe I asked a valid question.

And in return, I never back away from a question or accusation pointed at myself, either.
 

gypsygirl

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but I don't see why it's wrong to state that men aren't perfect either.

I think it is the Christian way to be neutral to preserve the peace. It is no secret that some women posters feel comfortable criticizing men but deeply offended when we criticize women. I believe we call it the "double standards."
I prefer he use neutrality to get his point across. If not, then I will hold him accountable.:)
i'm glad you mentioned accountability.

if i'm not mistaken, this is a thread about the husband's role, right? i think the comments were specific to that subject, and relevant in the sense that we are discussing husbands, and specific to one's personal views.

i would respectfully point out that you seem to be quick to belabor the plight of the downtrodden man underfoot the so-called "modern woman". everyone here seems to understand that men, women and families in general have paid a high price for the fallen world. nobody here is bashing men.

i could easily list several threads, in which you have criticized, openly insulted and generally offered nothing but highly biased feedback painting women in general as self-serving people who want to gang up on poor unsuspecting men and steal their lunch money.

suffice it to say, wherever women are being schooled, advised, criticized, or any other random "9 steps to being a good, modest, mature christian woman", you're there, sharing your piece about women from what appears to be a pretty cynical, critical world view.

i would kindly ask you to reconsider throwing around the terms "double standard" or "neutrality". or accountability.

i understand your views have been largely formed through the lens of your own perceptions, and and i am also willing to acknowledge that perhaps you are even unaware of the fact that you appear to hold such an obvious bias. but you cannot come here and cry about wanting neutrality, when you seem to be blinded by your own inability to recognize this concept.

on separate note, i'm grateful that we have several godly men whose words and character offer encouragement and reflect Christ's love and words in their deeds.


 
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biscuit

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i'm glad you mentioned accountability.

if i'm not mistaken, this is a thread about the husband's role, right? i think the comments were specific to that subject, and relevant in the sense that we are discussing husbands, and specific to one's personal views.

i would respectfully point out that you seem to be quick to belabor the plight of the downtrodden man underfoot the so-called "modern woman". everyone here seems to understand that men, women and families in general have paid a high price for the fallen world. nobody here is bashing men.

i could easily list several threads, in which you have criticized, openly insulted and generally offered nothing but highly biased feedback painting women in general as self-serving people who want to gang up on poor unsuspecting men and steal their lunch money.

suffice it to say, wherever women are being schooled, advised, criticized, or any other random "9 steps to being a good, modest, mature christian woman", you're there, sharing your piece about women from what appears to be a pretty cynical, critical world view.

i would kindly ask you to reconsider throwing around the terms "double standard" or "neutrality". or accountability.

i understand your views have been largely formed through the lens of your own perceptions, and and i am also willing to acknowledge that perhaps you are even unaware of the fact that you appear to hold such an obvious bias. but you cannot come here and cry about wanting neutrality, when you seem to be blinded by your own inability to recognize this concept.

on separate note, i'm grateful that we have several godly men whose words and character offer encouragement and reflect Christ's love and words in their deeds.


All I can say is if you find me offensive either scroll down to the next post or put me on ignore. It's just that simple.