IS Friendship between man and woman possible

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djness

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Absolutely possible as long as there is no attraction.
I was friends with my pastors daughter for years and we never once felt any attraction. We were great friends. It was like hanging out with a guy who wore dresses:)
If there is any attraction though, even the least little bit then it is better to not torture yourself and don't try to be friends.
 
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MadParrotWoman

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Haha, interesting. Note they are all in the same age group though. Personally I think it depends on what the friendship is based on. I also think it's more possible for Christians to be just friends as we are answerable to a higher authority. As the vid suggests though it's probably more difficult for young men.
 
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SeaEagleLady

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#24
Oh wow,.. really? ...REALLY? ..we can't be just friends?.. well,.. maybe the men out in the world can't be, but the sincere christian guys can? ..hopefully.
 

ChandlerFan

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I feel like this question will still be asked 2000 years in the future haha. I also think way more women than men probably would say this is possible.

I do believe it's possible, yes, because I have had some good female friends who I just never really considered asking out, and I highly doubt they ever had romantic feelings for me either. I think what made it easier though is that I didn't often hang out with them one-on-one. We were always hanging out in groups. I think if a guy and a girl hang out frequently on a one-on-one basis, it's going to become difficult to stay just friends. It's almost inevitable that at least one of them is going to develop feelings for the other, and once that happens, the friendship will never quite be the same (for better or for worse). That's just because the nature of relationships is that they never go stagnant--you are either growing closer or you are growing farther apart. A man and woman can only grow so close together before they reach a crossroads where they have to decide where things are going to go. They can either continue to grow closer, which inevitably is going to mean becoming more than friends, or they decide to be "just friends" in which case there is probably going to be some regression in the friendship.

I'm not saying this is true for every single person ever, but I'd confidently say it's the case for like 99% of people haha.
 
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biscuit

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#26
As long as it is reciprocal : "no free rides"
 
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Roh_Chris

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Yes, it is possible. I have a few girl friends and it has stayed that way for many years. But yes, it has always been in a group setting. I think it is more difficult to stay as friends if it is not in a group.
 

tourist

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I feel like this question will still be asked 2000 years in the future haha. I also think way more women than men probably would say this is possible.

I do believe it's possible, yes, because I have had some good female friends who I just never really considered asking out, and I highly doubt they ever had romantic feelings for me either. I think what made it easier though is that I didn't often hang out with them one-on-one. We were always hanging out in groups. I think if a guy and a girl hang out frequently on a one-on-one basis, it's going to become difficult to stay just friends. It's almost inevitable that at least one of them is going to develop feelings for the other, and once that happens, the friendship will never quite be the same (for better or for worse). That's just because the nature of relationships is that they never go stagnant--you are either growing closer or you are growing farther apart. A man and woman can only grow so close together before they reach a crossroads where they have to decide where things are going to go. They can either continue to grow closer, which inevitably is going to mean becoming more than friends, or they decide to be "just friends" in which case there is probably going to be some regression in the friendship.

I'm not saying this is true for every single person ever, but I'd confidently say it's the case for like 99% of people haha.
This is an outstanding post that also truly reflects my opinion on this topic of discussion. I am in exactly this type of situation right now.
 
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ww_21

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#30
Some of my best friends are of the opposite gender. I just tend to get along with guys more than I do women.
 
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RubenAlejandro

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#33
Yes , sincere Christian guys can be friends , I really don´t know how many can eventually be friends when it comes to
having special feelings with a christian woman , but it is yet in that case possible , maybe for very few guys in the last case .
 
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Shouryu

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#34
Do you guys believe in man&woman friendship :confused:
Yes.

I have, like, a billion platonic friends.

Maybe I'm exaggerating. Half a billion.




But seriously, I have so many women friends that I have absolutely NO romantic interest in, it's ludicrous. I collect platonic friends like no one's business. I suppose it's possible that some of them may have romantic leanings towards me, but if so, not many, and not often. *shrug*
 
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jeremyPJ

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I have a good lady friend in my church, and that's all it is. I am going to miss her though, she's moving away.
 

simplysweet

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I do believe! i have lots if guys friends who are like brothers to me! and we have been like that for years already. never had an awkward feeling with them
 
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Yes, very possible,
ive got more female friends then guys.
 
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musicguy85

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#38
I do think it's possible. A lot of times it can be very difficult, and sometimes feelings do get in the way. Even worse is often the expectations put on a male/female friendship from outsiders looking in.
 
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Ugly

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#39
Oh. A 3 minute Youtube video. That will answer everything.