Hypothetic scenario based on real events:
She sat there cladly dressed.
She had every insecurity on show yet manage to so tightly saturate herself in garments of pride and bravado with an undertone of lies. More than anything she was lying to herself. "I'm so done with men!" she exclaimed. "They're all the same. I'm always here. I'm always in this situation. Why do they all cheat? Why are they never faithful? Why can't I keep them happy?" with every question her tone became more and more timid as she began to well up with tears and unravelling the layers of pride and scorning stubbornness. "What's wrong with me?" The four words that resonated with every woman within earshot.
The tears quickly dried up as began to reclothe herself in pride and selfish-gain as though the cold harsh realities of her situation were beginning to burn her skin like fierce winters night. "I don't get it. In the start they're the sweetest guys ever. They restore my faith in men, only to shatter it again down the line. They have me believing that chivalry isn't dead and I end up falling for them hard but it's all a lie isn't it? It's all a massive game to them. They lie and cheat! Every single one of them! If a guy says he doesn't lie, it's only because HE'S LYING! Well never again!"
Do this sound familiar? Maybe it sounds like you.
I wish I had a remedy...a starter pack....a formulae for discerning whether or not a guy is a liar. A way to tell if down the line he's going to completely change from the guy you fell in love with; he began to lie and cheat, he became abusive, he became aggressive.
I don't think there is a formulae but what I strongly advise is to not "give it up" so quickly. I'm not talking about sex. I'm talking about you. You mannerisms, you personality, your facets, your intricacies etc. Often you can sift out the boys from the men by simply making him wait. Boys throw their toys out of the pram, where as men are patient and diligent.
Don't be so quick to let people get close to you. Make them wait, make them work, make them sweat.
I understand this thread is quite gender specific in its wording.....sorry about that. The roles are easily reversible. So ladies AND gents, what are you ways of making someone wait, making them work, and making them sweat? What scenarios have you found yourself in where you've had to take the reigns and make someone sweat a little bit.
It's so easy to get caught up in infatuation and get carried away in a crush, get twisted up in someones words. What are your tips for taking control and taking charge?
She sat there cladly dressed.
She had every insecurity on show yet manage to so tightly saturate herself in garments of pride and bravado with an undertone of lies. More than anything she was lying to herself. "I'm so done with men!" she exclaimed. "They're all the same. I'm always here. I'm always in this situation. Why do they all cheat? Why are they never faithful? Why can't I keep them happy?" with every question her tone became more and more timid as she began to well up with tears and unravelling the layers of pride and scorning stubbornness. "What's wrong with me?" The four words that resonated with every woman within earshot.
The tears quickly dried up as began to reclothe herself in pride and selfish-gain as though the cold harsh realities of her situation were beginning to burn her skin like fierce winters night. "I don't get it. In the start they're the sweetest guys ever. They restore my faith in men, only to shatter it again down the line. They have me believing that chivalry isn't dead and I end up falling for them hard but it's all a lie isn't it? It's all a massive game to them. They lie and cheat! Every single one of them! If a guy says he doesn't lie, it's only because HE'S LYING! Well never again!"
Do this sound familiar? Maybe it sounds like you.
I wish I had a remedy...a starter pack....a formulae for discerning whether or not a guy is a liar. A way to tell if down the line he's going to completely change from the guy you fell in love with; he began to lie and cheat, he became abusive, he became aggressive.
I don't think there is a formulae but what I strongly advise is to not "give it up" so quickly. I'm not talking about sex. I'm talking about you. You mannerisms, you personality, your facets, your intricacies etc. Often you can sift out the boys from the men by simply making him wait. Boys throw their toys out of the pram, where as men are patient and diligent.
Don't be so quick to let people get close to you. Make them wait, make them work, make them sweat.
I understand this thread is quite gender specific in its wording.....sorry about that. The roles are easily reversible. So ladies AND gents, what are you ways of making someone wait, making them work, and making them sweat? What scenarios have you found yourself in where you've had to take the reigns and make someone sweat a little bit.
It's so easy to get caught up in infatuation and get carried away in a crush, get twisted up in someones words. What are your tips for taking control and taking charge?
