Does It Always Feel Like You're Living or Waiting For "Someday"?

[seoulsearch]

Everyone has their struggles. It can be hard for people without depression to understand, and likewise, it's hard for me to know what "normal" people must feel. Depression has always been like a second shadow to me. I've often wondered if it's something I inherited from my biological parents, particularly my birth mother. I have often wondered if what I feel is something she passed on to me, and if it's how she felt while she was carrying me.

And according to every doctor/counselor I've ever seen, I don't qualify as bipolar because I don't have the manic episodes as defined by the DSM, or at least, by their standards. I'm extremely responsible no matter what (only by the grace of God) so they don't see me as particularly needing "help" in that area.

I have to smile because at some point... Maybe someone will give me some credit along the way? In that... I know more about myself than you might think. And have even had it confirmed. Not that I'm not always learning, but...

I guess I have to work on a better portrayal of knowing who I am, such as in the other threads in which people have offered to teach me various things or point out things about myself or tell me how I need to change my life... I'm always a bit taken aback that they don't seem to realize that I might, just might , already have some experience in those areas instead of always kind of automatically assuming I just don't know.

One of my other passions is that I believe God has given me a strong sense of who I am, and who I am not, and I always want to help other people find out who they are as well.

I was thinking too of another thread in which various other posters told me they'd "teach me how to cook" and I know they had the best intentions at heart, but the truth is, I've done some experiments in cooking on my own... not that I don't have tons to learn and would love to learn from others, but... I do have my own body of life experience as well, so I'm not sure why people often seem to assume I know nothing about certain topics... or my own life.

I'm always open to learning . I just hope people will also take the time to ask me what I already know first and not always start at ground zero.

 

[rachelsedge]

Seoul!! I almost made a topic like this a week or two ago when I was feeling down. I just felt like everything I "want" is someday for me.

Someday I will be out of debt.
Someday I will have my own place.
Someday a man will pursue me.
Someday I will be married.
Someday I will be a mother.
Someday I will be fit.
Someday I will travel.

Some of those things are within my control (putting money towards debt/not spending, eating healthier/exercising to get fit), but some of them aren't (being pursued, getting married, being a mother, etc.).

And I know I'm only 25 and this is a typical feeling for people my age or whatever, but it's still hard. Especially when it seems like a lot of people I know are moving in that direction or already there.

I suppose it's perspective. I just have to take it day by day and do what I can with what I have, and enjoy what I have been given instead of longing for more.

 

[jsr1221]

Seoul!! I almost made a topic like this a week or two ago when I was feeling down. I just felt like everything I "want" is someday for me.

Someday I will be out of debt.
Someday I will have my own place.
Someday a man will pursue me.
Someday I will be married.
Someday I will be a mother.
Someday I will be fit.
Someday I will travel.

Some of those things are within my control (putting money towards debt/not spending, eating healthier/exercising to get fit), but some of them aren't (being pursued, getting married, being a mother, etc.).

And I know I'm only 25 and this is a typical feeling for people my age or whatever, but it's still hard. Especially when it seems like a lot of people I know are moving in that direction or already there.

I suppose it's perspective. I just have to take it day by day and do what I can with what I have, and enjoy what I have been given instead of longing for more.

I am in the same exact situation as you are and have been asking for the same things (except being a mother, obviously). I think we get so frustrated and just want to control the situation in some way. While you're right we can monitor our situations in some ways, it is God that's always in control. I will be praying that God leads you out of debt, and you can slowly start mainting a healthy life for yourself, so you can one day meet the man God may have in store for you to pursue you. No matter the situation, always know Jesus is there to carry you through it.

 

[blue_ladybug]

I wait for "someday" EVERY DAY.. :/

 

[cinder]

Today is SOME day! or not

 

[Lynx]

Someday I will have a phone with 4G LTE data speed. In about a week, unless I can get expedited shipping.

 

[Liamson]

Doing the same thing over and over, looking for a different result is insanity.


If you want to find buried treasure, digging holes in your backyard probably isn't going to work. You can keep digging, because its comfortable, it confirms your prejudices, and it makes you "Feel" accomplished.




If you are not willing to change your expectations, your behavior or your target, your results will not vary.

 

[Jeff_56]

I wait for "someday" EVERY DAY.. :/

today is the day.

see the messiah about it.

 

[Jeff_56]

I don't even know what I hope for anymore except the Lord taking us home. I feel like I have no future, no retirement, no end in sight in my life. I cannot wait to get out of here because there is really nothing in my life that is any fun or a hint of anything better.

remember the lady bent over/ with infirmity all her life until the day yahshua set her free from satan ?

read that over and over again, and start looking/ watching every day and asking the father to let you see

someone today, any day, every day alert to see someone who has been bound by satan 20 years set free !!!

maybe 'today' you'll see someone bound by satan only 2 days; or 2 years, or 30 or 50 or 80 years (many visitors to this site have been);
ask yahweh (God) to let you see someone set free. it's a good expectation and hope and joy always in yahshua(yahweh's salvation)

instead of not believing God can do it, instead of thinking God's on vacation - great expectations in Christ

are good and He never disappoints those of us who trust and rely on Him. (even though we may indeed suffer
and
need to endure persecution and even 'grate' troubles for horus, dayus, weekus, yearus, and decadeus ) ) ..
if that is so, yahweh knows perfectly and uses all of everything for our good in christ jesus.

 

[SaintJoeNow]

Hey Everyone,

As Christians, we often criticize the world for "living for today". However, I've noticed that in my own Christian life, it often feel like I'm just holding on for a "someday" that always seems too far away.

When I was in my teens and 20's, I used to think, "Well, maybe someday... I'll get married... have a family... raise kids..." And then the years go by... and someday never comes. Yes, I know God can do anything. Yes, I know about Abraham and Sarah having children long past their prime. But the truth is, my ambitions have changed, and I no longer have a desire to raise a family. I'm happier lending support to other parents who are trying to raise their own families.

Because of the situations God has put me in, my sights have now changed. I have a great desire to join and serve in small groups, write letters of support to people, travel as much as possible and talk to all kinds of people about their situations... I see places and causes and activities in the media, in newsletters and on flyers... that I would love to be a part of... But in the back my mind, that old familiar phrase--and piercing twinge of sadness--immediately comes to mind: "Maybe someday..." "OOOHHH, look, a class for pottery or stained glass or crochet!!! Well... maybe someday..." "WOW, this documentary on the UK looks AMAZING!!! Well, maybe someday..." "Lord, I really miss writing inmates but I haven't been able to find a ministry that's a good match for me... Well... maybe someday." "God, I'm really... I mean... I just came home and all I hear are the echoes of my keys as I throw them on the table and it's been like this for years and I'd really like to have someone to talk to but... Well, maybe someday. If it's your will."

And then I always wonder if I should even bother looking at or thinking about such things, because maybe it's just another someday that will never come, and I'm simply wasting (God's) time. I've tried very hard to participate in some things now but as my life currently stands, I am unable to. I have tried to be part of a small group and volunteer team at my church but due to an ever-rotating work schedule, am unable to attend the rehearsals and requirements. And to be perfectly honest, in the leftover time I do have after catching up on everyday life... I'm exhausted.

I often feel as if all I'm living for is a "someday" that, again, may never come, and there is a lot of sadness and emptiness along the way, because I feel like I'm not doing anything, or contributing anything, or even making my own choices in life. The good counsel of "victorious Christian living" tells us that the very pinnacle of our faith as Christians is that "someday" we will get to be with God permanently... and I often tell God, "Lord, is the whole purpose of the Christian life simply living to die? Because that's what it feels like. I know it's your will for us to work and earn a living, but the only sure thing I can count on is dying and being with you. SOMEDAY." Everyone tells us to "share the Gospel with others" and I think to myself, "So... my whole point in living... is telling other people that they too can live of life of trying to strive for a perfection they'll never reach and live long enough to die for a 'someday' in which they, too, can go to heaven..."

To me, at least, life is always about "someday"... which can make all of the "today's", with their never-ending obligations and daily challenges, seem very long and tiresome. I often have thoughts that I could live another 50 years... and in that entire time, I'll always be waiting for "someday's", most of which are completely unknown and certainly not guaranteed.

This passage runs through my mind quite frequently and is something I often pray to God about: Proverbs 13:12 -- "Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but when the desire comes, it is a tree of life."

I always tell God, "Lord, how can one truly live when their hope is constantly deferred?"

What about the rest of you? Do you always feel like you're waiting for "someday"? Has your someday never come, or did God eventually change the desires of your heart?

How do you personally cope with always having your hope deferred?

Our hope is to be in Jesus alone. The hope He gives cannot be deferred, it's a sure promise.
Real hope keeps us moving with joy of what lies ahead, the joy that makes any amout of suffering worth the bother...."waiting for the adoption, to wit, the redemption of our body. For we are saved by hope...." (Rom 8:23-26).

Heb 12:14

1 Cor 6:20

 

[SaintJoeNow]

I don't even know what I hope for anymore except the Lord taking us home. I feel like I have no future, no retirement, no end in sight in my life. I cannot wait to get out of here because there is really nothing in my life that is any fun or a hint of anything better.

I want to thank you for being honest and saying this, becaue I say the same thing to myself sometimes and have to talk myself out of it, and I say to myself, as I'm saying to you now....:


You're looking at things wrong, it's easy to look at things the way you are talking about. Jesus endured the sufferings and the cross because of the joy that was set before Him. He has a purpose for you here or He would take you out of here now. He prayed for us that our joy would be full. It's only sin that keeps us from experiencing the fullness of joy He gives if we keep in step with His Spirit's leading. We are always better than we deserve to be in this world, and we can always be thankful we are not getting what we deserve in the fire of Hell, and we can always be amazed at the great price of blood paid for us to save us from Hell when we deserve the death He took for us.

 

[zeroturbulence]

I used to wait and hope for someday and I even took steps towards making it happen, but now I've come to realize and accept that maybe my story simply doesn't have a happy ending.

 

[SaintJoeNow]

I used to wait and hope for someday and I even took steps towards making it happen, but now I've come to realize and accept that maybe my story simply doesn't have a happy ending.

sounds like you need to be saved

 

[seoulsearch]

sounds like you need to be saved

He already is saved Joe, and a regular member here who shows abundant compassion to others, unlike... so many others on this site.

And I'll thank you in advance for please not judging the salvation or faith of others in this thread.

 

[zeroturbulence]

sounds like you need to be saved

Nope. Its certainly not that.

 

[zeroturbulence]

He already is saved Joe, and a regular member here who shows abundant compassion to others, unlike... so many others on this site.

And I'll thank you in advance for please not judging the salvation or faith of others in this thread.

I thought this too at first, but he also may have just been making a suggestion. But thanks for the kind words, Kim.

 

[seoulsearch]

I thought this too at first, but he also may have just been making a suggestion. But thanks for the kind words, Kim.

If you've read his other threads, Zero, his only "suggestions" are calling other people names and judging them without knowing anything about them. He also likes to repeat the same things over and over about how he won't read statements that are antagonistic to his own views, which he deems infallible.

And nothing gets my goat faster than seeing one of my friends being judged, insulted, or worst of all, both at the same time.

 

[zeroturbulence]

If you've read his other threads, Zero, his only "suggestions" are calling other people names and judging them without knowing anything about them. He also likes to repeat the same things over and over about how he won't read statements that are antagonistic to his own views, which he deems infallible.

And nothing gets my goat faster than seeing one of my friends being judged, insulted, or worst of all, both at the same time.

Yea, I know he made the ungodly music thread, to which I am still waiting to know what I win.. and I really appreciate you sticking up for me But I still try to give the benefit of the doubt whenever possible, but that's just me..

 

[seoulsearch]

Yea, I know he made the ungodly music thread, to which I am still waiting to know what I win.. and I really appreciate you sticking up for me But I still try to give the benefit of the doubt whenever possible, but that's just me..

And that's something I admire about you, Zero. There are many times when I've seen you extend grace and patience to those here who fail to grant the same courtesy to others. It's something I need to learn and work on, I know.

You're not nearly as hot-headed as I am .

But seriously, I have a very soft (and fiery) spot for people who get bullied, judged, or criticized by others who don't even know them, nor do they bother taking the time to get to know the person.

And I am especially trigger-happy when the person being picked on is someone who is a good friend who has talked with and prayed for me during my own times of distress.

 

[tourist]

sounds like you need to be saved

He is already saved but perhaps he is saving himself for that special woman that will complement his life by being his wife.