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blue_ladybug

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All ready for church ... just kicking around until my friend Christine picks me up in about 15 minutes ... the sun is shining although a bit cooler today and for the rest of the week the weather network says and then hot again next week. Boo! Be gone old man winter! We welcome hot sun, pretty flowers, green grass, chirping birds, the sweet smell of bbq's, and most of all ... happy people!! :)



roxxy, this is for you. From one flower to another. :)


Heather-meaning.jpg heather kitties.jpg ......... :eek:
 

JesusLives

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Attagirl! Let's have a bad/messy hairday today:p
Blond is in ladies....ponytail in place.....will probably be a pool day shortly when daughter arrives....if she is a no show mom is going to pool anyway....will drag hubby with me.....he thinks it is still too cold....(not really).....but there is a hot tub for his swimming/sitting pleasure.....Pool party at Blond's/tourist's Messy hair welcome.
 

kodiak

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Blond is in ladies....ponytail in place.....will probably be a pool day shortly when daughter arrives....if she is a no show mom is going to pool anyway....will drag hubby with me.....he thinks it is still too cold....(not really).....but there is a hot tub for his swimming/sitting pleasure.....Pool party at Blond's/tourist's Messy hair welcome.
Oh no.....not the attack of the bubbles again..... :p
 
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skylove7

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Pardon me beautiful Christians.....may I say briefly....I am merely the reason....there is more bran, than raisins...in your Raisin Bran... Please forgive me,...and I thank you! :)
 
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skylove7

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You sure you're not my wife's twin ? That's her M/O til' I brew a fresh pot for her. :) Sometimes I wait a few extra minutes just to watch her enjoy that first cup of instant :cool:
Ohhhh...Keepitsimple! I must say I am going to delight in someday,...seeing my true love,...enjoy watching me drink instant coffee! Hahaha...how romantic! :)
 
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WolfGaming

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BWHAHAHAAHHAHAH I hope to go to starbuks with my true love ahhhhhh just think LOL




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jennymae

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I need a rope so I can find my way out of the mass bubbles....have you ever made a pool fill with bubbles?
Judging from your choice of career, wouldn't a legal ROBE be a better choice?:p
 

kodiak

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Judging from your choice of career, wouldn't a legal ROBE be a better choice?:p
Lol, I was thinking tie a rope to me and to something outside of the bubbles, then dive in and save you all.......but if you would rather, I can stand there in a legal robe talking to the bubbles...:p
 
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jennymae

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Lol, I was thinking tie a rope to me and to something outside of the bubbles, then dive in and save you all.......but if you would rather, I can stand there in a legal robe talking to the bubbles...:p
No problem, you gonna face a whole mess of them in a court room:p
 

Angela53510

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REALLY sad tonight. Had a beautiful day out with my BFF for lunch and shopping again today. Came home with a pounder of a headache so laid down for a little nap in which I hardly slept. The sun was shining and it was relatively warm, therefore people are out walking their dogs etc so my dogs barked their heads off keeping me mostly awake. :) Hubby was outside all day .. working in the yard, trimming trees, burning brush, raking the yard and all of that fun stuff. He really is a very hard worker. I got up and began spring cleaning oh yet again, and he comes in ... (of course ... sipping on beer all day/eve) and begins to talk stupid talk. The talk that I detest coming from him. I again blew up cuz he knows how to push me ... and outside he goes again. He came in and had a shower, and said that was it ... that he was coming in and we could have dinner ... he was going to bbq sausages. He went outside and had a few more beer ... and doesn't his buddy Shaun show up and I sit here and watch them drink out on the deck. He came in and said "Oh! Let's order a pizza instead! Is it ok if I sit outside with Shaun? He just showed up and I'm not going to kick him out!" I said whatever. He is outside having a good old time again with his buddy.

Ya know folks, I really feel bad complaining about him all of the time cuz even though he has a drinking problem and he's a jerk most of the time when he drinks ... he honestly IS an awesome guy. He would go ballistic if he knew I was writing this about him. He treats me EXCELLENT when he is not drinking, and when sober, we get along so great. He is off now until Tuesday. Monday is our 10th Anniversary. I wish he would quit his drinking soooooo bad.

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Do you go to Al-Anon? It is a support group for the spouses of people with drinking problems. I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this. Praying for you to be safe, and for your husband to recognize how his drinking affects you.

And some big virtual hugs!
 
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Psalm39

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Hi all, here again!

I am bit confused at the moment. Yesterday I was celebrating the birthday of a dear friend of mine. During the eveningsomeone came up with the idea of having my birthday party next, as it is on its way.

I have never had a birthday party since I was nine-years-old, and I am utterly baffled by this. How are people supposed to host birthday celebrations and all... I am social butterfly as long as I am not the center of attention. When I am, I just slip away from the situation.

Soo-ooo confuuuuseed~~
 
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VioletReigns

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I would be the last person to advocate anybody remain in an abusive situation ... verbal or otherwise. But I do sense that his outbursts when drinking are a result of his fragile male pride being hurt. His attacking words seem to be saying as much from where I'm reading. I am fairly convinced that he's feeling inadequate ... and that this inadequacy has now been exposed to others. Not an easy thing for a man to live up to ... and face. And also not necessarily true. But in his mind, I'm guessing this is how he's viewing it and thinking that this is how others might be seeing it as well. For the short term Heather, I would try my best to reassure him of your sorrow and regret for the past ... and tell him that you are willing to give him some time to heal and learn to trust you once again. But also make it clear that this doesn't mean that you are willing to put up with nor condone his drunken' tirades while the two of you go thru the healing process. This will establish your genuine repentance and your desire to leave the past behind where it belongs ... but will also reaffirm in his mind that you are neither willing nor able to endure any further torment from him. In simpler terms, he needs to know ... 1) That you are genuinely sorry for past mistakes (and he should by now, I would think) and ... 2) That you can't and won't tolerate his constant reminders of such whenever he's had a few too many drinks. I wouldn't throw in the towel just yet. But I would remain firm ... loving ... and also vigilant in this regard. You and he are in my prayers dear sis'.

Please bear with me, folks for being a bit serious as my heart is toward our sister Roxxy/Heather in her intense battle.

Though this sounds like great advice, beloved brother keepitsimple, except it's suggesting a wounded soldier of God to go into a battle to try and reason with the enemy. The enemy is not her husband. The enemy is alcohol and unforgiveness. Her husband is blinded by the devil and he needs to get help ASAP. She cannot be expected to be beat up emotionally over & over again till he decides to get help. She has the authority in Jesus Christ to say, "NO! I will not submit to lies anymore!"

Yes, she can forgive her husband because he doesn't know what he's doing. But she does not have to keep being his punching bag because he doesn't trust God yet. He has no reason to turn to the Lord because what he's doing is working for him. He has his wife as an excuse to drink and act out his anger and unforgiveness. He needs a reason to STOP and be afraid to continue in that behavior.

Every situation is different and every marriage has its own dynamics. But in every single case of abuse, the weapons are all the same. http://www.ncdsv.org/images/powercontrolwheelnoshading.pdf

I was on the board of directors for an advocates against abuse organization representing women (and a few men, too) who were under great pressure by their church to "just trust God and forgive your spouse." I would suggest to those abused by their church to tell them this, "If you feel so sorry for my spouse and feel love will change them, LET HIM (OR HER) LIVE WITH YOU AND YOU TAKE THE ABUSE!" I can assure you, they won't do it.

The simple fact is, if the abusive spouse took their anger out like that on a neighbor, their boss, a co-worker, or even a policeman, they would get arrested. Why? Because it's against the law. It's HARASSMENT. Why would we tell a wife or husband to keep allowing a crime to occur in their home? That's just nonsense. And it's putting the victim in jeopardy.

Our beloved sister needs us to love and support her in her precious new walk in the Lord. She should be encouraged to get counseling and make a wise plan to get the point across that this fighting has to stop. Her safety, her peace of mind, and her physical needs should be considered.

There are many organizations which offer help in steering her in the right direction to restore order and safety in her life. We should stand behind whatever decision she makes. and we should PRAY AND TRUST GOD FOR HER SITUATION. The Lord is with her always and whatever decision she makes, JESUS is in it with her. The Lord is able to save her husband but her husband needs the rug pulled out to look to God. That rug is abuse. It needs to stop now.

Heather has the right to "Shake yourself from the dust; arise (from captivity), and sit down (at Jesus' feet), O Jerusalem: loose yourself from the bands of your neck, O captive daughter of Zion." GOD SAYS SO!
 
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JustAnotherUser

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Hi all, here again!

I am bit confused at the moment. Yesterday I was celebrating the birthday of a dear friend of mine. During the eveningsomeone came up with the idea of having my birthday party next, as it is on its way.

I have never had a birthday party since I was nine-years-old, and I am utterly baffled by this. How are people supposed to host birthday celebrations and all... I am social butterfly as long as I am not the center of attention. When I am, I just slip away from the situation.

Soo-ooo confuuuuseed~~
Good question. Last I had a birthday party was when I was probably nine or ten and never really celebrated since.

Diner outings would probably be a decent idea.
 
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cmarieh

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I need to ask for prayer and I apologize for doing this because it seems as though I have been asking for this quite often. Yesterday, I was taking some of my textbooks upstairs along with my computer and my slipper slipped off and I fell going upstairs landing on my side. I didn't realize how much I was hurt until I woke up this morning. FYI: This happens quite a bit.
 

tourist

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Omg dear Jesus make it stop right now! I asked him to come to church tomorrow and he goes nuts. Swearing at me and asking me if that day I went to the pastor, did I tell him that 'you were ........ all these guys behind my back?" And I answered yes, I repented of my sins and told him of my infidelity ... and he said "well Im not going there and sitting beside u while he looks at me like Im an a&&hole!!"
He says "u might as well go #$/^ him!! Please Father make him go to sleep right now .. please Lord!
This is horrible.