I see them as both being equally destructive. It is not trying to minimize or make an excuse for porn. No way. Porn is still evil and a sin and can send someone to Hell if they refuse to repent of such a sin. The point I am trying to make is that Jesus says in His Word there are greater sins. He actually uses those words. Greater sin. So not all sins are the same. Jesus mentions that there is a blasphmeous sin that is unforgivable. There are sins that do not lead unto death (1 John 5:16-18). There are hidden and secret faults. To say that a woman would not be more upset by them cheating on them with an actual woman are just lying. I know I would be more upset with my future wife if she were to cheat on me versus her having a moment of weakness on the internet. The two are both acts of adultery but they both are not the same kind level of sin, though. For John equates hate with murder. Surely hating someone is not as bad as murder.
i never called all sins equal, and i agree that there is difference in sin. that is bibically founded.
but you are ignoring my point that the loss felt by porn addiction is more than just simple cheating.
see, i look at habitual sin as a larger issue. and the effort and deception required to hide a porn addiction is a lot greater betrayal that one night of cheating. i would be loath to consider either of them great options to choose from, but if you asked me whether i'd rather have to face one night of cheating when my husband was travelling, vs. his keeping a porn addiction from me for 6 months and all the fallout that would bring upon us, as a couple, i'd rather have to deal with the former, not the latter.
oh, and as a general rule, a lot of women find emotional cheating far more painful than sexual cheating. but i understand that most men aren't going to agree with that.
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