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Heaven knows i've tried to keep my mouth shut from replying to this thread. Please don't pour salt in his wounds. We need to be here for him. Not condemn him anymore. What's done is done...There is a time to be on someone's case about their mistakes, and I think that time has passed.
Levi all you can do now is learn from this. You're 14. Don't have sex and if you do wear protection because now you know the absolute worse case in which can happen if you don't.
Wolfie - this isn't coming from the adults - this is coming from me - a teen and someone I hope you think is a gentle person.
I hope you respect me enough when I ask you not to comment in the way you have any further. Your remarks are cruel. I'll chat in the teen room with you and say more about this with you. Right now the time ISNT to preach. For god sake stop it.
I hope you respect me enough when I ask you not to comment in the way you have any further. Your remarks are cruel. I'll chat in the teen room with you and say more about this with you. Right now the time ISNT to preach. For god sake stop it.
M
I've had a quick look through this thread and I am a bit dismayed at
some of the comments made. Some have been helpful others have
been appalling in my opinion.
Here we have two young people not quite children but definitely not
adults.
The best advice people could have given was for this young man to
seek advice and possibly counselling from his own locality.
For the record when a teen becomes pregnant in this situation (or for that
matter a grown adult woman and she wants an abortion in the UK), the father
has no rights at all and cannot prevent it. In this particular situation it would
have been between her and her parents so much of the advice about going
to pastors going to church etc was pretty pointless.
All it has done is caused this young man more distress and don't you
think he is fully aware of the awfulness of this situation.
Levi my heart goes out to you both, please see if you can speak to your parents
about how you feel. If not, is there another trusted adult you can speak to, a teacher
maybe. You can also speak to childline they have a freephone 0800 number or
you can look on there website below which also has the phone number.
This whole situation is too big sweetheart to deal with on your own. I realise the
deed is done but the pain won't be so quick to go away.
I think you realise by now that our actions have consequences hon. The difficulties
and consequences are one of the reasons why under age sex is illegal in the UK.
You have tried to be adult before you are ready, now you are going to have to grow
up a bit quicker than you might have done otherwise and learn from this - do you think
you can do that. You can come through this a stronger person and so can the young lady
if you both use this situation to change the way you think and become better people.
Your parents will be angry and upset for a while, you will have to just take that and
try to understand their position also. Maybe it would help to apologise to them and
show them what you have learnt from this.
I'm not sure whether you are a Christian or not, maybe it's not the right time to
put this to you, you say you don't go to church, presumably your parents don't
either. If you feel you want to know God then there will be local churches in your
area. More importantly prayer about what has happened. It might be something you
have not tried before but just talk to God and tell him how you feel. Ask him to
help you get through this and to bring people into your life who can help you. God
is real and he does answer prayer, although it's not always in the way we would expect.
It will take some time for you both to get over this hon, but you will both be able to.
Just use this situation to learn and grow. Life can be hard, most of the
adults on here will tell you that but the knocks of life can be used to change us for the
better and God will help you if you turn to him.
I remember reading a book ages ago where a boy and girl were walking along a path but it
was full of rocks and stones. The girl said it was too hard as there was no path. The boy said
sure there is, it's the bumps you are walking on. Don't know why but I feel you need to
hear that, life is bumpy you have just found out that a little earlier than most. Some of
those bumps we have no control over, sometimes we cause them ourselves. But it is
possible to learn from all of this.
It might help to write down your feelings on paper and decide now what you will do
to make sure this does not happen again.
Praying for you both - please speak to someone about how you are coping with this.
x
https://www.childline.org.uk/explore/Pages/Explore.aspx
some of the comments made. Some have been helpful others have
been appalling in my opinion.
Here we have two young people not quite children but definitely not
adults.
The best advice people could have given was for this young man to
seek advice and possibly counselling from his own locality.
For the record when a teen becomes pregnant in this situation (or for that
matter a grown adult woman and she wants an abortion in the UK), the father
has no rights at all and cannot prevent it. In this particular situation it would
have been between her and her parents so much of the advice about going
to pastors going to church etc was pretty pointless.
All it has done is caused this young man more distress and don't you
think he is fully aware of the awfulness of this situation.
Levi my heart goes out to you both, please see if you can speak to your parents
about how you feel. If not, is there another trusted adult you can speak to, a teacher
maybe. You can also speak to childline they have a freephone 0800 number or
you can look on there website below which also has the phone number.
This whole situation is too big sweetheart to deal with on your own. I realise the
deed is done but the pain won't be so quick to go away.
I think you realise by now that our actions have consequences hon. The difficulties
and consequences are one of the reasons why under age sex is illegal in the UK.
You have tried to be adult before you are ready, now you are going to have to grow
up a bit quicker than you might have done otherwise and learn from this - do you think
you can do that. You can come through this a stronger person and so can the young lady
if you both use this situation to change the way you think and become better people.
Your parents will be angry and upset for a while, you will have to just take that and
try to understand their position also. Maybe it would help to apologise to them and
show them what you have learnt from this.
I'm not sure whether you are a Christian or not, maybe it's not the right time to
put this to you, you say you don't go to church, presumably your parents don't
either. If you feel you want to know God then there will be local churches in your
area. More importantly prayer about what has happened. It might be something you
have not tried before but just talk to God and tell him how you feel. Ask him to
help you get through this and to bring people into your life who can help you. God
is real and he does answer prayer, although it's not always in the way we would expect.
It will take some time for you both to get over this hon, but you will both be able to.
Just use this situation to learn and grow. Life can be hard, most of the
adults on here will tell you that but the knocks of life can be used to change us for the
better and God will help you if you turn to him.
I remember reading a book ages ago where a boy and girl were walking along a path but it
was full of rocks and stones. The girl said it was too hard as there was no path. The boy said
sure there is, it's the bumps you are walking on. Don't know why but I feel you need to
hear that, life is bumpy you have just found out that a little earlier than most. Some of
those bumps we have no control over, sometimes we cause them ourselves. But it is
possible to learn from all of this.
It might help to write down your feelings on paper and decide now what you will do
to make sure this does not happen again.
Praying for you both - please speak to someone about how you are coping with this.
x
https://www.childline.org.uk/explore/Pages/Explore.aspx
T
Umm I understand what I said was very imiture of me and I feel very un Christ like I know there was no need for mt to speak the way I did do a brother in Christ.
When I read he post it is done it brings me to tears I am very sad by this whole thing and I felt like he did not quite know what it was he did so i acted not in the spirt but rather in the flesh and i am very sorry Levi.
i let my feeling get the better of me i get really well pashonit when it comes to the death of babes and this got to me a bit
and to TinTin i know he is aginst it but the part that he could have been part of this makes me very upset with many feeling and that's why i acted the way i did.
and i do agree with all of you i did go to fare i realize this now and i feel very ahamed i hope you all can come to forgive me but more than any i hope levi can forgive me
When I read he post it is done it brings me to tears I am very sad by this whole thing and I felt like he did not quite know what it was he did so i acted not in the spirt but rather in the flesh and i am very sorry Levi.
i let my feeling get the better of me i get really well pashonit when it comes to the death of babes and this got to me a bit
and to TinTin i know he is aginst it but the part that he could have been part of this makes me very upset with many feeling and that's why i acted the way i did.
and i do agree with all of you i did go to fare i realize this now and i feel very ahamed i hope you all can come to forgive me but more than any i hope levi can forgive me
I'm gonna add one more thing on this. A lot of people commented to Levi. Lots were constructive and lots weren't. To the ones that weren't (and I'm so tempted to point fingers), You guys at times did not act in the spirit of ths room - some frankly were miserable. I really dont care if any teen stuffs up horribly... you all need to say things in a more gentle and positive way. There were adults here who commented who were not constructive but instead sarcastic and abusive. If I could I'd slam the door on adults that come into the teen room with no intention of being constructive. As a teen I want feedback from adults but if you cant be supportive and cant be constructive and still guide using principles, then why do you bother coming here because all you do is make us block our ears and not respect you.
To the ones though that were here to help and not jeer - thank you - hugs
zoii
To the ones though that were here to help and not jeer - thank you - hugs
zoii