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atwhatcost

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Does anyone else know Blue's definition of a scary movie is Old Yeller or the Wizard of Oz? Just wondering, but don't let her know I am wondering.
 

blue_ladybug

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Does anyone else know Blue's definition of a scary movie is Old Yeller or the Wizard of Oz? Just wondering, but don't let her know I am wondering.

Puhleeze.. are you serious?! Old Yeller and Wizard of Oz are SCARY?!!! LOL, I don't think so. I go for the Scream series movies, Nightmare on Elm St., etc etc.. Incidentally the street I live on is Elm St. :( And in all truth, people in my city call this street "nightmare on elm st." because of it's bad reputation. :/ Lots of drug deals/dealers, suicides, vandalism, etc..

So in actuality, I live a real life scary movie everyday..lol..
 
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VioletReigns

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isn't there a bible verse that says we are supposed to push each other on to doing good deeds?

that seems to me to be an entirely different thing from how some christians seem to commiserate in sins they have not yet overcome...

Wait a minute........... you're telling us that we should push others to do good deeds... while at the same time you're judging the members who confess their weaknesses to one another as "commiserating in sins"?? OOPS! :eek:
 

JesusLives

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This is response to Lady Blue and her Elm Street living....

Don't go out after dark....

Did you see the scary movie out now I don't remember the title....something about don't go visit the grandparents or don't leave your room after 9:30? I'm thinking about going and seeing it....every one needs a little scare now and then....lol
 
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atwhatcost

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Puhleeze.. are you serious?! Old Yeller and Wizard of Oz are SCARY?!!! LOL, I don't think so. I go for the Scream series movies, Nightmare on Elm St., etc etc.. Incidentally the street I live on is Elm St. :( And in all truth, people in my city call this street "nightmare on elm st." because of it's bad reputation. :/ Lots of drug deals/dealers, suicides, vandalism, etc..

So in actuality, I live a real life scary movie everyday..lol..
Honestly? Oz terrified me so much as a kid (those flying monkeys were hideous ad they stole PUPPIES!) that I still get heart palpitation if someone just suggests we watch it.

And Old Yeller? I hate crying, so that's scary. They are my definitions of scary movies. (Nightmare on Elm Street, Halloween, etc. makes me go "Oh puhlease!" Alien terrified me. lol)

Oh. Oops! I guessed wrong on who thinks those movies are scary. That was me. Oops.
 
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atwhatcost

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This is response to Lady Blue and her Elm Street living....

Don't go out after dark....

Did you see the scary movie out now I don't remember the title....something about don't go visit the grandparents or don't leave your room after 9:30? I'm thinking about going and seeing it....every one needs a little scare now and then....lol
If you like being scared, I have a bathroom that needs to be cleaned.
 
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atwhatcost

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Wait a minute........... you're telling us that we should push others to do good deeds... while at the same time you're judging the members who confess their weaknesses to one another as "commiserating in sins"?? OOPS! :eek:
Ummm, yeah?!
 
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Honestly? Oz terrified me so much as a kid (those flying monkeys were hideous ad they stole PUPPIES!) that I still get heart palpitation if someone just suggests we watch it.

And Old Yeller? I hate crying, so that's scary. They are my definitions of scary movies. (Nightmare on Elm Street, Halloween, etc. makes me go "Oh puhlease!" Alien terrified me. lol)

Oh. Oops! I guessed wrong on who thinks those movies are scary. That was me. Oops.
Titanic scared me a little.

A lot.
 
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VioletReigns

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Wait a minute........... you're telling us that we should push others to do good deeds... while at the same time you're judging the members who confess their weaknesses to one another as "commiserating in sins"?? OOPS! :eek:
To clarify, that is the ol' "Do as I say, not as I do" philosophy. :p On one hand you command others to be like Jesus while on the other hand you yourself act out in the flesh by judging others. That's hypocrisy. There's only one way to show others how to live like Jesus: KEEP YOUR EYES ON JESUS so He can reveal Himself through you. :D Right?
 
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VioletReigns

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Love never fails
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breno785au

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For all those sure of what thread I'm talking about, (trend means more than one), would it surprise you to know the one that started me thinking this way is not on the BDF? (No need to answer. I don't want speculation, so much as what do you think of this.)

And, yeah, I know we're all going to hell according to one person or another on here. I'm not talking about those folks either. (Like listening to people who actually think they're sinless, I tend to work at not having a good belly laugh every time I'm told I will be going to hell again or will die in X days.)

No, I'm seriously worried that by telling people it's okay, we all do it and don't worry, I'm worse, all we're doing is discouraging people to press in.

Seems to me something about exhorting, but nothing about commiserating.
You referring to my thread that may have, may have not started this all? Either way, let's see why I started it. I haven't shared much about myself in this place since joining and all I've shown for the majority of the time is how much I 'think' about God, about His word etc. Judged people for their character here and there, perhaps rightly so but probably mostly wrongly. People haven't seen that other side, probably the more tangible side of what's happening on the inside that no one sees or knows about. I was in a bit of a low, heavy state when I decided to post what I did, and I'm glad I did reading others replies. With it came comfort, understanding, mercy and also exhortation and a challenge for me to continue pressing on, and to continue to renew my mind despite how I feel. As I had stated, I wasn't looking for sympathy, or a there there, im over that.I was actually looking more for a kickbox to the head. If others openly or silently judged me for it, oh well, its their sin, not mine.
But if you weren't talking about my thread, well my explanation was for nothing but the characteristics described point to it, I actually didn't pick up on it until someone said, I think I know what thread your talking about. Therefore, it may have been easier for myself if we didn't beat around the bush or people just posted their honest in that thread.
 
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RachelBibleStudent

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Wait a minute........... you're telling us that we should push others to do good deeds... while at the same time you're judging the members who confess their weaknesses to one another as "commiserating in sins"?? OOPS! :eek:
first of all and for the record...my comment was not in reference to anyone on this forum...

what i am referring to is something that i -have- seen...it is not simply confessing sins in order to be reminded of our forgiveness and to be encouraged to do better... what i am talking about is when one person goes to another with a confession and then they both just wallow in self pity with no real encouragement to do better...
 
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pottersclay

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To tell you the truth of how I deal with life sometimes. When I've prayed to the point of exhaustion, when I get so overwhelmed about everything and everybody it feels like your so helpless.
I picture myself sitting on God's lap with my head buried deep in his chest, my hands gripping tightly on his robe and I listen for his heart beat. I'm 56 years old and have done this many times. It brings me comfort and peace when all else fails. Sometimes the Lord calls us to
" be still and know that Iam" .
If any of you find difficulties in your walk with jesus, or this life tries to k.o. you in the first round don't give up, don't back down, but take a rest, pour yourself out and wait to be filled.
Listen for the heart beat.....selah.
 
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atwhatcost

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To clarify, that is the ol' "Do as I say, not as I do" philosophy. :p On one hand you command others to be like Jesus while on the other hand you yourself act out in the flesh by judging others. That's hypocrisy. There's only one way to show others how to live like Jesus: KEEP YOUR EYES ON JESUS so He can reveal Himself through you. :D Right?
Which one is -- what Rachel did or what you did? Looks the same to me.

And, I'm not really against either, since the only thing Rachel did differently than what I did was sum up what I said in a lot fewer words.

We are judging. So what? Can't really live life without judging, and we will be called to judge angels!

This is what I was talking about, the don't-judge-me thing usually means don't-judge-me-or-I'll-judge-you-for-judging-me. I think we should be exhorting more often, but that doesn't discount judging.
 
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Tintin

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You referring to my thread that may have, may have not started this all? Either way, let's see why I started it. I haven't shared much about myself in this place since joining and all I've shown for the majority of the time is how much I 'think' about God, about His word etc. Judged people for their character here and there, perhaps rightly so but probably mostly wrongly. People haven't seen that other side, probably the more tangible side of what's happening on the inside that no one sees or knows about. I was in a bit of a low, heavy state when I decided to post what I did, and I'm glad I did reading others replies. With it came comfort, understanding, mercy and also exhortation and a challenge for me to continue pressing on, and to continue to renew my mind despite how I feel. As I had stated, I wasn't looking for sympathy, or a there there, im over that.I was actually looking more for a kickbox to the head. If others openly or silently judged me for it, oh well, its their sin, not mine.
But if you weren't talking about my thread, well my explanation was for nothing but the characteristics described point to it, I actually didn't pick up on it until someone said, I think I know what thread your talking about. Therefore, it may have been easier for myself if we didn't beat around the bush or people just posted their honest in that thread.
Nah, brother. I don't believe people are talking about your thread. At least I'm not.
 

PennEd

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I do not wish to "commiserate" with others about my sin. Nor do I want to give approval, tacit or otherwise, to other people's sin. I have related some of my sins to my brothers and sisters in the hope that the Holy Spirit would give them a word, or Scripture verse to help and encourage me. I can't tell you how much God has used some of you to help me grow in the Lord. My hope now is that the Lord would use me to do the same with each of you. Peace, Love and Grace to all!
 
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atwhatcost

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You referring to my thread that may have, may have not started this all? Either way, let's see why I started it. I haven't shared much about myself in this place since joining and all I've shown for the majority of the time is how much I 'think' about God, about His word etc. Judged people for their character here and there, perhaps rightly so but probably mostly wrongly. People haven't seen that other side, probably the more tangible side of what's happening on the inside that no one sees or knows about. I was in a bit of a low, heavy state when I decided to post what I did, and I'm glad I did reading others replies. With it came comfort, understanding, mercy and also exhortation and a challenge for me to continue pressing on, and to continue to renew my mind despite how I feel. As I had stated, I wasn't looking for sympathy, or a there there, im over that.I was actually looking more for a kickbox to the head. If others openly or silently judged me for it, oh well, its their sin, not mine.
But if you weren't talking about my thread, well my explanation was for nothing but the characteristics described point to it, I actually didn't pick up on it until someone said, I think I know what thread your talking about. Therefore, it may have been easier for myself if we didn't beat around the bush or people just posted their honest in that thread.
Since you don't mind admitting it, I don't either. And yes, I did read into it "don't give me anything." And, yes, had it felt like it was okay to give something, I would have encouraged. I felt like I was told not to.

It seems to me we're supposed to encourage and exhort specifically because many of us feel like you do at times. (Often. Usually.) To me, Revelation is one walloping letter of encouragement. "All looks like we've lost, but that's fine because God is leading us and has already won." Considering it was written to people who were losing friends and family to the Romans and could, at any moment be killed for the same reason, surely they felt defeated. Yet God showed forth his glory to remind us he is the one in charge! He wins. And through him, we win too.

All I ask is don't discourage people from encouraging in the future. We're in this together. If we can't encourage, who will? (God, but, hey, he's the one who told us often enough to encourage each other. lol) :)
 
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atwhatcost

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first of all and for the record...my comment was not in reference to anyone on this forum...

what i am referring to is something that i -have- seen...it is not simply confessing sins in order to be reminded of our forgiveness and to be encouraged to do better... what i am talking about is when one person goes to another with a confession and then they both just wallow in self pity with no real encouragement to do better...
Ha! Then we weren't saying the same thing. Oops. (Hey, if someone comes to me to wallow, I'll give room to wallow, but then I'm taking them out of their wallow hole and talking them into a bath. lol)