What to do when your lonely

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Bebs94

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Recently I have found myself alone.....a lot. I stay at home taking car of the house, cooking, cleaning and everything else for that matter. I am the second daughter of 4 children at home and I have no friends. I do a prison ministry twice a year and know loads of people but none of them seem to like me enough to hangout, text of talk.
This has never bothered me so much as of late because both of my sister's have friends they talk to instead of me. This may seem trivial to some but I am a social butterfly.....I need people.
The other problem is that I don't have a vehicle to go and be around people. I can't do some things that would help this feeling.
So, what do you do when your lonely and have no way to go?
 
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Forgive24

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Maybe create a meetup group within walking distance to your house? You could do a book group or boardgame meetup theme.
 
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HisHolly

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GGreat idea!! I belong to some in my area
Forgive24 said:
Maybe create a meetup group within walking distance to your house? You could do a book group or boardgame meetup theme.
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matt20

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I read or skate. I think I am getting to old to skate though because time it takes me to get up when I fall is constantly being lengthened.
 
Demi777

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I start sending messages to good friends or calling them, cuddling my cat and praying
 
zone

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invite ppl to meet you in your area - go to a café for coffee.
make a routine of it.
next thing you know you'll have a coffee klatsch!

 
tourist

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Do you have a job or the means to get a car? Do you go to church? Maybe there will be a few there that would be interested in striking a conversation with you as a starting point for a possible friendship. This site can also be a resource to get to know a few people worth knowing but you have to be willing to share a little bit about yourself through your posts.
 
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MollyConnor

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I'm usually alone...but I hardly ever feel lonely. I'm very introverted. But if you feel lonely, maybe you could chat with friend online? Like this website for example, CC is a nice place to make good friends!
 
melita916

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is there a city bus system where you live? perhaps you can volunteer somewhere and take the bus :D
 
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missy2014

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Demi777 said:
I start sending messages to good friends or calling them, cuddling my cat and praying
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warning im in silly mode its not gonna make sense : if that was all in one you call you friends so that can cuddle your cat and pray for your cat.
messages that reminds me - I must get the 5 year old boy cancer sufferer justin's stuff ready
 
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missy2014

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MollyConnor said:
I'm usually alone...but I hardly ever feel lonely. I'm very introverted. But if you feel lonely, maybe you could chat with friend online? Like this website for example, CC is a nice place to make good friends!
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im glad im not the only one im usually alone not by choice just unfortunately alot of friends have backslid and dont really want contact but my parents and Aunty were encouraging me to particularly not spend so much time at home - i have really tried to make friends at church to a degree but hasnt been easy anyway the point i was gonna make was I went to the mall by myself last week at it did wonders! God made me feel really good it was neat, hillarious thing was in a space of about 1month to a 1 1/2 month there were for the fifth time german tourists again! haha its something to do with God its really funny its very rare i hear german tourists in my area twice a year
 
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missy2014

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Bebs94 said:
Recently I have found myself alone.....a lot. I stay at home taking car of the house, cooking, cleaning and everything else for that matter. I am the second daughter of 4 children at home and I have no friends. I do a prison ministry twice a year and know loads of people but none of them seem to like me enough to hangout, text of talk.
This has never bothered me so much as of late because both of my sister's have friends they talk to instead of me. This may seem trivial to some but I am a social butterfly.....I need people.
The other problem is that I don't have a vehicle to go and be around people. I can't do some things that would help this feeling.
So, what do you do when your lonely and have no way to go?
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what transport can you get? bus or train, short fare with a taxi to a local mall- i dont think theres public bus system in usa theres inner city (greyhound) im a kiwi (new zealander) so i dont know. Depends if you as us kiwi's say 'out in the wop wops' which means real rural area or rural area or outskirts of a city i guess?

Another option become penpals with CCers maybe? esp international friends
 
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missy2014

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Like molly said online skype would be great for video calls, peeps to talk to . Skype is also confidence building
if you havent talked with friends in a while and it'll make you want to meet up with people too.
 
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missy2014 said:
what transport can you get? bus or train, short fare with a taxi to a local mall- i dont think theres public bus system in usa theres inner city (greyhound) im a kiwi (new zealander) so i dont know. Depends if you as us kiwi's say 'out in the wop wops' which means real rural area or rural area or outskirts of a city i guess?

Another option become penpals with CCers maybe? esp international friends
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Public bus service is usually available in most big cities and the suburbs but maybe limited in smaller cities and rural areas. The pen pal idea with CC peeps is a very good one.
 
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missy2014

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missy2014 said:
what transport can you get? bus or train, short fare with a taxi to a local mall- i dont think theres public bus system in usa theres inner city (greyhound) im a kiwi (new zealander) so i dont know. Depends if you as us kiwi's say 'out in the wop wops' which means real rural area or rural area or outskirts of a city i guess?

Another option become penpals with CCers maybe? esp international friends
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God has called me to China, so i learnt Chinese over the years (not much) God gave me a Chinese friend on here
and we practice the language i love language learning at least the pronounciation
but thats just an example of having a common interest with online friends/ friends irl (in real life)its blessed me in my future Calling and made me feel really good,just let God lead you .
 
Tinkerbell725

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Chat with friends online
Read a book
Read your Bible
Cook a delicious meal
Take a nap
Go to the beach
If you can't go to the beach then pretend you are there

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zeroturbulence

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Bebs94 said:
Recently I have found myself alone.....a lot. I stay at home taking car of the house, cooking, cleaning and everything else for that matter. I am the second daughter of 4 children at home and I have no friends. I do a prison ministry twice a year and know loads of people but none of them seem to like me enough to hangout, text of talk.
This has never bothered me so much as of late because both of my sister's have friends they talk to instead of me. This may seem trivial to some but I am a social butterfly.....I need people.
The other problem is that I don't have a vehicle to go and be around people. I can't do some things that would help this feeling.
So, what do you do when your lonely and have no way to go?
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Hang out on the CC Singles forum. :rolleyes: They're a friendly group. :) No biblical arguing, no conspiracy theories getting thrown around, and we quickly send trolls running for the hills or towards the mighty ban hammer. :rolleyes:

Just one warning..... It's highly addictive! :D
 
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Demi777

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Your theory makes me wonder if you have a crush on my telephone... LOL
Yeah.. Besides I got a christmas themed box for that little boy :p I dont think ill be able to get all the chocolate and all this week but Ill see what I can do

missy2014 said:
warning im in silly mode its not gonna make sense : if that was all in one you call you friends so that can cuddle your cat and pray for your cat.
messages that reminds me - I must get the 5 year old boy cancer sufferer justin's stuff ready
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shineyourlight

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Bebs94 said:
Recently I have found myself alone.....a lot. I stay at home taking car of the house, cooking, cleaning and everything else for that matter. I am the second daughter of 4 children at home and I have no friends. I do a prison ministry twice a year and know loads of people but none of them seem to like me enough to hangout, text of talk.
This has never bothered me so much as of late because both of my sister's have friends they talk to instead of me. This may seem trivial to some but I am a social butterfly.....I need people.
The other problem is that I don't have a vehicle to go and be around people. I can't do some things that would help this feeling.
So, what do you do when your lonely and have no way to go?
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Hey! I sometimes do homework or clean. Keep myself busy.

Although I have friends and a boyfriend, there are still times a person can get lonely. None of my friends live in my town, but I have friends at work who I go out with. But, I am also involved in a long distance relationship and that's really tough for me. I'm with him because he's worth it to me and I love him. But, it's not easy. But he makes it worth it.

Sometimes, the best things you can do when you are feeling lonely is keeping yourself busy. However, even in that, make sure to allow God speak to that loneliness and to comfort you. Sometimes, we can keep ourselves so busy because we do not like the loneliness feelings that we sometimes even push away God's comfort. In order to be comforted, we must feel the yucky and uncomfortable feelings.

Let God speak to your loneliness and do things you enjoy. :)

You're loved!
 
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