oh brother,people talking about how important it is to be called a "christian"instead of showing how to be a "christian" as in speak to this new person with kindness and compassion,not threats,in fact it's as if you are declaring that there aren't any other people whom serve God or believe in Jesus as Savior,and that they must be called"christians",while it's a fine name to call oneself it doesn't add anything to your stature nor your spirit,so this person says they aren't christian,does that mean we turn them away? "NO" because God is long suffering that all shall be led to repentance not just the righteous or have people so quickly forgotten whom Jesus came to save, not the righteous but the sin sick lost,this person has come here for guidance not lectures, I'm sure,not everyone so quickly wants to claim themself a christian,I've been through this as well,I didn't want for so long to call myself a christian because I thought that if I did so then I wouldn't be able to talk to our other brothers and sisters in faith,the jewish community,and I found it to be a boastful claim and didn't want to offend God by perhaps having huge pride or ego through such a claim,but now I realize I can still be called a christian and seek to help others who are lost or even someday talk to others who serve God faithfully such as,the jewish community,and this a choice, not a mandatory act,and as far as this silly claim that we must be called this,how soon we forget what Jesus said upon this very matter,"whom are my brethren?" "they who hear my sayings and keep them,the same are my mother,father,sister,and brother" as I said before "children of God" because though true Jesus said "there is no way unto the father except through me" but then why did Jesus say the Jews were his people if the gentiles were to be favored? nay the gentiles weren't favored over the jews,in fact if you read the bible carefully alongside the holy spirit and not as a book,you would find that paul was going to preach unto the Jews of Jesus and Salvation but they said"we are not worthy" so because of this Jesus told Paul to preach unto the gentiles of Jesus and Salvation,so if you look "clearly" at what is written we the gentiles later named christians are only able to have such a major role with Jesus because the jews wouldn't except their claim to salvation,and therefore such boasts of what name to call ourselves is of no consequence,if you believe in the father,son,and the holy ghost,and strive to lead others to be saved but try to remember those who do not have the same role,such as the Jews,whom serve God yet don't accept Jesus as Savior,for they are to enter the gates of heaven first, where as we the gentiles must stay outside for awhile though we are still blessed,so think not upon names as to what you stand for because if you truly serve God or likewise Jesus,then this shall be self evident by "the fruits you bear" not some "name" or to put it more plainly "God holds the power,glory,and kingdom forever" "not us"so please be mindful that we still have a job to do for God,which is to lead all to God,not away nor to us,because anything done of ourselves supposedly for God is self righteousness and "self righteousness is as filthy rags" as in no use,so please cast aside your pride so you can be useful to God by being compassionate toward "all" not only whom you think fit,so that you may lead them to the right path to take instead of knocking them off course with venomous and proud words because lastly did not Jesus say to his disciples a new commandment? yes indeed"love each other as I have loved you and teach others I have taught you"so thus if you can't care then you can't teach so please think more on what God and Jesus would want you to be concerning anyone and then try to reach out to one such as this individual to teach and show compassion,not judge, lest we be judged,For remember BEFORE you were with God or Jesus you needed guidance and whether this individual is for God or against God it is our job as you put it to be "christians" as in listen to what they have to say,and if they have questions for us, to answer as best we can,and perhaps lead them one day to believing as we believe, with truth not badgering,kindness not condemnation,and understanding not ignorance,GOD will handle the rest, have "FAITH",once again Geo man welcome and feel free to discuss with me on here,though I do understand their warnings of being more clear about your faith but hey nobody is "perfect" and anyways deleting is not left to us on here so don't worry about it too much,me particularly I would only have a problem with a thread or post you make understandably if it were to have cussing or obscenity in it,you'll get the hang of it,I am and I'm on a "cell phone" well that's all for now I hope you'll stay and find what forum is right for you and perhaps you'll make friends here too,and may God bless you!