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misskayanne said:
Does anyone else just get really down about being single? I'm almost 30 and have been single for 3 years, and it isn't for lack of trying. I have dated many people and it never evolves into more. I am beginning to believe that I will never find anyone to marry, and that devastates me :( I don't know what I'm doing wrong or why it seems no one wants me...just feeling so alone right now and miserable...
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+++put the Lord first and and ask Him for a mate...
 
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misskayanne said:
Does anyone else just get really down about being single? I'm almost 30 and have been single for 3 years, and it isn't for lack of trying. I have dated many people and it never evolves into more. I am beginning to believe that I will never find anyone to marry, and that devastates me :( I don't know what I'm doing wrong or why it seems no one wants me...just feeling so alone right now and miserable...
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It is OK. I could say three years is nothing, but dont worry. You dont want to get eyestrain starring at every man that passes! When you do see a good single man, quick, grab him! And if he gets away he is not for you. You want one that let's himself be caught! :)
 
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To everybody who is single and desperately wanting to be married, I have one word: Accountability. As in, there ain't no accountability when you're single.

Case in point: Wednesday at the grocery I found Larabar fruit/nut bars, a case of 15 for $3. I found out Saturday night that in regular stores they are $1.99 EACH. I bought nine cases of them. And now that I have seen how fast I am going through a case, and now that I know how much they normally cost, I am thinking about stopping by the store on the way to work and seeing if they have any more cases I can snap up. Those things are good!

Now if I were married, would I have done that? Maybe, maybe not. I'd have to check with my wife, see if she had any plans between now and next paycheck. But for me, right now, I don't have to worry about that because I'm single. :D

Now don't get me wrong, if I find a lady and we wind up married I will not consider it a chore to check with her first. If she's good enough for me to marry I will care enough about her to check with her before spending the last of the money I have free until next paycheck. But in the meantime...

Sorry, gotta wrap this up so I can leave a bit early and stop by the store on my way to work.
 
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You single? That's hard to believe because you so pretty.

Maybe your standard to high?

I like being single myself because I don't have no additional stress factor in my life other than my usual.

Maybe you'll get yours in the next life, maybe I'll get mine.
 
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Tommy379 said:
He thinks I'm going to hell because I enjoy quality beer and hand rolled cigars.
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Do you really roll your own cigars? I thought it was a lost art...
 
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I been waiting all of my adult life to find someone AFTER God judge them,cuz hopefully then I won't have to deal with no nonsense.
 
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misskayanne said:
Does anyone else just get really down about being single? I'm almost 30 and have been single for 3 years, and it isn't for lack of trying. I have dated many people and it never evolves into more. I am beginning to believe that I will never find anyone to marry, and that devastates me :( I don't know what I'm doing wrong or why it seems no one wants me...just feeling so alone right now and miserable...
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I'm 41 and never been married. I am finally dating someone that I feel has the most real chance of working out. But it took a long time.
The catch is, I think about if I had met her sooner. Things would not have worked out. Mich of what I experienced in my past, both in previous relationships and in my personal, single life, prepared me and grew me into who I am now. And those things now aid me in the rough patches common to any relationship. Essentially I mean no matter how much I Thought I was ready before, I wasn't. And I can look back and see what I couldn't see before. And the same is true of my gf. She was not ready before either.
Marriage is not a promise. God may or may not bring you someone. But our lives were not created to chase marriage, our lives were made to follow God. It's very easy to place our focus on the wrong things. But learn to accept being single. There may be some times where it's more difficult than others. But overall you can change your outlook and make things easier on yourself. I know this first hand. I spent many years sulking and depressed about being single. Got into wrong relationships just to get that need filled. Spent a lot if years in misery over it. Then when I joined this site people were talking I'm this subject and saying much of what I'm saying to you now. When I put these ideas into practice I felt better and less depressed and learned to enjoy the positive aspects of being single. I didn't lose my desire for marriage, but I did gain the ability to enjoy my life more. Change your focus. Change your priorities.
It may be something for you to consider as well.
 
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misskayanne said:
Does anyone else just get really down about being single? I'm almost 30 and have been single for 3 years, and it isn't for lack of trying. I have dated many people and it never evolves into more. I am beginning to believe that I will never find anyone to marry, and that devastates me :( I don't know what I'm doing wrong or why it seems no one wants me...just feeling so alone right now and miserable...
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If you not done so yet pray for God to search and find a loving and faithful man of your heart's desire.
 
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Hey, I have been single for my entire life...

...And whether or not I will even marry in my lifetime is still not even close to certain.
 
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misskayanne said:
Does anyone else just get really down about being single? I'm almost 30 and have been single for 3 years, and it isn't for lack of trying. I have dated many people and it never evolves into more. I am beginning to believe that I will never find anyone to marry, and that devastates me :( I don't know what I'm doing wrong or why it seems no one wants me...just feeling so alone right now and miserable...
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hi, misskayanne. as you see, lots of ccers know how you feel, including myself. i didn't have my first relationship til i was 22. we were together for almost 5 years, then things ended. there were many days i felt really alone. it wasn't until i was about 31 or 32 that i finally enjoyed being single. if i wanted to go somewhere, i went. if i just wanted to stay home and do nothing, i did exactly that lol. i was also involved in ministry at my local assembly. i spent time with friends and family. i pretty much accepted that i was not going to marry, and i was 100% ok with it :)

in the process of all listed above, i met my husband. we have been married for almost 2 months. i'm 33. he's 37. some of us get married a little later than others, and you know what? that's ok. :)

we all have a calling and purpose, regardless of our marital status. we are loved by a great Savior. our worth is in who He says we are. He gave us life to live it :D
 
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He thinks I'm going to hell because I enjoy quality beer
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Beer drinkers for jesus catching a righteous buzz!


Wait till they start prophesying
 
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Rockrz said:
Beer drinkers for jesus catching a righteous buzz!


Wait till they start prophesying
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Another in an endless line of negative posts from you.
 
Rockrz

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Another in an endless line of negative posts from you.
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Really? Seriously???

Not being an advocate of sin... is being negative?

That means God must be negative cause He is not in favor of sin and speaks against it.

So, from the devil's point of view... not advocating for sin is being negative!
 
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misskayanne said:
Does anyone else just get really down about being single? I'm almost 30 and have been single for 3 years, and it isn't for lack of trying. I have dated many people and it never evolves into more. I am beginning to believe that I will never find anyone to marry, and that devastates me :( I don't know what I'm doing wrong or why it seems no one wants me...just feeling so alone right now and miserable...
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Please don't take this the wrong way, and I admit that I know absolutely nothing about you except for your avatar pic and what you wrote in your post so I know that this may be totally irrelevant in your case, but just off the top of my head it seems to me that you are a very attractive young lady and what I've sometimes noticed with attractive people that can't seem to find a suitable companion is that they seem to be holding out for someone who is unrealistically perfect according to their standards. Like I said, I know nothing about you so I know that it could be something completely different in your case... and I'll probably catch flak for this :p But I just thought I'd share it in case it helps..
 
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Rockrz said:
Really? Seriously???

Not being an advocate of sin... is being negative?

That means God must be negative cause He is not in favor of sin and speaks against it.

So, from the devil's point of view... not advocating for sin is being negative!
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I don't drink any more but there is nothing wrong with quaffing down an ice cold brew (or two).
 
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Rockrz said:
Really? Seriously???

Not being an advocate of sin... is being negative?

That means God must be negative cause He is not in favor of sin and speaks against it.

So, from the devil's point of view... not advocating for sin is being negative!
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But you can be an advocate of gin?;)
 
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