Ship, Ship, Hooray! Let's Get This Party Started. (Singles Forum Virtual Meetup!)

[seoulsearch]

Post 5...

If we rented a room, I'm not sure if non-subscribers will be able to talk on the mic, but at least it gives just about EVERYONE a fighting chance to come in and meet others in the group.

One of the reasons this is very important to me is because I see so many people here who are dealing with so much in life and are feeling very alone. Oh my goodness, do I know what that feels like. And as much as I wish I had the time to PM everyone individually and hear their stories and ask if they're all right, I'm not always able to do that, so to me, the threads and meetups are the next best thing, and a way to reach out to more people.

I had a dream a few nights ago that was like re-living my divorce all over again--he was leaving, and nothing I could do would change his mind--he loved this other girl, and he was out. the. door to go to her. Do you ever have those dreams where you wake up and you can't tell the difference between the dream and reality for several minutes? I felt like I was going to hyperventilate because the feeling was SO real.

I truly believe God gave me that dream to remind me of what others here are going through. I was talking to Him about how He got me through all those hard times, and the answer came back as, "One day at a time... one after the other."

I honestly feel for a lot of people here. I can relate to so much of what they're going through, and I know most days it doesn't feel like you're going to make it.

We all probably think we're just posting on a forum... But I wholeheartedly believe that in some cases... our jokes, our stories, our encouragement--are God's way of getting someone else through something, day-by-day, one day after the other.

And that's why it's so important to me to try to give people the opportunity to get to know each other, form connections, and even hear each other talk, if only in a chat room.

I'm really hoping we can set more things up soon, and that EVERYONE, at some point, is able to make it. We would love to see you.

God bless and much love to you!!! <3

Hope to see you soon.

 

[Conversationand]

TBH I like the virtual meetups, but after last night I could see where a regional meetup might not be such a bad idea for those of us in the Southern US. But, I digress here. I'd like to talk with all of you, and so I'm looking forward to the next virtual meetup.

If we rented a room

We could start a go fund me to source the price. Should be a nominal cost spread over 10 or more ppl. Plus it could be a way that those who have can cover those who have not. In fact, we may be able to start a go fund me for subscriptions here. If anyone would like to get together on this PM me.

We all probably think we're just posting on a forum... But I wholeheartedly believe that in some cases... our jokes, our stories, our encouragement--are God's way of getting someone else through something, day-by-day, one day after the other.

I think the forums promote the kind of community we wish we had from the church. We're talking to each other every day, and learning about struggles and victories and praying for each other. Additionally we get to see a lot of joy, which is a fruit of the spirit that seems to be lacking in physical churches.

 

[Lynx]

Actually the way Robo explained it last night is there would be a button at the top of our privately-owned chat room where somebody could donate a few bucks. The donation would go to pay off the room. Of course the balance left at the end of the month would be the responsibility of the person who technically owns the room.

 

[Dino246]

I have to spread some rep around before giving to Kim for post 81.

 

[seoulsearch]

I have to spread some rep around before giving to Kim for post 81.

Thank you so much, Dino. Greatly appreciated!

Actually the way Robo explained it last night is there would be a button at the top of our privately-owned chat room where somebody could donate a few bucks. The donation would go to pay off the room. Of course the balance left at the end of the month would be the responsibility of the person who technically owns the room.

Ah yes.

And herein lies the culprit I know I'm always harping about whenever people bring up the subject of meetups.

Someone, in some way, is always left holding the bag.

If we were going to rent a room on a regular basis in the future, I would talk to Robo to see if there is a way for people to donate towards it IN ADVANCE and let us know a room was secured so that HOPEFULLY, NO ONE is left holding the bag.

If someone did step up and take the time to organize something instead of me BUT was left with a balance they were expected to pay, I'd take care of it for them. There's NO WAY I would ever saddle someone else with a bill for an idea that I suggested.

No... I'm not rich--I just know that if I pack my lunches instead of buying grab'n'go, make my own coffee instead of buying it, and shape up my food budget by a couple of bucks, I could swing it for two meetups over a time frame of several months.

However, if it DID wind up that we held a meetup (after the initial one I'm offering to pay for) and there WAS a surplus bill at the end of the night--I'd take care of it, but it would also be the last time I would offer to organize anything.

After that, other people would have to step up.

 

[chickwithsticks]

Kim: it would be my pleasure to pay for a room ..seriously. let me know and I will get with robo

And future events you organize I will also never leave you holding the bag. I got yr back!!

 

[seoulsearch]

Kim: it would be my pleasure to pay for a room ..seriously. let me know and I will get with robo

And future events you organize I will also never leave you holding the bag. I got yr back!!

Oh my goodness! This is awesome!!

Well then, depending on what happens, this would secure at least 2 meetups, because I'd pay for a separate one as well to get us started.

Thank you so much for this amazing offer, chick. It's always nice to have another partner in crime, and maybe even setting up courtships (if we can get some matches going!!! )

Anyone else who would be interested in helping organize Singles forum events in the form of organizing ideas, coordinating times to meet, writing threads, and/or covering a room in the future, please feel free to post or leave a PM.

What an amazing blessing to have people here who want to step up and help!!!

We could be on the verge of some very exciting times in the little ol' Singles Forum!

Thank you so much, and you guys rock!

 

[Lynx]

I should mention this is not a hotel room. According to what Robo said last night, $50 covers a chatroom for a MONTH, not a single Singles meet-up night.

Also there are details I would want to ascertain, such as:

Can the owner give friends op status? Of course we can't guarantee a person with moderator ability will be on hand 24-7, but (for example) if I got the room and labeled it Singles it would be handy to be able to make somebody else able to ban people.

What happens to the Donation Button money that exceeds $50 in a given month? Does it vanish into CC general fund or is it credited to next month? How many months does this carry over?

If somebody causes trouble in chat, gets banned and raises a fuss over it, who arbitrates?

And speaking of which, is there any way for the room owner to log chat? It would be helpful to provide chat logs as proof that a ban was justified.

I have other questions but they are regarding privately held chatrooms in general, not a proposed CC Singles chat.

 

[Lynx]

A question for us here: Who is going to be the owner of this proposed Singles chatroom? Should we take a poll?

I would be willing to set it up and even fund it up-front for a couple months, but I work at a fast food factory. I wouldn't be able to pay that much a month for a long time. Also I would not be able to be there at all times, so the question of responsibility would probably come up if something happened while I was at my job.

And frankly I would be... concerned, let's say... that me being the Owner Of The Chat might cause some resentment. Not saying anything bad about any of y'all, but not everybody is cool like y'all.
For example:
"Oh come on, so I let a cuss word slip occasionally when I'm on the mic. I put $15 into this room, I will remind you! How DARE you kick me out?!"

I'm not saying it WILL happen, but it's better to identify problems before they become problems. And I can testify from experience, that problem will probably come up.

 

[Lynx]

Also I would mention there is no way to put any of this planning into action just yet. Robo hasn't even put the system in place.

But it is good to get these questions at least thought about, maybe even answered, while we have plenty of time to consider them.

 

[tourist]

Yes, we will be meeting in the CC Singles chat room.

As far as I know, yes, that does mean a subscription is needed.

As for phones and so forth...

Techie gurus, take it away!!! I don't even own a smart phone, so I have no idea how to instruct someone else on it.

I don't own one either but use a simple TracFone.

 

[seoulsearch]

A question for us here: Who is going to be the owner of this proposed Singles chatroom? Should we take a poll?

I would be willing to set it up and even fund it up-front for a couple months, but I work at a fast food factory. I wouldn't be able to pay that much a month for a long time. Also I would not be able to be there at all times, so the question of responsibility would probably come up if something happened while I was at my job.

And frankly I would be... concerned, let's say... that me being the Owner Of The Chat might cause some resentment. Not saying anything bad about any of y'all, but not everybody is cool like y'all.
For example:
"Oh come on, so I let a cuss word slip occasionally when I'm on the mic. I put $15 into this room, I will remind you! How DARE you kick me out?!"

I'm not saying it WILL happen, but it's better to identify problems before they become problems. And I can testify from experience, that problem will probably come up.

Also I would mention there is no way to put any of this planning into action just yet. Robo hasn't even put the system in place.

But it is good to get these questions at least thought about, maybe even answered, while we have plenty of time to consider them.

Lynx, this is exactly why I'd want to know if we can rent a room for only a month at a time. If it has to be for a whole year, I personally am going to step away from the idea because it's too much money to try to raise, and my guess is, with people being so busy, it wouldn't get much traffic.

For my own self, I'd only be willing to go with the "rent a room" idea if we can do it any given month at a time.

IF this is possible, I'd pay for the first meetup so funds are taken care of. I'd then collaborate with you and a few others to come up with times. It's impossible for us to work around everyone's schedule and I'm not going to have everyone give me times when they can come and try to collaborate that, because that's like writing a work schedule, which would be way too involved (unless someone else wants to do that.)

Rather, I'd try to come up with some suggested times for meetups and then write a poll (it might take a couple of polls to nail down a month, then day, then times... we'll see), and we can set the meetups with the most votes in stone and try it out.

I'm trusting we have a respectful group here so hopefully there would minimal to no problems.

As for moderating, we'll see what the rules are and go from there, but these are excellent questions. From what I understood, the room is still open to others to come and as they please (which would include CC mods), but I'm not sure.

If we ran into any real problems (a troll, etc.), I would go to another room and ask for a mod to come in and help us immediately, unless we had the power to ban him/her ourselves on the spot.

You do bring up a good question about what is and isn't acceptable--I've been known to have a slip here and there myself.

Great questions and I hope you and others will keep asking/suggesting.

We'll get this figured out together. Who knows though... by the time we'd actually be able to put something together... the CC crowd might have changed (as it always does) and we not have anyone interested anymore.

 

[zeroturbulence]

The last time I rented a room it was in Vegas!

 

[Zi]

I see your room in vegas and raise you one at my Moms as being the last I rented

The last time I rented a room it was in Vegas!

 

[Dino246]

I like the idea of a hosted room. I wonder though, what is the difference between that and Singles, which is usually empty anyway? I'd be concerned that people who might like to drop in would be excluded somehow, or that people who need to be booted for any reason couldn't be. It could also make it more difficult to meet new peeps there. I'd be willing to try it though.

 

[seoulsearch]

I like the idea of a hosted room. I wonder though, what is the difference between that and Singles, which is usually empty anyway? I'd be concerned that people who might like to drop in would be excluded somehow, or that people who need to be booted for any reason couldn't be. It could also make it more difficult to meet new peeps there. I'd be willing to try it though.

Hi Dino,

The reason we were considering a rented room instead of Singles is because, from my understanding, in order to access Singles, a person person has to pay for a subscription, and many here are unwilling or unable to do that.

In a rented room, however, people can come in even if they don't have a subscription. I don't know if they'd be able to talk on the mic (that usually requires a subscription too), but at least they'd be able to come in and participate through listening and typing.

I'm not sure about the details of moderation yet--if we're required to have our own, or if we're required to have one of CC's mods there--which could obviously affect scheduling as well. I have had times when I've been in a room and a troll appeared, or someone was obviously under the influence, and I went and got a mod from another room who came in immediately. I'm not sure if we'll be able to do that, too, but we'll find out before trying.

The service isn't even being offered yet so it would be a while. I'd want to wait until they had it active for a little while and have worked out the major glitches.

But everyone's raising some really good points and it's great that we're thinking this all out in advance.

 

[Tinkerbell725]

It will be great to be able to chat with you all. I'm at work now so maybe later. Did anybody notice that wwjdkilden left? What happened to her? Maybe she did not like the idea of virtual meet ups or got frustrated with the timezone issue. Goodbye kilden. God bless you.

 

[AbigailZeke]

From what I understand, with a hosted room, we can invite non-subbed members. Last night (or yesterday), we stayed in the lounge because non-subbed members don't have access to Singles.

I like the idea of a hosted room. I wonder though, what is the difference between that and Singles, which is usually empty anyway? I'd be concerned that people who might like to drop in would be excluded somehow, or that people who need to be booted for any reason couldn't be. It could also make it more difficult to meet new peeps there. I'd be willing to try it though.

Also, if I'm not wrong, I had the impression that you have to be a partner to created your own room. And to be a partner is to contribute $50/month. For how long, that I'm not sure. I may be wrong though cause I left early and may have missed out some information.

For now, I guess we can continue with the random meetings in the Singles/Lounge room.

Maybe we can ask Mods to sticky this thread or the chat coordination (or create a new one to be stickied for singles chat meetings)?

 

[seoulsearch]

Also, if I'm not wrong, I had the impression that you have to be a partner to created your own room. And to be a partner is to contribute $50/month. For how long, that I'm not sure. I may be wrong though cause I left early and may have missed out some information.

For now, I guess we can continue with the random meetings in the Singles/Lounge room.

Maybe we can ask Mods to sticky this thread or the chat coordination (or create a new one to be stickied for singles chat meetings)?

Ah... Ok... I came in right in the middle of it and it looks like I missed some very crucial information. Man. I'm sorry--I must have totally missed the ball.

Being a partner would be way too expensive for anyone--I had thought we could just rent a room at will.

We'll see what happens. I know several people have suggested other sites for meetups and people are free to do that if they want, of course, but as for me, I'm going to stick with trying to arrange something on CC first.

These are just my own convictions, but I'm going to try my best to support CC first because it's the medium that allowed us all to meet in the first place.

If we plan other meetups/events in the future, I'll just make a new thread for each one to make sure everyone hopefully sees it.

 

[Ugly]

I should mention this is not a hotel room. According to what Robo said last night, $50 covers a chatroom for a MONTH, not a single Singles meet-up night.

Also there are details I would want to ascertain, such as:

Can the owner give friends op status? Of course we can't guarantee a person with moderator ability will be on hand 24-7, but (for example) if I got the room and labeled it Singles it would be handy to be able to make somebody else able to ban people.

What happens to the Donation Button money that exceeds $50 in a given month? Does it vanish into CC general fund or is it credited to next month? How many months does this carry over?

If somebody causes trouble in chat, gets banned and raises a fuss over it, who arbitrates?

And speaking of which, is there any way for the room owner to log chat? It would be helpful to provide chat logs as proof that a ban was justified.

I have other questions but they are regarding privately held chatrooms in general, not a proposed CC Singles chat.

All typed and audio are logged, in chat, by default, so mods can reviews issues that arise.