17, Pregnant, and my boyfriend is in Jail..

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SomeonePleaseHelpMe

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I wish I could say I was the perfect Christian.. But I'm not.. I am going through a terrible time in my life. I am 17 years old, trying to get back into school, trying to find a job, and expecting a baby. I just moved to a new state on the 10th. The night before, my boyfriend was arrested due to an unexpected warrant placed on his name. He got into some trouble involving possession, conspiracy, and uttering and publishing. These bad choices were made back before we got together, and this man changed so much after. He got a job, quit his heavy drugs, and was showing signs of being such a good father. He loved his baby very much even with it just being in my tummy.. He is now facing 15 years of prison time because of these choices he made before he got better. He was arrested, and I moved across the country the next day. I know I am young, and I have been told by many to just move on, but it is still the hardest thing I have ever had to endure, considering we planned on getting married and taking care of our family together. Now I am a pregnant teen with nothing, I'm lonely, and I seem to have fallen from God tremendously. I am asking for prayers. Please. From anybody. My prayers seem to not be enough anymore.. Advice and comments are welcome as well. Thank you.
 
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SomeonePleaseHelpMe said:
I wish I could say I was the perfect Christian.. But I'm not.. I am going through a terrible time in my life. I am 17 years old, trying to get back into school, trying to find a job, and expecting a baby. I just moved to a new state on the 10th. The night before, my boyfriend was arrested due to an unexpected warrant placed on his name. He got into some trouble involving possession, conspiracy, and uttering and publishing. These bad choices were made back before we got together, and this man changed so much after. He got a job, quit his heavy drugs, and was showing signs of being such a good father. He loved his baby very much even with it just being in my tummy.. He is now facing 15 years of prison time because of these choices he made before he got better. He was arrested, and I moved across the country the next day. I know I am young, and I have been told by many to just move on, but it is still the hardest thing I have ever had to endure, considering we planned on getting married and taking care of our family together. Now I am a pregnant teen with nothing, I'm lonely, and I seem to have fallen from God tremendously. I am asking for prayers. Please. From anybody. My prayers seem to not be enough anymore.. Advice and comments are welcome as well. Thank you.
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I'm so sorry to hear about what has happened to your spouse, but God has a plan for everything. Keep your faith strong honey...and take care of that little one inside you because regardless of the circumstances the baby is still a blessing and is very much innocent in this whole situation. My prayers are with you and your family sincerely...try not to think as these things as bad right now...things will turn up brighter for you sooner or later...Keep your faith strong. Keep praying. And, above all don't turn your back on God or stray away! *hugs things will get better you'll see...if you ever need someone to talk to feel free to message me anytime hun. Take care God bless you.

~D.A~
 
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Thank you so much. Everything is just so hard now. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to open myself up to God anymore.. Sometimes I wonder if I've EVER been open to Him or if I just pretended all this time. But now I really really want to be open to Him.
 
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Well that's good that you are at least trying to make better and attempting to keep going towards God.... A lot of girls in that situation at such a young age wouldn't be doing what you're doing, so at least be happy about that...Look I know things are tough and i'm sure things are especially now with a little one coming soon, but you have to realize that God is with you every step of the way! Just talk to Him (God) He is always listening and is always watching out for you. He loves you with everything in the world because He is your EVERYTHING! Look and pray towards God before all else. Only He can take you towards the path you are suppose to be on. Many blessing and try try try not to get too stressed or over worked because it really isnt good to have such stress on the little one. Pm if you want to talk in private any time. *hugs :)
 
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I'm very sorry to hear of your situation. I'm sure that your are experiencing a lot of emotional problems due to all of that. Just remember that God is omnipresent... He is everywhere and He knows what is going on. He can make things better... just look to Him and pray (even if you feel distant). My pastor has said that when we feel distant... it's not that God has moved away from us... it us distancing ourselves spiritually from Him or it's a time of testing. Only you and God know the reasons. Just, please, never give up on his him. I'll be praying for you and your bf.
I know that your bf was cleaning up his life, but the fact is we have to experience the consequences of our wrong doings. This may seem like a really bad time from him to be in jail, but there might be underlying reasons for him being in there now. We can't always know why things happen the way that they do. Hopefully, God will be merciful and free him early.
Along with prayer, be open to a close friend or relative in whom you can confide in. If you don't have that availability, it's good to look into talking with a pastor of kind, trustworthy christian elder. You are very young in being pregnant, but babies are a blessing even if they come early. I hope that you will keep in mind that sexual intimacy is best done within a marital relationship, that's how God intended it. And I'll be praying that God will help you and your bf grow in love towards each other and God, even amidst the hardships that come your way. You baby needs it's daddy, and I'm so pleased that your bf desired to have the child and claim it as his. Many men that have a child outside of a committed marital relationship don't want to have the child.... so you are very lucky in regard to that.
Your pregnancy will push you into more responsibilities and it will be a struggle to meet them with a child, especially if your bf is in jail and not able to be an emotional & financial support. But I do believe that God will help you out in various ways. Just trust and lean on Him. He's like our BIG daddy and spiritual husband and he can do us better good than a imperfect, human husband :) God can richly bless you and satisfy you, and I hope and pray that you will experience that. Plus a newness in your relationship with him. *hugs*
 
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@likethat...Not a very Christlike response brother!

@SomeonePleaseHelpMe...
I believe that depressed_angel has given you some excellent advice and believe many more will also. Remember to trust in the Lord and He shall direct your path. Sometimes we go through some difficult times in our lives and it is times like these that help to strengthen our faith.
May the Lord guide and direct you through this difficult time in your life.

In Christ, 1Christianwarrior316
 
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I mean its that simple. im not tryin to be meen.
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How is it that simple? She didn't state she is having sex now, right now she is pregnant and having a very hard time because her boyfriend/baby's father is in jail, this doesn't have anything to do with that ----edited----.

Op, keep your head up, you'll be in my thoughts and prayers, good luck to you and your child.
 
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I'm sorry to hear about your bf in jail, and I know this may look like God doesn't hear your prayers, but he does. Jesus said, '' I am with you always, even to the end of the world'' and remember he always keeps his promises. I know that right now it's hard to think straight and it's hard to have hope, but please don't give up on him.

If you have someone in your family who can support you, or a good friend, or someone at church who you can trust, talk to them. If you don't have a church, try to find a good church and talk to the pastor, or the pastor's wife, I really feel you shouldn't be alone in this.

I would also like to tell you that God doesn't expect you to be the perfect Christian, he wants you to go back to him, he wants to restore you and he wants to give you life. All your sins are forgiven in Christ, now feel free to come to him and live according to his will. I promise you won't regret it :) and if you already took that decision to restore your relationship with him, I'm SO VERY happy for you :)
You are in my prayers. Hugs.
 
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SomeonePleaseHelpMe said:
I wish I could say I was the perfect Christian.. But I'm not.. I am going through a terrible time in my life. I am 17 years old, trying to get back into school, trying to find a job, and expecting a baby. I just moved to a new state on the 10th. The night before, my boyfriend was arrested due to an unexpected warrant placed on his name. He got into some trouble involving possession, conspiracy, and uttering and publishing. These bad choices were made back before we got together, and this man changed so much after. He got a job, quit his heavy drugs, and was showing signs of being such a good father. He loved his baby very much even with it just being in my tummy.. He is now facing 15 years of prison time because of these choices he made before he got better. He was arrested, and I moved across the country the next day. I know I am young, and I have been told by many to just move on, but it is still the hardest thing I have ever had to endure, considering we planned on getting married and taking care of our family together. Now I am a pregnant teen with nothing, I'm lonely, and I seem to have fallen from God tremendously. I am asking for prayers. Please. From anybody. My prayers seem to not be enough anymore.. Advice and comments are welcome as well. Thank you.
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What happened to your boyfriend is unforunate, but right now you have more serious things to worry about. You are expecting a baby. Another life you are responsible for. Try your best to raise him or her the best way you know how. Raise this child with God, and he will help you along the way. I know this is a scary time for you. I have been there, but remember that God will take care of you. Just pray and do your best. You will be in my prayers.
 
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your story reminded me of a poem i heard, i will paste it here for you.

Footprints in the Sand

One night I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord. Many scenes from my life flashed across the sky. In each scene I noticed footprints in the sand. Sometimes there were two sets of footprints, other times there were one set of footprints. This bothered me because I noticed that during the low periods of my life, when I was suffering from anguish, sorrow or defeat, I could see only one set of footprints. So I said to the Lord, "You promised me Lord, that if I followed you, you would walk with me always. But I have noticed that during the most trying periods of my life there have only been one set of footprints in the sand. Why, when I needed you most, you have not been there for me?" The Lord replied, " The times when you have seen only one set of footprints, is when I carried you."

Written by Mary Stevenson

i hope this helps, good luck good bless.
 
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Thank you so much. Everything is just so hard now. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to open myself up to God anymore.. Sometimes I wonder if I've EVER been open to Him or if I just pretended all this time. But now I really really want to be open to Him.
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Just remember that God hasn't abandoned you, you can come to God at anytiime. He is more than ready and willing to listen to you.
 
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Most people here have already given you good advice, you are in good company :)
I just wanted to say that I will also be praying for you and to tell you to just draw closer to God. He is the remedy you need, He is all you need and He won't leave you even when you go down or feel down. God bless
 
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God's love continues even during these times and that He eventually brings great hope.Tell God about your hurt. He already knows, but it is important for you to put the hurt into words and tell Him. He feels our pain as strongly as we do and will carry it for us. Give your hurt to Him. Then resolve not to dwell on it again. Admit to God you need His help in order to live rightly with peace and joy..I will pray for you just always trust in Him..
God bless..
 
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Thank you all very very much. I actually got emotional from all the support I'm receiving. Well. Besides the unnecessary comments, but I don't care so much about those. You all are helping me so much just knowing I have some sort of support. :)
 
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Wait a minute. You said you are 17, your profile says 19.... ??????
 
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Does it really? I didn't even know that. I'm gonna have to change that. But I had to just make a new account cause for some reason I couldn't log into my old one.
 
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