This One's for the boys!

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Strong1

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Hey guys!
So.... I have a real deal question for you.
How many of you truly know your role on earth as a male?
I ask you singles, because I have a young man coming up in age, and some of his answers really have me "thinking" so to speak.
What do you think your role is as Father, as Husband, as Man?
Are you striving towards being the best Father, Husband ,Man you can be.
Do you feel you'll learn "On the job?" or are you in "Practice mode?
Do you feel a woman can teach a boy, how to be a man? ;)


I'd love to hear some of your thoughts on your "Role"
The trouble that some homes face today, causes me to question the thoughts of the "boys" growing to be "men" and whether or not their are any "connections."

Let's call this project, "Boys vs Men!"


K ....go.
 
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Strong1

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Okay, to be very honest.....In my own mind, i truly didnt believe any of you could answer this.
I have a preconcieved notion about the boys coming up in the world, and that at, say....even 30years old, you all STILL don't know your role? :eek:
I was hoping someone would prove me wrong. Never happens.
Single girls?, run and hide.........
 
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Strong1 said:
Hey guys!
So.... I have a real deal question for you.
How many of you truly know your role on earth as a male? You make it sound like you do.... It comes of almost as arrogant to me.
I ask you singles, because I have a young man coming up in age, and some of his answers really have me "thinking" so to speak.
What do you think your role is as Father, as Husband, as Man?To love my child, my wife; to protect my children and my wife, to protect those who are weak; to lead people to God, to guide people closer to Him. Unfortunately, though I am truly passionate about doing all of these, I seem to struggle with the third the most.
Are you striving towards being the best Father, Husband ,Man you can be.
Do you feel you'll learn "On the job?" or are you in "Practice mode? I would say that I am trying to embrace my failures in relationships to hopefully become not only a better man, but a man who can be a husband who God would find worthy of a wonderful wife. I seek to learn to be a father as great as my own. I practice with children, but I wouldn't say I go out of my way to do so.
Do you feel a woman can teach a boy, how to be a man? ;)
Honestly... alone, I think no. She can teach a boy how to treat a girl, but being a man is more than that. She can point a boy towards Jesus, she can introduce him to strong christian men. Alone, she can not.

I'd love to hear some of your thoughts on your "Role"
The trouble that some homes face today, causes me to question the thoughts of the "boys" growing to be "men" and whether or not their are any "connections."

Let's call this project, "Boys vs Men!"


K ....go.
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My thoughts above.
 
zeroturbulence

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Strong1 said:
Hey guys!
So.... I have a real deal question for you.
How many of you truly know your role on earth as a male?
I ask you singles, because I have a young man coming up in age, and some of his answers really have me "thinking" so to speak.
What do you think your role is as Father, as Husband, as Man?
Are you striving towards being the best Father, Husband ,Man you can be.
Do you feel you'll learn "On the job?" or are you in "Practice mode?
Do you feel a woman can teach a boy, how to be a man? ;)


I'd love to hear some of your thoughts on your "Role"
The trouble that some homes face today, causes me to question the thoughts of the "boys" growing to be "men" and whether or not their are any "connections."

Let's call this project, "Boys vs Men!"


K ....go.
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Provider, Breadwinner, Role model
 
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Strong1

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Hey zero! Your the man!

Do you really think the role of a husband can be summed up as "breadwinner?"
 
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well Im avoiding the father part with all possible effort, because I honestly cant say I ever want kids.
As for marriage...we will see. I prefer a lot of my own space, and dont really see much of a difference between a long-term relationship vs a marriage and its not to say I didnt have a good example. My parents are having their 35th anniversary this year. Just nothing really seems different to me.
As for being a man, well I provide for myself at this point in my life and do quite well for myself, so I think I have that part covered.
 
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Tryndawin said:
well Im avoiding the father part with all possible effort, because I honestly cant say I ever want kids.
As for marriage...we will see. I prefer a lot of my own space, and dont really see much of a difference between a long-term relationship vs a marriage and its not to say I didnt have a good example. My parents are having their 35th anniversary this year. Just nothing really seems different to me.
As for being a man, well I provide for myself at this point in my life and do quite well for myself, so I think I have that part covered.
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As for marriage...we will see. So then, your basically saying, you'll figure out your "role" when you reach there?
 
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The way I see it, the words 'I do' mean so much more than simply saying yes to marriage. To me, saying yes to my wife is no different than saying yes to my Savior, both require my full attention and total surrender. Either way, my life is no longer my own. :)

I doubt I will ever marry unless I can find a bride who feels the same that way. I have personally witnessed far too many marriages where one spouse seemingly dominates the other and those relationships look like an absolute hell to be in seeing as neither spouse ever appears to be satisfied. :(
 
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I'm afraid I really don't know what my role is supposed to be. I never had a father or any other male who cared enough to teach me. The result is I'm kind of making life up as I go, and I pray I don't screw it up. Unfortunately there is only so much you can pick out of the bible instruction wise. There is a difference between knowing what you are supposed to do and knowing how to do it. That's the part I'm making up.
 
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Pheonix said:
I'm afraid I really don't know what my role is supposed to be. I never had a father or any other male who cared enough to teach me. The result is I'm kind of making life up as I go, and I pray I don't screw it up. Unfortunately there is only so much you can pick out of the bible instruction wise. There is a difference between knowing what you are supposed to do and knowing how to do it. That's the part I'm making up.
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Wow, thanks for sharing that pheonix....Do you find the Word of God sufficient to teach you?
 
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Tryndawin

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Strong1 said:
As for marriage...we will see. So then, your basically saying, you'll figure out your "role" when you reach there?
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Yep, since im not actively looking for marriage now, or any time in the near future its not important to me. It just doesnt fit with where I am and where i want to be.
 
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Crossfire said:
The way I see it, the words 'I do' mean so much more than simply saying yes to marriage. To me, saying yes to my wife is no different than saying yes to my Savior, both require my full attention and total surrender. Either way, my life is no longer my own. :)

I doubt I will ever marry unless I can find a bride who feels the same that way. I have personally witnessed far too many marriages where one spouse seemingly dominates the other and those relationships look like an absolute hell to be in seeing as neither spouse ever appears to be satisfied. :(
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You said something so powerful crossfire. You mention that "saying yes to your wife is like saying yes to your saviour" the thing is if you truly believe that your full attention and total surrender, is the result of this solution......and you execute this as husband/father/man?......you will do very well.
(and a little secret) Like Sarah, Your wife will call you "Lord" and your children will find much respect in you. ;)
 
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Yep, since im not actively looking for marriage now, or any time in the near future its not important to me. It just doesnt fit with where I am and where i want to be.
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See in my mind that's the problem. Too many guys are trying to figure out what to do "on the job" with little or no preparation for the job. That's inevitable problems in any relationship. While there's certain areas that you can never prepare yourself for(it does actually take the experience) There are so many ways to understand the expectations and become mentally ready.
Just because your not ready to marry doesnt mean you shouldnt be in continuous prep, mode as a Man.
You have no idea when your God will send you your wife . You eliminate a lot of future stress by preparing now.

P.S. Would you hire the guy for the job that's ready(qualified) to work, or the one who lied on his resume, and is cleary unqualified.
 
zeroturbulence

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Strong1 said:
Hey zero! Your the man!

Do you really think the role of a husband can be summed up as "breadwinner?"
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Thanks :D Actually, I thought about the breadwinner part long after I posted it and realized I should have said "Rock" instead. ;) So my answer would be:

Provider (as father), Rock (as husband), Role model (as man)

:)
 
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K K, now i'm getting somewhere! :)
 
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I'll take this a step further.
If you are not clear on your "role" should you even be dating? Should this state of, lets call it ignorance, be imposed on a prospective wife? Whether she' to be your wife or someone elses?
 
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Tryndawin

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clearly one that is qualified, but to use your example, Im not looking for that kind of job right now. And even if someone came along, it would be at least two years before engagement was considered
 
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I'll start with the easy one. First off my hat is off to any single mother that has to raise a boy into a man, however I firmly believe that a boy BEST learns how to be a man in the presence of men. A wise mother in this circumstance will see to it that her son has positive male role models in his life, preferably christian men who will be able to teach him how to be a man of God.

The role of a husband per scripture is:
Provider: 1 Timothy 5:8
Leader: Ephesians 5:22-30, 1st Cor 11:3
Protector & Servant Ephesians 5:22-30



 
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Okay, I'm not a guy but I'm slightly confused by this thread. It almost sounds like you're saying all men are destined to be husbands/fathers, and wondering if they're prepared for it. Shouldn't we be asking if a man knows what his spiritual gifting is and if he's practicing that? Some men are gifted to be leaders and providers, others are not. Just like some women are meant to be wives/mothers and others aren't. I feel like it's too vague to gear it towards the Father/Husband role.
 
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A Father's esponsibility is to bring his children up in the training and admonition of the Lord.
As well as to protect, guide, love and teach responsibility. This, and to teach the possibilities of life.
 
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