It is hard to be a single girl because...

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GreenNnice

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Miladies, you didn't think I would leave you out now did ya . 'Course not, green loves all my ladies :)

Please if you can, just like the boys, after having finished the sentence, lace into your reason a scripture, or,, two, or like me, watch out! 'FOUR.' :D

Never ever never ever forget miladies that my and your Lord leads us through everything we do, everything we say, and, everwhere we want to go. Ask in My name, and, IF it is in My will, it shall be given you :) 1 John 5:14


Guys can answer this one too? Why schertainly !


It is hard to be a girl because we(as in 'you,' miladies, I a green guy :D) ) are supposed to have the guy make the first move.

Yes, you are, miladies, remember, The Lord leads, never ever never ever let go of that thought, patience is so great a thing to do..... Why green? Why!

Because....

... But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. Isaiah 40:31

... Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. 2 Cor. 4:16

... Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary. Galatians 6:9

... Those who sow in tears will reap with songs of joy. Psalms 126:5

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kayem77

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I'm a little surprised that noone has replied, maybe it's more easy for girls to be single? but I don't think so..

Anyway since I'm 19, I really don't have that urge right now and I don't feel it's my moment personally, or maybe it is because I havent found anyone haha but I do want to marry someday...and there are days, esp when I'm frustrated, when I wish someone else besides of God (which I know is enough) could have my back and make me feel safe emotionally and in every way. Two are better than one....
 
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I wish I had scripture to lace into my reasons why its hard, but honestly it boils down to two things for me:

1.People can't seem to wrap their brains around someone choosing to be single when they are in their 20s. I get a lot of harsh jokes and mean comments and biological clock reminders, which honestly blows. I had a good majority of my high school friends and now two coworkers convinced that I have plans to be a nun. I dont, I just find them very interesting, but obviously unattached 24 year old with an interest in cloistered traditions = future nun

2.As much as my head and my sometmes rational heart know that God is not directing me to a relationship at this time it doesn't stop my often irrational heart and goofy emotions from making me feel uber sad every time i hear a friend gush about their boy friend, or another person gets married, or another coworker has a baby. Its a longing of my heart, but I know I have to wait on Gods timing. This goes the same for being attracted to people and "crushing" not a dang thing I can do about it til God gives the heads up and leads the guy to make the move. Sometimes this really sucks
 
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Liz01

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- Because many ppl remind me that i have a limit to have babies as if i dont know that or have never thought about it

- Because many ppl judge and feel pity about me althought they are divorced or in bad marriages

- Because i have to face all those ppl that think that is my fault to be single and ask to God for all strenght to explain them in the most gentle way that im not married because God`s will

- Because many ppl is searching for me a husband (last time the guy they chose for me was 70 years old)

- Because i have to be quiet and show God`s love when ppl make jokes about me and after that i have to forgive them

- Because some married guys think im compelled to be with them just because im single
 
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Jullianna

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When you are not a "girl" (see GRA and Crossfire's posts on the guy's thread and switch the gender)
 
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rainacorn

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it's hard to be a single lady because you have to dance in heels and a leotard.

This guy knows-
 
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Gabriel777

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I have a simple solution, tell society to get off your back with their ''taboos' and dumb way of thinking.
 
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Gabriel777 said:
I have a simple solution, tell society to get off your back with their ''taboos' and dumb way of thinking.
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Sure...... Cause that works!!
You tell people to back off and you go from eccentric to frigid prude.
And I doesn't matter who you are, what people say hurts and have an affect on you. Its something we have to surrender to God, and we cant let it dictate our lives and how we live, but that doesn't make it hurt any less.
 
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Liz01

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RushBreeze said:
Sure...... Cause that works!!
You tell people to back off and you go from eccentric to frigid prude.
And I doesn't matter who you are, what people say hurts and have an affect on you. Its something we have to surrender to God, and we cant let it dictate our lives and how we live, but that doesn't make it hurt any less.
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I agree with you RushBreeze, during my 20s i tried a lot of things: told ppl to back off, got angry, ignored them, smiled, exposed them, was nicer, was cold and nothing worked but only got worst.
And the ppl dont change and if someone finally understand then when i know another ppl or im in a new place the story starts again and ppl start asking if i noticed that i have a biological clock and put a jury around me and sometimes its easy and sometimes is still hard to being single.

So I found out that the only thing is to surrender to God (asking and practicing self control), explaining to the ppl the things in a calm way and enjoy our life.
To be single is a blessing from God, and if we pray and God gives all the courage to face those hard things then its a very good opportunity to talk about the work of God in our lives and to tell the ppl how is the personality of God according to bible.

We are able to do a lot of things because we are singles (including things of God and things that we enjoy to do like hobbies), we dont have to take care of children or husbands or even argue with them about which place we go or not and we can get closer to God.
So I think singleness is a very nice time in our lives if we surrender all our needs, worries (and what ppl tell us) to God. :)
 
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Gabriel777

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RushBreeze said:
Sure...... Cause that works!!
You tell people to back off and you go from eccentric to frigid prude.
And I doesn't matter who you are, what people say hurts and have an affect on you. Its something we have to surrender to God, and we cant let it dictate our lives and how we live, but that doesn't make it hurt any less.
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I didnt mean it literally, that would make you look desperate or in denial or something. I meant it as a way of not paying attention and not letting it affect you. Yes words do hurt, but when you know your identity in Christ and know your standing its a different story.

Trust me, I'm young and married and people tell me the opposite. You quickly notice it's the enemy teasing you.
 
genipher_elizabeth

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It is hard to be a single girl because....... I'm impatient. ;)

Logically, I understand that God is preparing me for the man I'll eventually wind up with, but in the meantime I get sick of hearing "no, he's not the one" pounding in my brain in regards to every guy I gain remote interest in. (I'm very intuitive to God when it comes to this and I don't know how to explain it, but I just "know." Through lots of prayer, I'm confident I'll know when the "right" one comes across my path as well...)

For now, I'll continue practicing patience (even on the days when it seems almost painful), and allowing God to prepare me. Hahaha :)
 
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gardenbunny

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So, I was online looking for some fun quotes to use as my facebook status, here's what I came up with that mean a lot to me at my age-

~Being single doesn't mean you know nothing about love, sometimes being solo is wiser than being in a false relationship.

~Yeah, I'm single, but your gonna have to be amazing to change that.

~Being single does not mean no one wants you...it just means that God is busy writing your love story.



~Being single doesn't mean that you are weak, it means that you are strong enough to wait for what you deserve.



It's hard to being single, all of my siblings and friends are married with kids. I mean at 30, who isn't. But also a lot of my friends are on second and third marriages. So I think I'd rather wait until someone amazing comes along. I've met some of the most awesome guys, but they all want one thing, NOW, and I made a promise to myself that I would wait for someone who respects me enough to wait for the right time.

I'm not going to make much sense, but I hope you get what I am trying to say.
The thing that I have a hard time with is coming home at night alone, no one to share my sorrows and happiness with. I mean I LOVE my family and can go to them with anything, but there is something about having a spouse or significant other that is wonderful and their support and having someone to hug when you feel at your lowest.
But one of the benefits of being single this long, is back "in the day" when I was a "youngin'"(I just turned 30, can't quite come to terms with it), I hated cooking, refused to do it, and if I would have gotten married young, I would have looked at it as a chore(cooking every night for a husband and kids). Now I LOVE to cook. I seriously can't get enough of it and I learned on my terms.
Same with gardening, back in the day I wouldn't be caught dead weeding a flower garden or planting tomatoes(getting dirt under my nails), now I looked forward to every spring because there are so many things to plant.
Same with watching my siblings and friends go through their trials and tribulations, I can better handle those situations now that I have seen others experience them, would I do the same thing they do, no, but I know what I'd do differently.
My little brother is getting divorced now because marriage isn't what he expected, he wished he had waited longer(he got married at 21), he actually told me that he is jealous of my life.
Yeah, sure I would have married younger if I had met that "someone" but right now, there are still plenty of frogs to have fun with. :)
All I say to myself, "there must be someone absolutely freaking amazing for me to have not gotten married yet" Plus it's all on Gods time anyways, and that eases my worry.
 
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i have to cook for myself.
 
LightningClap0002

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If you invite some friends over to eat, you could cook for them too, then you aren't just cooking for yourself! :)
 
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neeshia86

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Everyone tries to hook you up with every new guy that comes to visit church ect. They want you to find ur special someone but they don't realize it can be frustrating.

It's also hard when you're 25 like me, and all your friends are married and having kids. You're always the one who has to free up your time to make visits because they have responsibiities. Plus u find yourself having less in common because you can't talk about ur husband, recipes you've tried or what your kids are doing.

However, I have learned alot and I know I wouldn't have been ready any sooner for marriage. Being single can be a blessing because you can focus more on God and his leading. You can also be available to help in church at about any time (asides from work responsibilities.)

I do agree with alot of the other comments. Its hard when people tell you you're biological clock is telling you, you need to get married or people just wonder why you're not with someone. It really don't matter when it all comes down to it. I'd rather be single and happy than married and miserable.

I waited patiently for the Lord; and he inclined unto me, and heard my cry. Psalm 40:1
 
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RushBreeze said:
I wish I had scripture to lace into my reasons why its hard, but honestly it boils down to two things for me:

1.People can't seem to wrap their brains around someone choosing to be single when they are in their 20s. I get a lot of harsh jokes and mean comments and biological clock reminders, which honestly blows. I had a good majority of my high school friends and now two coworkers convinced that I have plans to be a nun. I dont, I just find them very interesting, but obviously unattached 24 year old with an interest in cloistered traditions = future nun

2.As much as my head and my sometmes rational heart know that God is not directing me to a relationship at this time it doesn't stop my often irrational heart and goofy emotions from making me feel uber sad every time i hear a friend gush about their boy friend, or another person gets married, or another coworker has a baby. Its a longing of my heart, but I know I have to wait on Gods timing. This goes the same for being attracted to people and "crushing" not a dang thing I can do about it til God gives the heads up and leads the guy to make the move. Sometimes this really sucks
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at least they don't just assume you must be gay.
 
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GreenNnice

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kayem77 said:
I'm a little surprised that noone has replied, maybe it's more easy for girls to be single? but I don't think so..

Anyway since I'm 19, I really don't have that urge right now and I don't feel it's my moment personally, or maybe it is because I havent found anyone haha but I do want to marry someday...and there are days, esp when I'm frustrated, when I wish someone else besides of God (which I know is enough) could have my back and make me feel safe emotionally and in every way. Two are better than one....
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God's got your back, milady, until if/when He turns it toward the right guy, or, a guy, anyway, who might be the right guy. The Lord leads. Right? ? And, you're a smart girl of God, just by virtue of knowing to follow Him and use your great gifts in singleness given you by God to help others, which I see most often on here displayed, in bible discussion forum and christian singles, and, most certainly, you will be blessed, too, in your so doing all these things to bring glory to Him. John 14: 26-27

God bless you, milady :)

RushBreeze said:
I wish I had scripture to lace into my reasons why its hard, but honestly it boils down to two things for me:

1.People can't seem to wrap their brains around someone choosing to be single when they are in their 20s. I get a lot of harsh jokes and mean comments and biological clock reminders, which honestly blows. I had a good majority of my high school friends and now two coworkers convinced that I have plans to be a nun. I dont, I just find them very interesting, but obviously unattached 24 year old with an interest in cloistered traditions = future nun

2.As much as my head and my sometmes rational heart know that God is not directing me to a relationship at this time it doesn't stop my often irrational heart and goofy emotions from making me feel uber sad every time i hear a friend gush about their boy friend, or another person gets married, or another coworker has a baby. Its a longing of my heart, but I know I have to wait on Gods timing. This goes the same for being attracted to people and "crushing" not a dang thing I can do about it til God gives the heads up and leads the guy to make the move. Sometimes this really sucks
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Be not aware of your biological clock, milady, let the Lord show that time to you that is right from Him, and, so be it, a miracle to most, it is a moment of blessing to Him for you. Just ask Hannah and Sarah. They are two who will help you believe . :)

The same verses I said to kayM, I say to you, unrushedbreeze (and, I say them to all miladies, wanting the comfort that can only be from Him). Be patient, wait on Him, remember that He is with you, always, doing things through you in great ways in your singleness as you let Him lead your life.
Keep your words and thoughts pure and this too will help you in finding him from Him, I think.

God bless you, milady :)

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- Because many ppl remind me that i have a limit to have babies as if i dont know that or have never thought about it

- Because many ppl judge and feel pity about me althought they are divorced or in bad marriages

- Because i have to face all those ppl that think that is my fault to be single and ask to God for all strenght to explain them in the most gentle way that im not married because God`s will

- Because many ppl is searching for me a husband (last time the guy they chose for me was 70 years old)

- Because i have to be quiet and show God`s love when ppl make jokes about me and after that i have to forgive them

- Because some married guys think im compelled to be with them just because im single

God bless you, milady :)
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You have no limit. For the sky is not the limit with God, milady, not the space either, not even the universe. Infinite limit is there for you with your mustard-seed faith in the God you trust your life in. :)

Awww, you know His truth for your life, there should be no pity in that, let your countenance SHINE to others , His strength is with you always, lizzytheone :)

The Lord leads their searching, or not ('not means The Enemy is attacking :), God is stronger, greater, THE VICTOR, so go with the winner), So, either way choose Him, not him, the Lord knows best. Pray. He leads. Follow Him. :)

God will rise you up with strength like eagles, in due time, for doing that 'being of good cheer' in the midst of their jokes, milady .

The power of God will compel only the right guy to be let into your life. Recognize, respect, respond ONLY to 'That' power :)
 
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iraasuup

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Because I'm technically married hehe

Single AND married. Try that one on for size!
 
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GreenNnice

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iraasuup said:
Because I'm technically married hehe

Single AND married. Try that one on for size!
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