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Hethr

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So I've been thinking a lot about how I'm not dating at all, and kinda lonely but I won't date just to date, and I wont date someone who I know wont be a potential husband ( I'm not "husband hunting" I just wont date just to date so he has to have qualities that I won't compromise on such as being a Christian)
I go to work, I go to the store, I go home, I go out with friends but it's usually the movies or somewhere.. I go to church which has mostly older couples, there's no singles group cause there are few singles, but it's the church I grew up in, not that I would go to a church just to find someone but it is a common place for people to meet. I don't feel comfortable to do online dating, I have tried in the past, nothing worked out and I'm not comfortable "selling myself". I don't see anything wrong with the online dating thing it's just not for me.

So, how do you daters meet people?
 
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Out at bars, concerts, parties, movie events(midnight showings are great because everyone gets there like an hour early, and you already have something in common. You just have to get your two groups to sit together), work, used to be school.
 
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zaoman32

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parking lots, alleyways, laundromats...wherever she finally finds herself alone and I can make my presence known.

Stalking, the only way to date.
 
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Haha, Mike :).

Hethr, have you gone in the chat room on the site at all? Sure, some of the people are only there to find a spouse, but you can ignore anyone who's weird, and report anyone who crosses the line. I've met some guys in there who I really enjoyed talking to, and you can become more than friends if you really click with someone (and hopefully pray about it as well, to clear things with headquarters :)). Same way with the forums on this site, many people are willing to chat if you'd like to send them a private message. Anyway, everyone's different, and not all enjoy the chat room, but the lounge usually has mostly single people in it, especially in the evenings (the evening for the USA).
 
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flight316

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The last person that I went on a date with, I just happen to meet at a nightclub. Shes cool, we talk a lot. We have become friends but I'm not interested in dating her. I mostly meet people on my job ( major hospital ). I enjoy making friends with select people. Dating on the other hand is kind of weird right now.
 
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christiancollegegirl

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I meet lots of people at work every day. I'm a cashier at McDonalds, so I meet all kinds of people!!
 
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Hellooo

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Where I meet people outside of church?

I'm a bit of a trivia buff (former high school quiz bowl player, don't hate) so I play every week at a local cafe with a few guys from work...I ALWAYS meet someone new on trivia night.

I also like getting involved in local volunteer events, I make a personal goal to rack up a certain amount of hours every year, and I end up meeting a lot of other volunteers and people around the community.
I also meet people at the beach, local art walks, live music/dance performances, plays, etc. I go alone a lot of the time, but sometimes I end up running into like minded people.


Just go out and do things you like. :) You might meet a guy, you might not, but there's no pressure to "sell yourself" when the focus is on an activity or event.
 
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Nike

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I lived in US for a year last year, and boy, how I really know what you mean.. =))
I met guys at school, but it wasn't long enough to develop anything. I met guys from a dating site and actually dated one for 3 months until he was freaked out by me having to go back to my country. I really wish I had met someone from church but, yes, no one was single in that small church, and when I had to move to a bigger church, I didn't know anyone.. hahaha
Here in Indonesia, well, I'm so not attracted to Asian guys, and I don't like clubbing/going to bars/etc even to meet foreigners.. so I'm kinda "doomed" =))
Oh well, you know what, Matthew 6:33 =)
 
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I hate to say it but I meet a lot of people on the Internet. I've met a handful of CCers in real life too.

But mostly I meet people by traveling. People who love the same things that I love, DO the same things that I do. Whether its skiing, backpacking, being a tourist, or playing ultimate frisbee. I like being around people and I tend to gravitate towards the people like me.
 
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Nautilus said:
Out at bars, concerts, parties, movie events(midnight showings are great because everyone gets there like an hour early, and you already have something in common. You just have to get your two groups to sit together), work, used to be school.
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Riiiight, tell her to go to a bar or a party where some guy could slip her a Mickie and date rape her. Send her to a rock concert where she could find someone who smokes dope and is a Satanist. Do you even know what you're saying? Makes me wonder what side you're on.
 
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Good question, i believe in .........But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you
God says first first first first first so what comes before this.....uh....nothing...

God says all else, all else, all else'''''''' is a future spouse part of ALL ELSE..... I say yes.

good day...
 
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Riiiight, tell her to go to a bar or a party where some guy could slip her a Mickie and date rape her. Send her to a rock concert where she could find someone who smokes dope and is a Satanist. Do you even know what you're saying? Makes me wonder what side you're on.
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You know just because some bad things happen at these places doesnt mean that they are guaranteed. There are plenty of places where these things never occur. So perhaps if you were less closed minded about it, you wouldnt be so judgmental.
 
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Missfoxieloxie

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Good question, I feel the same way. I cont. to pray that God will bring my mate into my life....(or back into my life). I was to scared to take the opportunity when God gave it to me....
 
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Nautilus said:
You know just because some bad things happen at these places doesnt mean that they are guaranteed. There are plenty of places where these things never occur. So perhaps if you were less closed minded about it, you wouldnt be so judgmental.
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You heard it right here, folks. I'm closed- minded because I don't think single Christian women should go to bars to meet men. I must be really old-fashioned because I don't think they ought to go to rock concerts just to meet men either. Hmmmm....... I always thought a Christian woman would want a Christian man. :rolleyes:
 
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zaoman32 said:
parking lots, alleyways, laundromats...wherever she finally finds herself alone and I can make my presence known.

Stalking, the only way to date.
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7 times now, eh?
 
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1still_waters

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Church
Coffee houses
Book stores
Antique shops
Gun shows
Preterist prophecy venues
Grocery store
Mall
Karaoke events
 
Stephen63

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Church
Coffee houses
Book stores
Antique shops
Gun shows
Preterist prophecy venues
Grocery store
Mall
Karaoke events
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Sneaky lil' thing, aren't you? :rolleyes:
The only "gun show" you probably met a girl at was probably at her house, staring down the barrel of her father's 12gauge double barreled shotgun. :D
 
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You heard it right here, folks. I'm closed- minded because I don't think single Christian women should go to bars to meet men. I must be really old-fashioned because I don't think they ought to go to rock concerts just to meet men either. Hmmmm....... I always thought a Christian woman would want a Christian man. :rolleyes:
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And what part of the bible says not to go to bars and concerts? Where does it say its a sin to go watch a football game and enjoy a cold beer on a saturday night? Or to go listen to a live band? Just because you have some warped sense of what actually goes on at a majority of these places, or it might just be that you are too blinded by your own self-righteousness...regardless most bars and concerts are absolutely nothing like you describe. And yes this does make you closeminded, because you are automatically basing everything you know off of a stereotype from the bad stories you have heard. I mean bad things happen in churches, like ministers molesting people, maybe people shouldnt go there too. Oh right no, see what i just did was make a generalization, which is sadly the entire basis of your argument.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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How should i know, its a friday night and im sitting here by myself on a chat site......

In all seriousness though, stand in front of a mens bathroom and ask any hot guy whose about to go in if he can get you some TP. Do it.
 
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Powemm

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Well let's see... book store, gas station.. Taking pictures ...,fly fishing, camping, shooting guns , hunting , fishing .. Etc... I just go and do and be ... you
Can meet people everywhere ! you
Might try something perhaps your potential partner might like ... Something out of your comfort zone ... I picked up an acoustic guitar up and going to start lessons ... Jane never played a day in my life but I live the sound of it ... I think sometimes we have to "think" outside the box.. Doing things we might see our future partner doing ..(ajead of time) I dunno just a new thing I'm trying .. And actually have found I really enjoy doing a lot of them... something to think about anyway ... If its in gods plan and Gods will to happen ...it will... But I love to stretch out and try things I've never done before either ... if nothing else you have new hobbies ....
Blessings!
 
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