Indian Marriages

[jatinderkumar]

luckily i am given the freedom to marry the girl i like..i will marry the girl i like which is living in another state..she belongs to my cast but it was not intentional.....we just fall in love chatting with each other and when we told our parents they said"its up to u as you have to live with that person"..so finally things went right for us...hopefully,we will marry start of next year.

 

[jahwarrior]

Most arranged marriages in India are not Christian. Arranged marriages can be beneficial because you can establish a basis for marriage that is not based on superficial elements. In Hindu marriages in India the husband and wife may know each other before marriage but it is important to remember that arranged marriages in India are very different than arranged marriages elsewhere...

 

[onlinebuddy]

Greetings to all,
My marriage is somewhere between arranged and love. My church friends and family suggested a girl that loved God. I accepted the suggestion and prayed much about it. We got to know each other, and fell in love, and then got married. It's been 21 years now, and marriage has been a blessing to both of us.

I would say that it does not matter how one gets married (arranged or love). Also, there is no perfect spouse (if you're looking for the perfect one). Finding a spouse is just the beginning. A (Christian) marriage is successful when both partners love the Lord, love each other, trust, encourage, forgive and serve each other, despite the differences. The purpose should be to glorify Christ, and portray Christ to our children. Nowadays children do not respect marriage, which instituted by God. This is because parents are too selfish with each other. Therefore we must remember that with marriage also comes responsibility.

Since India is a diverse nation, culture dictates a lot of factors such as dialects, traditions, food preferences, cooking styles, dress styles, music, etc. Therefore marrying someone from your own culture may help. I have personally seen a couple of marriages turn sour because of cultural differences.

The cultural differences may take a higher toll when both are from different countries. For example, my sister-in-law (Indian) married an American. When their children turned 18, the husband wanted to set them free so that they could live independently (as they do in the U. S.), whereas the wife still wanted them to stay at home so that she could care for them and nurture them (as an Indian mother would). Despite both being Christians, this was the biggest bone of contention between them.

And yes, I have seen (among my close relatives) many arranged marriages where the parents were deceitful, and therefore they put their children into trouble.

Having said that, I do believe that Christ can bind two faithful people together irrespective of their cultures and differences.

To all my brothers and sisters who are looking for spouses, may God bless you with His best.

 

[gene77]

An update: Since I started this thread, I thought I would end it as well. When I typed out the very first post here, I was single and praying for the right man to enter my life, because I felt that I was ready to take the next step, and start a family of my own. Little did I know, that God was already working to bring the man into my life. Most importantly, my parents and grand mothers have been praying for the right man in my life, for years now. So, I did not want to settle for anyone who I "thought" could probably be the one for me. I knew deep down that I would just know, when I do meet him. And, then, I did meet him. The best part: My entire family feels at peace about our relationship, and they know that he is the one for me. It's such a pleasure to see my parents so excited planning the engagement and wedding. It's going to be an honour for me to get engaged on the same day that my parents are celebrating their 25th wedding anniversary [November 2]. The wedding will be held in April [Yaay! =P]

In conclusion, it turned out to be a love marriage for me, after all. We are from different countries. And, our cultures are different. However, my family is extremely diverse and we have relatives from at least 12-15 different countries (I should count). So, I'll be adding one more to the family. =P I would deeply appreciate it if you all keep me, him, and my family in prayer, as I'm going to be making one of the biggest steps in my life.

In Christ's love,
Genevieve

 

[onlinebuddy]

An update: Since I started this thread, I thought I would end it as well. When I typed out the very first post here, I was single and praying for the right man to enter my life, because I felt that I was ready to take the next step, and start a family of my own. Little did I know, that God was already working to bring the man into my life. Most importantly, my parents and grand mothers have been praying for the right man in my life, for years now. So, I did not want to settle for anyone who I "thought" could probably be the one for me. I knew deep down that I would just know, when I do meet him. And, then, I did meet him. The best part: My entire family feels at peace about our relationship, and they know that he is the one for me. It's such a pleasure to see my parents so excited planning the engagement and wedding. It's going to be an honour for me to get engaged on the same day that my parents are celebrating their 25th wedding anniversary [November 2]. The wedding will be held in April [Yaay! =P]

In conclusion, it turned out to be a love marriage for me, after all. We are from different countries. And, our cultures are different. However, my family is extremely diverse and we have relatives from at least 12-15 different countries (I should count). So, I'll be adding one more to the family. =P I would deeply appreciate it if you all keep me, him, and my family in prayer, as I'm going to be making one of the biggest steps in my life.

In Christ's love,
Genevieve

Thanks for the update, Genevieve, and congratulations! May God bless both of you abundantly and give you wisdom for the road ahead.

 

[Glori]

Hi Gene, That's an important question you have brought up. As Christians, we need to follow the Word of God and train our lives accordingly. Marriage was first brought about by God Himself in the garden of Eden as we all very well know. To get a Biblical outlook to marriage, I would suggest a profound e-book which is very short and concise on the subject. It's called ' A Marriage that is Strong Until Death' by Edith Paul. Youi'll find it on www. amazon.com. It is a must-read. God bless you

 

[presidente]

I've got a question that I'm curious about. I have three male friends who are older, ranging from about 40 to 50, who have never married. None of them are Indian. Two are white Americans and one is an American of Japanese descent. My wife seems to like to set people up sometimes, so she's shown friends' and relatives' pictures to a couple of these guys and nothing has worked out yet. But let's say hypothetically one of them was interested in marrying an Indian woman. Actually, one of them said he does does have a preference for women from certain other countries, not exclusively India. I think it's more of an attraction issue for him personally. Would your typical Christian Indian parents, seeking to set up an arranged marriage, consider setting their daughter up with a man who wasn't Indian? Could he network in the Indian community and have people referring him to available women for marriage?

 

[levi85]

one should not take decisions immediately but wait for the Lord with praying

 

[savedNblessed]

I've got a question that I'm curious about. I have three male friends who are older, ranging from about 40 to 50, who have never married. None of them are Indian. Two are white Americans and one is an American of Japanese descent. My wife seems to like to set people up sometimes, so she's shown friends' and relatives' pictures to a couple of these guys and nothing has worked out yet. But let's say hypothetically one of them was interested in marrying an Indian woman. Actually, one of them said he does does have a preference for women from certain other countries, not exclusively India. I think it's more of an attraction issue for him personally. Would your typical Christian Indian parents, seeking to set up an arranged marriage, consider setting their daughter up with a man who wasn't Indian? Could he network in the Indian community and have people referring him to available women for marriage?

I could speak for my parents here. Yes! They are open to look into proposals that are Non-Indian. But that's just them. I would say it depends on the individuals. Getting back to your friends, I don't know anyone that is around your friends age, that would be interested. I sorry!

 

[levi85]

Yes they can find their partner in India, they need to get in touch with the pastor families and the one who will get marry, if you need help we can help you.

 

[Jeshuvan]

An arranged marriage differs no where,in no country or geographical region,when its totally and truly arranged by God,as mine and my wifes was.She is Indian and Im american,we r totally opposite,but none of these things ever seem 2 matter ,they only compliment each other.But one thing that does matter is we both truly and totally live first 4 God,that we have in common,a Christ centered marriage when this lifestyle is in place all else will joyfully follow.Matt:6-33 seek first Gods kingdom and his righteousness and everything else shall be added,What a promise from God.

 

[shaadisankalpldh]

I believe Indian marriage are still arranged and many dont complain about it.It's still the best way to get married India,It's tradition .Rought about 60% of the populace go for arranged marriages nowadays.Unless the person is really love and doesnt want to give up on love.