I do not know the formula. Since saved and filled with the Holy Spirit in 2009, I had prayed for a spouse because I felt as if God was opening my heart to this idea, to my once closed heart about this. Two separate times, I had specific horrible disappointments. The first was when I wrote all specifics to God all down, and prayed that God be first for both of me and a future spouse, and wanted a man and marriage that honored God. I was led to a church and this specific man showed up one day!!! We talked and were friends for three months. He left the church and married someone else. Another time, I did an even more specific prayer and wrote it all down and within months a man showed up with all the qualities. But, he also decided no and said that he thought I was too good for him. This was horrible for my heart so I just stopped.
Now I just rededicated myself to singlehood and the Lord, and he led me to another country and I feel no desire for a spouse, or to pray or be with a spouse. I feel like freaking mother Theresa as I just help and work with university students for all my time. I have lost total and all desires for this and NEVER will I pray for such a thing. I also pray against anyone praying this for me, because of the deceptive hurtful men who have shown up in my life. So, I think my experience of praying like this to be very dangerous for my heart. Just sharing my experience. Sorry if I derailed this thread, but I do not believe in praying for a spouse anymore. I think it is tough when you pray for it, and the other person makes a choice to go another way.
I am happy for you Tourist and JesusLives!!! This is exciting news!!!!