Can't be healed?

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Blain

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Man I am really feeling down in the dumps, this is sort of a rant i guess but I didn't know how else to express my feelings.
I am diabetic and I also have a very serious caffeine addiction that I tried my best to kick but couldn't. Im gonna be honest I am horrible at this whole diabetes thing, I have little to no self control and I love sweets. I have prayed for healing for a very long time many have prayed for me and no matter what I never stopped having faith that he could heal me. Faith was not the issue but all the prayers in the world don't seem to have any affect.

I can't keep going like this, I am tired of drowning in my own anguish and tears and im tired of hoping for something that I know I can't have. I read all the stories how Jesus cured people simply because they believed he could, I hear testimonies and stories how people receive these healings and all they had to do was ask. I know Im not the best person or the best Kind of Christian and sure I don't deserve to be healed but Honestly I gave it everything I had, even when my gut and my mind told me the answer was no that he isn't going to heal me I said no i refuse to believe that I believe in him. But the sad part and perhaps what hurts the most is that those things were right every single time no matter how much I put my faith in him no matter what I did how much I prayed how much every one else prayed for me it simply didnt matter the answer is always no.

Im really starting to think that I simply cannot be healed and that the answer will always be no. I know the whole in his timing he says yes believe me I preached and believed it a long time it was the only thing that kept me from breaking down like now. But tonight was horrible, my mom got so mad at me because I drank to much coffee and I ate some bread and peanut butter and it just hurts. I know what my family thinks of me I know that im probably just as bad as they say I am, I just wish that for once I could cry out to God and he would not be silent like he always is. I wish for once I too could be healed that I was right in believing and having faith and honestly that any of my prayers even mattered. Because when I pray a lot of the times it feels like it doesnt even reach his ears and even if it did its as if he just ignores them.
 

Mem

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It's never hopeless. There is a doctor, Joel Wallach, who had perform so many autopsies be came to notice similarities these people have in common, lack of proper nutrition. Now, our Father is not going to heal you so that you can go back to eating too many sweets and that's all. But if you get a healthy balance a sweet here and there won't kill you. This doctor was challenged to cure a very influential man who threatened to ruin him if he did not come through with his promise to restore him to health even though his diabetes was so bad that he was threatened with the amputation of his legs. Our bible says "My people parish for lack of knowledge," so look into what this man is saying because God always provides a way. It might not always be an instantaneous miracle but a miracle nonetheless. His book is called "Dead Doctors Don't Lie," by that title he means that most doctors are not taught nutrition in med school and if what they are taught is so great why does the average doctor die so young? It's worth looking in to anyway.
 

santuzza

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Okay, can I be blunt here? Stop praying to be healed and start praying for endurance and the strength to take on your disease. Diabetes can be managed, but you have to want to do it. Sounds to me that you're just waiting around for a miracle instead of leaning on God to get you through it. Seems to me that's what He wants you to do.

CAN you be healed? Of course you can, and in some respects it doesn't matter how deep your faith is or how many times you pray. God's will will be God's will, like it or not.

Time to totally subject yourself to God's will and work through your situation. God will strengthen you and will make it possible. Stop looking for the miracle cure and start getting on with your life. More often than not, there is no easy solution, no miracle cure. God surely has a purpose here -- start living that purpose!
 
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Richie_2uk

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Blain, I would like to say that I been were you are . truth of the matter if people are honest, we all been or going through were you are now. but what helped me, was I looking into believing a different way than usual. Sometimes its hard to believe in healing. Sometimes it easy. I can tell you that God wants to heal you, and will do if you believe with all your heart. but that may not stew well in you. Just stop and think for a moment. and tell God, "Father you have given me this body as a loan, I have therefore not kept it as clean as you wished, for me to. But God i trust you that you will mend it for me and I will try harder to keep it clean for you." Thank him, praise him, and most of all believe in that healing is coming.

It's like that question, is it better to believe in faith, or have faith to believe? truth of the matter its all down to how much you do either. God is going to heal you Blain. I beleive it, many people here will believe it. You need to believe it. God bless............
 

blue_ladybug

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Blain, you can always be healed. Like santuzza said, you need to lean on him through this and not wait for a miracle. Life is tough for all of us and somewhere out there, someone else has an even worse case of diabetes than you do. That is something we ALL need to remember: that no matter what we are going through, someone else's situation is even worse than our own. I'm gonna be honest and tell you that you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself, and start praying for the strength and willpower to start managing your diabetes better. Talk to a nutritionist, make up a meal plan, start drinking more water, and make a strict limit on sweets..Say maybe twice a week for sweets. If you sit and wallow in your misery about your home life, and the fact that you keep asking to be healed and aren't, then you aint gonna make no progress in all this. Get into the mindset of knowing that you CAN do this, that diabetes CAN be managed, that you CAN control your sweet tooth.

It's all about the attitude you put forth in this situation, Blain. If you have a negative attitude, you will see this situation as hopeless. If you keep a POSITIVE outlook, you will see it as successful. There is no such thing as impossible, because the very word itself says I'm possible!!!! :) Remember that and you WILL beat all this. Good luck, sweetie. :)
 

jogoldie

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Hello my brother........blain why do you think God is saying no......because it didnt happen immediately....
Or maybe you felt a sign or answer should be obvious......what I have found.....those things hardly ever happen that way..
God is more subtle than that...at least He is to me......I think....you not only should pray.....but you should do everything
you can to learn how to handle what is put in front of you.....God had put me with this family for a short couple of
years....they had a two year old little girl who we found also had diabetes.....now this child ...new and loved her sugar..
cookies were her friend.....boy was she mad when we stopped giving her these things......it was so sad....
but instead of pouting and having tantrums......we found ways by learning more about what was good for her
and what was not.....and we did our best to find diabetic treats that would satisfy .......it was a battle on a daily...
at first......then we found the other children were sad because they didnt have special treats like she did....
Im just saying......play the hand your dealt.....with a good attitude and joy......God hears you....He loves you...
I really dont think His answer is no........I just think there is wisdom to be gained here.....trust Him.....
Learn what your suppose to in this trial....cause none of us know what His plan really is....and if we
do our best with what we are given......then you will realized no trial is permanent ...and God makes
treasure out of trash....head up my young friend....show em your best ....love and peace ....jo
 

tourist

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Okay, can I be blunt here? Stop praying to be healed and start praying for endurance and the strength to take on your disease. Diabetes can be managed, but you have to want to do it. Sounds to me that you're just waiting around for a miracle instead of leaning on God to get you through it. Seems to me that's what He wants you to do.

CAN you be healed? Of course you can, and in some respects it doesn't matter how deep your faith is or how many times you pray. God's will will be God's will, like it or not.

Time to totally subject yourself to God's will and work through your situation. God will strengthen you and will make it possible. Stop looking for the miracle cure and start getting on with your life. More often than not, there is no easy solution, no miracle cure. God surely has a purpose here -- start living that purpose!
This is an awesome post. My late wife had debilitating medical issues that the family would constantly be prayed for to be healed. She decided many years before that she would indeed be healed but perhaps not in her lifetime. She accepted God's will for her life and patiently waited for God's desire for the actual physical healing. She is with the Lord now and is more alive than I will ever be in my lifetime here on earth. Near the end of her life I did not know what to pray for anymore so I prayed for God's will to be done in her life and not my desire. She died later that night. She is now walking freely without pain.
 
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NewWine

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I have a spinal disease. Some days I can barely walk, and some days I can't walk at all. I have had 2 spinal surgeries, and the doctor wants to do at least 3 more, but I had to tell him my body just can't handle more. The second surgery made things worse, and now daily I live in pain. I KNOW from where you're coming, but what stands out to me with you, is the same thing I had to realize in myself. This disease doesn't define you. You're not God's little diabetic child. You're God's Child; His masterpiece; just as you are. I HAD to change my life to continue to live it. You HAVE to change your life if you want to continue to live it too. Why would God heal you, so you can continue abusing His temple? I was living a recklessly dangerous lifestyle in which I couldn't even get life insurance (without super high rates) due to the nature of my volunteer work. I had to change it. The good news about all of this is, that God doesn't usually take things like this from us without opening our hands and hearts to something better coming. Give up the sweets, eat healthier and give it a real try, getting past the cravings and feeling disappointed because you shouldn't have specific foods. Do this with a joyful heart too, why? Because we are to ALL things with a joyful heart. Don't look at this as a disability, you are perfect with God.
For me, the balance came in living a quiet life. I don't need the chaos anymore. I don't need the danger to feel alive.....for you, you don't NEED sweet foods to celebrate things, you don't NEED the danger of eating those foods to feel alive. God makes us (feel) alive, not foods, not danger, nothing else but God. Fill yourself in the sweetness of God, and watch the cravings change as your heart and mind changes. God isn't forsaking you, He only changing you. These feelings you're having tells me you're in a season of refinement, and refinement can hurt, whether it's physical pain like mine, or emotional trauma and pain like yours.
If God can still use me, and He does use me daily, He can definitely use you to fulfill His Glory! God is a big God with BIG shoulders. He can handle our being honest with Him and telling Him how is this right? Do I deserve this? And how do I carry on? He can handle our anger. Instead of asking to only be healed, ask him to be used right as you are.
I blamed my disease for everything; every problem I had in my life was my disease's fault. In fact it wasn't the fault of the disease, but how I handled the disease. I am the cause of the trauma in MY life. I am the cause and the cure of my own health. You may always be labeled as a diabetic (by people) but with the right diet, exercise and some simple life changes, you can be medicine free one day. You can overcome this, even if it never completely goes away. You can THRIVE in this, you can WIN over this, and you can bring God the GLORY in this.
Peace!
 

GodssSon

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It's not God's will that you or anyone be sick. God's will doesn't just automatically come to pass in people's lives. It's God's will for everyone to be saved, but as you know, not everyone is or will be saved. There are many reasons why people aren't healed when they pray, but please know it's not because God said "no". Yes, lack of faith is one, but that's not the only reason. Sometimes the devil can hinder prayers from being answered. Sometimes it's just the things we do or the way we live (we reap what we sow). Sometimes it's doubt we have (different from lack of faith). There are many reasons. For you, I would do like some have already said and change your diet. I know sweets and all can be tempting, but they aren't good for us to have in abundance. As we get older, we really have to start taking care of our bodies through what we put into them and to exercise or we won't be in optimum health. I pray that God directs your path and that you follow and that you may be whole and healthy! God bless you, Blain!
 

Blain

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Thanks everyone for your advice:) If I am honest I think maybe this was more about what happened with my mom than anything. True I want to be healed but its not my first priority my first priority Is on God himself. I also wasn't feeling that great that and my mom was extremely angry because she had a bad day and I think she sometimes likes to take it out on me. Although it is true I need to handle my diabetes better and I am working on it but lets just say that my family doesn't really understand me.

They love to gossip about each other and other people and I can't stand that( I hope Im not gossiping about them) and they all see the faults in everyone else but themselves plus they have no idea about my faith or my heart because they simply cannot understand it or my problems. Sadly I am very emotional and I was hurting last night and I think I was taking out my pain of God and using my own failures as a crutch and for this I am very sorry to him. You know I would prefer I could heal others even if that meant I myself couldn't be healed. I mean wow what an amazing gift to be able to heal the broken hearted and heal the sick and in pain, Perhaps one day he will allow me to be used like this and one day I will be healed but it may not be in this life for whatever reasons I know he knows what he is doing
 

Joidevivre

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Blain, I haven't been healed of some things. But I have learned that you can live well with lots of diagnosis. You are more than your sickness. And you still have God's anointing in your body. The Healer is living in you. Surrender to what He decides to do with your body (it no longer belongs to you since you gave yourself to Him). His purpose is to use your life and be glorified in it sick or well. He knows how He wants to do that.

That said, I wonder if we can expect God to care more for our bodies than we do ourselves. We are like partners with God in any healing. For instance, the one who smokes and refuses to give it up, yet expects God to heal him of lung cancer is sabotaging his own body or any healing that God might be doing.

Treat your body as you would if you were God, himself, with care, right diet, exercise, and especially with love for it.

Always remember, that His life is there in you - draw from it - walk in it - breath it in - be strong in it. HIS LIFE. Let that be your focus. And let your body be in the hands of Jesus under His will. We all think healing is the main purpose that Jesus has for our bodies - yet it isn't. It is for His glory. Whatever and however.

Yet, you always have His comfort to draw on - His life - His strength.
 
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sassylady

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This is one of those subjects where each and every person has a different answer. I have a neurological condition that is not painful, but extremely frustrating and unpredictable, as well as inconvenient. I believe God to heal me at any moment, I've asked many times, but I thank Him for giving me the strength and Grace to live with it.
 

Pemican

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Blain,

I am reminded of Paul and his thorn in the flesh, a demon that tormented him. Paul prayed three times, not a hundred times, just three times, that God would take it away. The answer was no. You know the reply, "My grace is sufficient for you." Paul accepted his situation and stopped praying about it. God knew all about the pain and allowed it to continue so Paul would not exalt himself with all that had been revealed to him.

I know a man who has been in and out of hospitals since he was 16 years old. He has come very close to dying many times but is now 70 years old. He has suffered physical pain and discomfort all of his life. From the age of 16 he has either been on crutches or in a wheel chair. He is now permanently in a wheel chair. He is also one of the strongest believers I have every known, an encouragement to others, upbeat, smart and very knowledgeable about the word. I pray for him everyday. I suspect his ministry is in part to doctors and nurses who God brings him in contact with all the time. I see his pain and suffering as his badge of honor, which he wears very well, with no resentment or regret, but in humility and acceptance of God's will and plan for his life. He is a great believer, who keeps fighting the good fight.