Are you a suck up?

I wasn't sure where to put this thread so I'm putting it here. Get over it Guys, I wanna know, what do YOU do to suck up to your wife/girlfriend/fiance when you lost an argument? Ladies, are you suck ups as well? What do you do when you have to re-prove your love for your man?This is what I grew up seeing: mom always right, unapologetic when she was wrong. My father always gives in even when he is right and buys the bouquet of flowers and says "Yes dear, I'm sorry."SO, what do YOU do? If you're not seeing anybody special, you can always post what you've done in the past if you have been with someone special before or just detail what your parents did This thread should get interesting. I look forward to seeing answers in a few hours

never had the relationship thing, but I don't suck up to anyone. period.

I'm over it already.

How nice, so, which parent did you hate more? Lol

I don't know about sucking up but I have been accused of being a brown noser.....meaning I try and do the right things at work and get the bosses on my side..... that is when I did work as I am retired now and I am the boss of the house.... well at least until November 27th when there will be a new boss entering the household in the form of one tourist.

In relationships I have been on both sides...in that I have said I am sorry if I knew I was in the wrong and I have been apologized to from the other party. No one is right 100% of the time and it takes a well rounded person to recognize when they are wrong and admit to it.

Even when my daughter was young if I felt I had not been fair or in the wrong I would apologize to her and she grew up knowing that you should take responsibility for your actions which is not a bad lesson to learn.

Blond short answer - Yes and I have been accused of sugar coating things too....

I don't suck up to anybody. It is what it is, if I 'm wrong I say so, I don't give in if somebody else is wrong morally and I won't go along with it. Sucking up is dishonest.

its easy to say that was don't suck up to anyone, but the truth of the matter is, we do. think about it for a second here. Who has being lieing to us from the day the earth was formed? who has been manipulating us from the start? who has been infuencing us? who has been constantly decieving us? who is the one, who was the biggest influence to make us sin?
well we have sucked up big time, I don't mean that in a the wrong way of course. but what i mean, we gave in to all the enemies suck ups. but I thank God the he has made a way out of it all. Just you need to go through it. "When I say YOU need, I mean not you the OP But people in general in the world" Sorry have to say that, as there are selected few people who will read things wrong and point the finger.

I try not to be. Doesn't mean that I haven't, but I will say something nice when I see fit with no strings attached. Usually the people you try sucking up to will be the first to backlash at you within the first sentence they don't like coming out of your mouth anyway. Sucking up just gives them a false sense of ego until there's something they don't like to hear, whether it'd be true or not.

I'd say the same for any given situation, married or not. There's a fine line of screaming from the top of your lungs in order to have the last say, but if a person's wrong then they're wrong. Giving them that false satisfaction to justify their actions just to have both parties to shut up will only lead them to continue to do such actions even more. Of course, that's not any of my business since I'm obviously not married... Though I can speak from experience as a person who has parents still married to each other on many levels as to what I've said.

I agree with you as you are definitely sugar coated. Sugar and spice and everything nice...

And so the love affair continues Hey tourist you be good to her you hear? I know where you live......

I will most definitely be good to her as God has given me an abundance of love to give to her. We would both love to see you one day and we appreciate you as a person and a spiritual man of the Lord. I believe that she wants to adopt you as a son but that may pose a problem with your other dear mother. Some sort of joint custody arrangement is being arranged even as we speak.

Yes they both are trying to figure this whole thing out I love them both as my own mothers but I don't wish to hurt one of their feelings by allowing both to me my adopted mom.
and as for the man part Im afraid I am not a man yet I am still a child. See a man is strong brave stands for the right thing even if everyone else opposes he is mature and and places everyone else first and a man is honorable and has a clean mind and heart. sadly I am far from this.

Anyone can be a man by age but it takes a real man to be one like this, so until this is me I will never be man. It also doesn't help I have a very childlike mind heart and nature so.....

No matter what you say Blain you are a Nice Young Man from God and you are reflecting Jesus to all of us that you are posting to you might not be able to see it yet but I can see it and tourist sees it too. You are a very special person and very precious in God's eyes and I am proud to be one adoptive mom to you and will share you with 1000's of moms who may want to get in on the be Blain's mom action. If we ever make it out your way we will most definitely stop in and say hi and pass out some hugs and kisses too cause mom's do that at least this one does.

aww I love you too♥ you know honestly I don't see what you see but i suppose lots of people don't ever see the effect they have on ppls lives either. I know my family sure doesn't see it but then again they have never seen my heart because they will only reject it and can never understand. The only loving family I actually have is here in cc, I admit I am not anywhere near perfect but I wish my family wasn't broken.

I had a dream a long time ago and I swear this must have been the first time I met Jesus. see I have longed for a good and loving family for a long time and in this dream I was in a pure white place( I actually seem to go here a lot its always a pure white place) and there was a family and they were all so happy loving and were laughing and I asked them if I could be a part of their family when then a man in what looked like ragged clothes said to me this is what you need to make your family and he gave me a hug. That hug was so amazing it was so warm and I felt the warmth and the amazing love and was in tears.

To this day I think that man was Jesus but that family I saw- I can't make my family that

Oh Blain- there is no man who is perfect in the things you said. I've been living with one, and have 3 sons and been around Christian men all my life.

You will never reach this perfection either. Keep your childlike heart - it is what most men lack.

My husband says a real man is one who is loving, patient, generous, kind and puts God first in His heart. You can do this with just your choices. And I'll bet you have more of these characteristics than you think you do.

About sucking up - I wasn't brought up with that happening. We were all honest with each other. Maybe to a fault. In my marriage, that doesn't happen either. Honesty rules. And it can hurt - but it is truth.

However, if you call working hard in your job to further an advancement, is that "sucking up?"

I have wondered if people who are on a works trip to earn their salvation or favor with God aren't "sucking up" to God.