Betrayal and forgiveness

Someone please HELP my wife slept with a man at her job and I'm trying to forgive her and just move on but I'm so depressed and I can't seem to shake this betrayal

You've been hurt. I think you need to stay in the pain that you feel and not deny it. It is good for us to grieve. Jesus said so in the sermon on the mount. "blessed are those who grieve, for they will be comforted". Grieving properly is an important part of our growth.

How do i let it go? I constantly think about it, not because i want to but i just get these flashes in my head of details she mentioned. Ive only told a few people becasue i didnt want her to be crushed by embarassment. I just want to forget that it ever happend so i can be happy again. It will be a year in May. How long is this supposed to take. I never thought she was capable of this. Im so depressed!!

I'm really sorry man. Your heart must feel like it is broken in two.

You are right in wanting to move on. The worse thing that you can do to a spouse is to betray the trust. If you truly love someone you do not do such a thing or even contemplate it.

Is she Christian? Has she asked you to forgive her? Is she truly sorry for her betrayal? Only you can answer these questions. If she has done the above then it is up to you to decide what you will do. It is a very hard thing to forgive but we are asked to do that. The forgiveness is really for your benefit by the way. There is something freeing to the soul to know that you truly forgave someone of a sin against you. It is the forgetting part that can be hard and the rebuilding of trust in the person once it has been broken. Which is why prayer and a close connection with God is so very important. Talk to God about this and lay all your broken heartedness at His feet. He will gladly help you with this burden.

Father please be with out hurt brother and lift him up into Your arms of love and help him to deal with this situation and come to know peace in You and Your love. I pray in Jesus Name Amen