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Elijah19

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Have you ever come through a great trial, or period of time in life, where God taught you a life-changing lesson from the ashes of defeat and confusion? If so, post it and give your back story about how you learned it. It may help someone else not have to learn the hard way! In other words, what was the deepest, hardest life-lesson God ever taught you and how? I expect that this will be a very deep conversation, and long posts are by all means encouraged. Ramble on for those of us who need it!...

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For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.............


The very most important one I have learned to this point.........(seriously)
 
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Elijah,

a very good thread.

this is an opportunity for many to share with their brothers and sisters and maybe
lend a helping hand/word...

throughout our lives we are presented with so many choices that can result in our
Spiritual growth, our choices are always inter-twined--'small choices/big choices -
we learn along the way that if we can make the right choices in the small things
then this will give us the wisdom to choose correctly in the weightier and more
difficult choices.

out of my storehouse, one of the most memorable and oh so long in learning lessons,
is to be 'patient' in the every day interactions with others, always remembering that
they are on their own personal journey and can always use a helping hand without a
pointing finger.
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missy2014

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mines pretty short and sweet the reason why I dont want to expand is simply it would depress me but two things :
Forgive and never give up God is always waiting for us hes got something he wants to teach us something that'll never compare to sin.
 
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missy2014

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Jesus lives is like pretty supportive she likes so much what I say I think youre one of my friends? maybe ... I get confused with the friend requests you or jesusmyonly anyway youre cool Jesus lives. Hello! *waves*
 
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missy2014

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I also think "from overflow of the heart the mouth speaks" proverbs somewhere so whatever comes out of the people here testifying to God's work /redemption in us itll show truelly what they have learnt their understanding of our God will show - Im not sure how to put it.
 
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lemesee...poverty, illness, looming homelessness...

being told our 13 month old baby girl is dying (she didn't)...
being told our 19 yo son is dying (he didn't) and then that he'll be paralyzed permanently
(he isn't)...

watching my sister and best friend lose her husband to bone cancer,
and two years later lose her 9 yo son...

i learned God is sovereign. no one can gainsay Him.
He loves us.
we can trust Him.

i can't put a price on knowing those things...
♥
 
Joidevivre

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Being married over 40 years has been the most life-changing, spiritual growth we could have ever gone through. You finally learn that God doesn't send you someone to "meet your needs" (that's His job). He sends you someone you can practice (painfully at times) acting out the fruits of the Holy Spirit which develops and strengthens those fruits.

You all know what I'm talking about: We have had to endure some personality clashes, forgive the worst sins against each other, have patience with each others faults, absolutely keep no record of wrongs, always believe that God is working on the other person, and love unconditionally. To put the other person's needs before your own.

Everything I mentioned totally went against our very natures which are selfish. But there is really a payoff when you see the other person begin to change and grow spiritually as the fruits of the Holy Spirit are given to them through you.

We had to choose to work and act on what the meaning of love is - but when we did, it was like Christ, himself, took it further and began to change us. We had thought it would change our marriage or change each other. But the biggest change was in ourselves. :)

I don't even recognize the little girl who just turned 17 when she got married.
 
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Can't remember how old I was but my first two memories were lessons in life that in a way have remained with me to this day. The second memory was the most painful and the pain was caused by eating green apples which taught me not to eat green apples which I don't do anymore unless they are ripe green apples. My first memory is of an evening where I accompanied my dad and mom to the cow barn to do the chores. It was dark out and my mom, who was walking on my right was carrying a flashlight and my dad was on my left. It wasn't an ordinary flashlight either. It had buttons that slid on the main body of the flashlight to change the color of the light: one green and one red. This was pretty fascinating to me. I remember trying to reach up and take the flashlight from my mother and I remember my fathers hand gently swatting my behind. I remember not wanting the flashlight any more. There have been times over the years when I wanted something and sometimes I went and got it and on occasion the fascination with what I got was just that - fascination; oh and then hindsight kicks in and I would think back to the flashlight. My dad never spanked me and never had to say no to me that I recall and yet in his own way he guided and corrected me and I respected him for that and even as I made mistakes in life he was there for me in many ways.

Luke 11:
[SUP]10 [/SUP]For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.
[SUP]11 [/SUP]If a son shall ask bread of any of you that is a father, will he give him a stone? or if he ask a fish, will he for a fish give him a serpent?
[SUP]12 [/SUP]Or if he shall ask an egg, will he offer him a scorpion?
[SUP]13 [/SUP]If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children: how much more shall your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to them that ask him?
 
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Beautiful absolutely beautiful ~
Joidevivre said:
Being married over 40 years has been the most life-changing, spiritual growth we could have ever gone through. You finally learn that God doesn't send you someone to "meet your needs" (that's His job). He sends you someone you can practice (painfully at times) acting out the fruits of the Holy Spirit which develops and strengthens those fruits.

You all know what I'm talking about: We have had to endure some personality clashes, forgive the worst sins against each other, have patience with each others faults, absolutely keep no record of wrongs, always believe that God is working on the other person, and love unconditionally. To put the other person's needs before your own.

Everything I mentioned totally went against our very natures which are selfish. But there is really a payoff when you see the other person begin to change and grow spiritually as the fruits of the Holy Spirit are given to them through you.

We had to choose to work and act on what the meaning of love is - but when we did, it was like Christ, himself, took it further and began to change us. We had thought it would change our marriage or change each other. But the biggest change was in ourselves. :)

I don't even recognize the little girl who just turned 17 when she got married.
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Since the day my eyes were first opened to the reality of Jesus Christ, every single time since that I have come to the end of my own resources, when my trying has failed me, and I run to the throne of grace recklessly abandoning my intellect (my limited understanding) to God in humility, feeling like a trapped prisoner surrendering to his/her captor, the Lord has gloriously set me free and revealed Himself to me like a wonderful Father who loves His child and I am renewed again and again. God is my Father!! ♥

My deepest life lesson is that my Sweet Lovely Lord Jesus the King of Kings is faithful and will not ever abandon me or let me fall. \;)/ Oh, how I love Him!!!!
 
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In 2009 I had my right foot reconstructed, because of the extreme deformities of RA. I trusted God, but he told me that it wasn't going to work out the way I thought it would.

I ended up with a failed construction, I lost my voice to an RA nodule, because I was off my RA meds for the surgery. I couldn't walk, talk and I was basically alone, except for my husband.

I cried out to God, and he took me on-line and into various Christian and health forums. I was able to lead people to Christ, and I am friends with many other non-Christians, whom I pray God will one day save.

My foot still hurts terribly, my singing voice will never be the same. I suffer physically terribly (esp. lately) but God has been so faithful to give me hope, joy and peace. God gave me the following verse, which I have used over and over in my own life and my ministry to the hurting and broken.

"Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, [SUP]4 [/SUP]and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, [SUP]5 [/SUP]andhope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us." Romans 5:3-5

I can only rejoice, that God really has changed my character, delivered me from depression, and is transforming me into the person he created me to be.

 
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Angela - You are such a good example of the truth that knowledge does not transform us or grow us spiritually. It is only by the process of struggling through things. I see by your testimony that nothing can rob you of your joy and peace deep deep in your spirit.

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Love, Joi
 
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That's a happy story, Joidevivre! It put a smile on my face! :D I'll try to apply these lessons in my marriage when I get there. Thanks for sharing them! Pray that me and my future wife in Christ will be able to practice these faithfully.
 
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Don't give up, Angela! Yours is a rich blessing and reward for faithfulness and love...
 
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Angela53510 said:
In 2009 I had my right foot reconstructed, because of the extreme deformities of RA. I trusted God, but he told me that it wasn't going to work out the way I thought it would.

I ended up with a failed construction, I lost my voice to an RA nodule, because I was off my RA meds for the surgery. I couldn't walk, talk and I was basically alone, except for my husband.

I cried out to God, and he took me on-line and into various Christian and health forums. I was able to lead people to Christ, and I am friends with many other non-Christians, whom I pray God will one day save.

My foot still hurts terribly, my singing voice will never be the same. I suffer physically terribly (esp. lately) but God has been so faithful to give me hope, joy and peace. God gave me the following verse, which I have used over and over in my own life and my ministry to the hurting and broken.

"Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, [SUP]4 [/SUP]and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, [SUP]5 [/SUP]andhope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us." Romans 5:3-5

I can only rejoice, that God really has changed my character, delivered me from depression, and is transforming me into the person he created me to be.
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I thank the Lord for you, sweet Sister Angela! Praise God that He has made His love and strength and mercy evident in this world through you. Thank you so much for sharing what great things the Lord has done and what a faithful Father He is! ♥
 
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Elijah19 said:
Have you ever come through a great trial, or period of time in life, where God taught you a life-changing lesson from the ashes of defeat and confusion? If so, post it and give your back story about how you learned it. It may help someone else not have to learn the hard way! In other words, what was the deepest, hardest life-lesson God ever taught you and how? I expect that this will be a very deep conversation, and long posts are by all means encouraged. Ramble on for those of us who need it!...

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I've been religious before, but I wouldn't say I'm religious now. However, at one stage in my life I was going through an abundance of issues and problems and I started to realize that all the problems that I face in life in some way emulate from me. I shape the world around me and the ways in which I react to situations dictate how I feel in regards to them. I can choose to react in certain ways or in others and its often more liberating to simply allow myself to be what I am, to feel what I feel and to let go when I've done that.

It has not been a quick fix for problems, I still make mistakes and shape my world in ways which are detrimental to me, but it has given me some perspective, insight and led me down a path that has taught me a lot of uncomfortable and harsh life lessons. I still get down in the dumps, I still hurt, I still feel fleeting joy and I still wake up sometimes and find myself discouraged from the moment I open my eyes, but I get the profound feeling that I'm working towards something, and that when I get there it'll be special.
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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It feels as though now may be the most challenging, character building time in my life. Letting go of a couple of previous relationships was really hurtful, and I did grow from them, yet this past year I've sought, and been met with, a lot of challenges, spiritually, emotionally and intellectually.

Deepest life lesson? Off of the top of my head, I would say it's perspective. Perspectives change everything, but not everyone changes their perspectives.
 
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