Blain is free:D

So here is the story, I have lived with my mom my whole life my physical needs were taken care of food water a warm bed but I was always trapped in my house unable to go anywhere or do anything. I have a 700 dollar disability check every month but I never got a cent my mom took it all and she would take my stuff like my laptop or other things. Basically I was in a prison I never got a say in anything and she would never do anything like to take me to the doctor to get my problems checked out. I needed help finding and getting a job I needed help getting my life started but she never helped. I learned that she only wanted me in the house because she wanted my money and that also is why she never helped me get a job or get life started because if I did and moved away the money would go with me. I also learned that her taking all my money and never giving me any was illegal but I was terrified to do anything because if for some reason anything went wrong she would make my life much worse she would take away everything from me making it where I have no contact to the outside world.

My Old high school teacher who has been like a mom to me for a long time has tried to help me, she has tried to convince me to go against my mom and move in with her where I can have my money, go places like to the gym or to the store I can have a debit card I can actually get some clothes( my mom never buys me any) and she would help me actually have a life but for years I was to afraid of my mom so she couldn't do anything because it was my choice. but a few days ago I finally said okay and these past few days were the scariest days in my life, I had to go to the social security office to get the whole check thing sorted out which was a hassle and I didn't know that since i was over 18, I could just leave and there was nothing my mom could do about it in fact my mom told me I couldn't.

However things got messy, I was over at my teachers house and scared as I was I called mom and told her I am moving out, she was furious and threatened to put my cat in the pound to get me home however I knew she would do something like that out of anger so the day before, my friend and, I sneaked my cat out and took her with me. so I had a few shirts, couple jeans, a few pair underwear, a single pair of socks, shoes, a few days of medicine, and shots as most of my stuff was at my old house. So we had to figure out how to be able to get me more medicine and we went to Walgreens where I usually get my medicine, and made it where I could get it but we forgot to bring money so we had to go back to my new home to get it, somehow my mom found this out and she went and picked up my medication just to bring me home.

My mom wanted that money so much she was willing to put my life in danger, I had no more medication and without it its very dangerous I could die. The thing is at the social security office they said that legally I could make my mom pay back every cent she held from me the whole six years, and I could make life very hard for her but I didn't want to do that I knew how hard it would be to pay all that back so I did the nice thing. But the problem is she screwed things up for her, because that medicine is mine what she did was steal it which is a federal crime. If i made a police report she would go to jail plus I still had the right to make her pay back all that money. I was encouraged to do both by my best friend (who is my teachers son). I could have made things so hard for her and then she does that, so I had to get my medicine and she had it I knew she would not give it to me willingly so we had to do something drastic we had to call the cops. I needed a cop to come with me to the house to make sure she gave me my medicine, we couldn't get the rest of my belongings yet but the medicine was the number one priority. the cop came and wanted to talk to my mom on the phone and of course she told lots of lies to convince the cop to make me come home but the cop was informed by us about my situation before hand so it didn't work.

So he convinced her to give me my medication, we went to the house with a police escort and she was waiting. she knew how much I cared about my sister kaylee and my grampa and as I was walking away with my meds she told me lies that they had apparently said that she knew would hurt me bad. it cut deep but I knew she was lying. So now I am finally free, I still have to get the rest of my belongings but now I am able to actually have a life, I only have to pay 200-300 dollars for rent but the rest of the money is mine and I am allowed to not pay rent for the first few months but clothes that actually fit, shoes, a computer of my own, plus some food and other stuff I get a debit card which I have never had before, I got a wallet of my very own a couple days ago which I have never had.

I was encouraged to file a police report on my mom and make her pay back all that money which of course would help me get my basic needs quicker but I am as my friend said too nice and didn't want to do either. I never wanted to hurt her I just wanted to be free and of course I forgive her i'm not even mad at her. so that is why I haven't been online lately and I thought everyone would want to know my situation

Blain, your mother committed welfare fraud by taking your checks for herself. You need to file a report on her for that, and also she sounds like a very selfish controlling mother.. She owes you ALOT of money that is rightfully yours. Report her to whatever foundation you receive your checks from. I'm glad you finally are free of her cruel clutches.. Good luck..

Shalom in Christ Jesus, Blain,

your testimony is wonderful, and remain in the grace of God.

Blue bug. you are way way way way way to infinity and beyond WRONG.

Blain, DO NOT listen to the likes who tell you to take court action. Later you will know and have peace
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but if you do go to court, you will not be obedient to God's Word,

and you will not have peace, and you won't get anything probably anyway except more trouble.

SO BE AT PEACE, leave your mom alone and don't do any police or court actions except as you

need to to survive. You have monthly check to meet your needs which is much more than a lot of people

around me have, and taking your mom to court would violate much of God's Word.

Shalom, Peace, Joy, and Well being in Christ Jesus ---- continue in Him and remain in Him.

jeff

His mother committed fraud..that much is a fact..she owes him money. That also is a fact..so how am I wrong? She did a crime and should be punished.

I'm very sorry. It's good that you got out of such abuse and you had people willing to help and back you up. What your mother has been doing was not right and you do have a right to not make contact with her anymore because she took such advantage of you, otherwise she could see it as a way to try to get you back under her care. People like this more likely than not will never change, no matter how much you try to convince them.

Hope that you will start to live a life you've longed to have and make the best of it.

as you said before in a post over a week ago, you don't have the faith of a little child to do what God the Father says to do.
that's how you are wrong. you think the world's/ social/ courts justice might be right, but it's not
the direction Jesus said to go, no matter how 'profitable' it might be.
a lot of the other carnal and worldly members and the world would applaud you and urge anyone to go to court when they can get money 'legally',
but that's exactly what Jesus tells believers over and over and over again to renounce and to escape from.

to be free in Him. to seek ABBA YAHWEH ELOHM, the One True God Creator of All, and do as HE SAYS entirely
different from all that the world and the world churches go along with.

save this for another thread, also. it is GOOD FOR BLAIN that HE IS FREE as GOD HAS SET HIM FREE.
let us rejoice with HIM AND

as much as possible pursue peace with everyone around us, even our enemies (but without taking part in their sin; some we are commanded not to even speak with nor to greet).

as JESUS SAYS "be as harmless as doves" (very few ever realize this in their lives, but it is required and is a testimony that we are truly in CHRIST JESUS and not just in a religion)....

please give me the link to the post where i supposedly said that because i don't remember saying it..thanks..

Jeff,

It's one thing to turn the other cheek if someone persecutes or does wrong to you, but what Blain has experienced was someone who threatened him to the point his life was at danger in order to control him. She clearly knew what she was doing and went to no extent to try to keep her defense in order to justify her actions (and lying about it). Blain is free to do what he wishes, whether to bring to justice or to make contact with her or not, but to let something inexcusable to slide is not what we should do if they continue to seek passing such a line. Punishment can be used when it's really needed.

How terribly, terribly sad that I have to read this today of all days - Mothers Day here in the UK - and possibly Europe. This is how a mother is not meant to behave but I have known for some time that this was occurring and that you desperately wanted out. I'm so happy for you Blain that you had the courage to finally take this step and win your freedom.
Despite what you legally know is possible, you know in your heart (because you have the heart of God Himself) that you have to be a better son than she is a mother and not cause her financial hardship by taking this further. Yes you are soft but better that than hard. You have been a good loyal son but everyone is entitled to freedom. Congratulations!

It isn't wrong to report someone for committing a criminal act,
and some would say you have a civic duty to do so. But my advice
would be to follow your heart and drop the entire matter, leave it
in God's hands. Settling this in court would take a long time and
expense, trauma, and agony. The $700 a month isn't a lot of money
and your mother could argue that this didn't even cover all the time
and expense she went to to take care of you. Forget about it,
get on with your life, stay out of God's way as He administers justice.
He knows all the facts perfectly and will deal with it with perfect justice.

More than making your choice based on your being a nice person, or that it would be costly, or that it would hurt her, make a choice as to what God is directing you to do. He always tells you the "next right thing to do", and will more than enable you to do it. He will even bring the help you need. Because you will be moving in obedience with faith. He knows what will help your mother - not you.

I wanted to hear in your first posting that after much prayer, the LORD was directing you to........ There would not have been so much pro and con. No one wants to touch what someone says is guidance from the Lord in any matter.

Spend much time in prayer - and listen with a heart for God's direction. Not ours.

I'm quite sure that Blain has been in prayer over this for some time.

ty everyone for your kind words. Blue I know all the money she owes me and I know lots of ppl would make her pay me back which is thousands of dollars but aside from me just not being that kind of person I knew in my heart God didn't want me to do that. this was never about the money to me and I don't want her to go to jail or anything but above all I knew that this is what God wanted. the entire time I was being encouraged to file a police report and make her pay back the money I kept asking God what do you want me to do? and sure enough in my spirit came the answer.

Good for you. No matter what she has ever done to you she is and will always be your mother. Just remember that God wants us to honor our parents in the Lord. You don't have to agree with them and what they do to you. I will say that not pressing charges takes a lot of love not to do even when you have grounds to do so. I respect you very much for this decision.

Blain, I know we have talked about you doing this is the past, and I am so glad you finally found the courage and the help to leave!

From what you describe, it sounds like your mom has some kind of personality disorder. That means her needs will always come before yours, including stealing from you and lying. And not putting you, as her disabled offspring first.

Although I understand you want to honour your mother, there is also obedience to the laws of the country, which your mother has repeatedly broken. To say nothing of abuse. I would consider your options about charging her, and do not be intimidated by her. She is not going to change, one way or another, but you can get back some of the money and do some catching up on your life.

You are free, don't give into her manipulating in the future. She has proved herself to be a poor caregiver, and than relationship is permanently over. Just praying that one day you can reconnect on a true mother-son basis. But that will always mean coming from a place of strength, and not vulnerability. But you can do it with Christ by your side!

God bless!

well if I charged her then she would owe me thousands of dollars of which she does not have even with my step dads great income and my sisters still live with them so if I made life hard for her because of the money I would be making it hard for them. I don't care about the money and I don't want anything bad to happen to her or my sisters so I won't press charges, Besides I have already forgiven her as if it never happened. I know that there is the law but I also know that I am doing the right thing

it took a while to find but here it is...... >>
http:// christianchat . com/miscellaneous/108279-penguins-sin-no-people-sin-yes-penguins-smarter-than-people-penguins-harmless.html#post1907103

quote in context: >
jeff: <<<<<"penguins sin? no. people sin? yes. penguins smarter than people!penguins harmless!
Jesus tells everyone who listens "be harmless as doves".

people just don't usually listen to Jesus. people bad.

Jesus can make people good. only if Father wants. otherwise no.

in OT even, Yahweh pick men, calls some righteous; calls others evil. still does that today.

people just don't listen.

written for children.
little children, get free from idols.
don't be bad like most adults. Yahweh help. >>>>>

LB >>> 3 Weeks Ago #2


Re: penguins sin? no. people sin? yes. penguins smarter than people!penguins harmless
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excellent thought, but there's no little children on here..lol..
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jeff >>>>3 Weeks Ago #3


Re: penguins sin? no. people sin? yes. penguins smarter than people!penguins harmless
you could be one, with the few that are.... (if God shows mercy)

Jesus says "unless you become like little children, you will never see the kingdom of heaven."

and some of the people , most of the people, in the world, never do.

remember that people you said you trusted, were not little children, and they lied to you.

only trust Jesus; not those who He says very specifically not to trust.

this is one of the hardest things

to do for everybody, but completely necessary to receive from God LIFE and all the good things He freely

gives in Jesus.

AMEIN in YAHSHUA !! YES YES YES AND AMEIN !!!! the TRUE TESTIMONY of a CHILD-LIKE BELIEVER who can see THE KINGDOM OF YAHWEH (HEAVEN) NOW, TODAY..... YES AND AMEIN......

Your mother just like the rest of us will have to answer to God one day why she has done the things she has done. Thank you for showing her mercy even though she does not deserve it. Reminds me of someone else who showed me mercy when I didn't deserve it. Doing the right thing for the right reason is always honorable. God does have a book of Remembrance who knows but that maybe your act of kindness is written there?

Jeff. you obviously misunderstood that post.. When i wrote, "there's no little children on here," i was referring to the LITERAL fact that there are NO little children on this site..lol.. boy are you way to infinity and beyond wrong..