Regret....We all have it. What are a few regrets you have?

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JeniBean

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Share and unburden your regrets. We can all learn from others regrets. I will start first.

I regret I didn't tell my younger brother I loved him last time I spoke to him. He died suddenly a few days later. :(

I regret that I often see the best in every one and feel I can fix them with God's help and love. It often has caused much pain in my life.

I regret I didn't get to know my grandparents, Aunts/Uncles and cousins. I regret knowing I have a whole extended family and don't know them, though they have never tried to get to know me and each time I reach out they simply are like...WHY??

Care to share yours????
 
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JeniBean said:
Share and unburden your regrets. We can all learn from others regrets. I will start first.

I regret I didn't tell my younger brother I loved him last time I spoke to him. He died suddenly a few days later. :(

I regret that I often see the best in every one and feel I can fix them with God's help and love. It often has caused much pain in my life.

I regret I didn't get to know my grandparents, Aunts/Uncles and cousins. I regret knowing I have a whole extended family and don't know them, though they have never tried to get to know me and each time I reach out they simply are like...WHY??

Care to share yours????

​No, not really. I've let go of my regrets/ grudges and I'd rather not recollect them for the entire internet to see. :/
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CarolSampaio

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I don't think I have regrets in my life... at least not yet!!

There are things I wish I had done differently, but all our mistakes, wrong choices, lacks and so on... they help us form who we are today!! :)

For an example, the fact that I was in an abusive relationship and managed to break free of it made me so much stronger... and I don't regret it! I think God puts some stuff in our lives so He can shape us... even our bad choices, what we do or don't do, should be a source of apprenticeship, so we can grow more and more!!

I don't know... maybe it's just me!
 
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JeniBean

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CarolSampaio said:
I don't think I have regrets in my life... at least not yet!!

There are things I wish I had done differently, but all our mistakes, wrong choices, lacks and so on... they help us form who we are today!! :)

For an example, the fact that I was in an abusive relationship and managed to break free of it made me so much stronger... and I don't regret it! I think God puts some stuff in our lives so He can shape us... even our bad choices, what we do or don't do, should be a source of apprenticeship, so we can grow more and more!!

I don't know... maybe it's just me!
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I wholeheartedly agree that many mistakes and/or wrong choices make us stronger. I am a firm believer that every choice shapes us to the person we are today and that we need to learn from all the good and bad in our lives as well as learn from others. For example The regret with my brother has taught me that is I truly care and love a person I will tell them I love them every time I talk to them.
 
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Not fathering any children. I would have been a great dad! :cool:
 
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JeniBean

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Hey Utah!!! I know you could still be a dad! You're never to old! And you could certainly be a "BIG BROTHER" to many children who have no father figure. It's like being a dad! I think you can reverse that regret! Especially since you are AWESOME!!!!
 
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Utah said:
Not fathering any children. I would have been a great dad! :cool:
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It's never too late!! :)

There's this guy here at work who had a child when he was 60... if he can, you most certainly can as well!! ;)
 
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JeniBean said:
Share and unburden your regrets. We can all learn from others regrets. I will start first.

I regret I didn't tell my younger brother I loved him last time I spoke to him. He died suddenly a few days later. :(

I regret that I often see the best in every one and feel I can fix them with God's help and love. It often has caused much pain in my life.

I regret I didn't get to know my grandparents, Aunts/Uncles and cousins. I regret knowing I have a whole extended family and don't know them, though they have never tried to get to know me and each time I reach out they simply are like...WHY??

Care to share yours????
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I regret I wasted so many years traveling in the fish's belly when I could have traveled by boat. (Reference to Jonah.)

I regret too many years listening to the doctrines of Man instead of actually checking out what the Bible says in context.

I regret ever picking up smoking as a habit and then not quitting early on.

I regret Mom never met the man I married. (They would have gotten along famously.)

I regret I'm a coward.

I regret being too quick on my words, without first thinking.

Most other things I used to regret have a lot to do with it working out God's way anyway. (Had I gone for the right major in the right school, I would have been able to do well in business, but would have never met my hubby. Had I really run away with my little brother to raise him in the Lord, we would have been two orphans on the streets, I never would have received an education, and I would never have gotten to know my dad better. Had I reported my brother, three nephews and one niece would have never been born. Had I simply have the doctors remove the gallstones without removing the gall bladder, hubby would have been all alone while on chemo while I worked. Had he had the blood test earlier in life, he would have become disabled earlier in life.) Most regrets tend to work out in God's timing. So, no big burden.
 
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JeniBean

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I regret I wasted so many years traveling in the fish's belly when I could have traveled by boat. (Reference to Jonah.)

I regret too many years listening to the doctrines of Man instead of actually checking out what the Bible says in context.

I regret ever picking up smoking as a habit and then not quitting early on.

I regret Mom never met the man I married. (They would have gotten along famously.)

I regret I'm a coward.

I regret being too quick on my words, without first thinking.

Most other things I used to regret have a lot to do with it working out God's way anyway. (Had I gone for the right major in the right school, I would have been able to do well in business, but would have never met my hubby. Had I really run away with my little brother to raise him in the Lord, we would have been two orphans on the streets, I never would have received an education, and I would never have gotten to know my dad better. Had I reported my brother, three nephews and one niece would have never been born. Had I simply have the doctors remove the gallstones without removing the gall bladder, hubby would have been all alone while on chemo while I worked. Had he had the blood test earlier in life, he would have become disabled earlier in life.) Most regrets tend to work out in God's timing. So, no big burden.
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Thank you for sharing! I understand a lot of that. I feel lately if I had pushed my DAD sooner to have those headaches checked out then he would've been depressed sooner and not wanting to live, so he knows now he has a brain tumor which is inoperable. All in Gods plan!
 
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atwhatcost

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Utah said:
Not fathering any children. I would have been a great dad! :cool:
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My Dad got married a second time when he was in his 50's. Thus youngest two siblings in my family.

My brother got married a second time in his 50's, thus two nephews.

Another brother got married in his late 40's for the first time. (Didn't work out so well, but he married a woman with two boys, so he had stepkids.)

Another brother got married in his mid 40's, thus my three year old.... wait! He'll be four in December, so he thinks it's important to say "three and a half."

What's that you say about being too old to be a Dad?
 
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atwhatcost

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JeniBean said:
Thank you for sharing! I understand a lot of that. I feel lately if I had pushed my DAD sooner to have those headaches checked out then he would've been depressed sooner and not wanting to live, so he knows now he has a brain tumor which is inoperable. All in Gods plan!
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Had I pushed Dad sooner to find out why he couldn't remember obvious things.... well, I never could push Dad to do what I thought he should do, so nothing would have changed but he would have been angry with me. lol

And had he learned earlier that he had dementia? It would have been just as hard on him.
 
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claim with all of your heart what your Father has given in Love -
may the world fall away.....
 
Utah

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Thank you, my beloved Sisters for your kind, encouraging words. For the first time in a long time I will pray about this. And JeniBean, you're right, at the very least I could be a big brother. :cool:
 
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nw2u

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Once years ago, I was riding in the passenger's seat of a car. It was summer. It was hot and I had the window rolled down to my right. For some reason, I had to yawn and did so like a lion does. My mouth must have been open at least a foot and a half wide. Well, it felt like it. Anyway, this bug decided to fly right in the window just at the right time, patooey...patooey...cough cough...gag..hack, hack....patooey...lol. I regret that I didn't have some ketchup and a soda....buuurrpp...pardon me...lol...blech
 
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I regret all the time I've spent on the internet, countless hours that I can never get back... *stares at computer screen*

 
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Practice-English

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I dare to share something,
but I prefer to not go on details...
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I regret a lot of things for sure,
but I regret things uncleared I made
to impress guys, men...
 
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santuzza

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There are a lot of "I wonder what would have happened if I..."s in my life, but truly, had I made different choices, I would not be the person I am today, in the place that God has me to be today.

Maybe I would have been rich and famous, but I could also be lonely or even dead or worse yet, out of communion with God.
 
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I regret not going to see Pikes Peak when I could have done so. Whew I' feel so much lighter now....

Seriously, that is a genuine regret, but rather fluffy. I regret not spending more time with each of my kids when their mom was in the hospital. Ten years later there are still wounds that need healing from that time. As my kids don't live with me now (outfall of marital disintegration), I don't have the opportunity to spend time with them.

There is light though. Earlier this evening, my daughter and I had a good conversation about important things for the first time since the separation. God is at work, and He is good.
 
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JeniBean

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Utah said:
Thank you, my beloved Sisters for your kind, encouraging words. For the first time in a long time I will pray about this. And JeniBean, you're right, at the very least I could be a big brother. :cool:
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Utah, my kids have no father figure. A good christian man as a Big Brother in a kids life would be a blessing to a mother. Give it a shot!
 
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