We live in a world where people hate the truth. Even christians the real and the fake ones. I grew up in a rough neighborhood. My friends never told me what I wanted to hear or what was pleasant to my ears, they always kept it real with me. They didn't care if the truth embarrassed me, or how unpleasant it was they just told it like it is. They were not christians but they were for the most part some pretty thorough stand up guys with good hearts. They just understood. we live in a brutal cold world so they showed tough love with me and each other. Some might even call them bullies by the way they treated their own friends, but I think hanging with them only made me a better person.
Their way of dealing with each other rubbed off on me and I must say this is a good thing and a bad thing.
I tend to be brutally honest with others, even i it is an unpleasant truth. I have an uncanny superpower of thinking outside of the box, and I tend to tell it like it is, even if that's not what people want to hear.
The cons of this
You tend to have less friends, because the majority of people want you to tell them what makes them feel good rather than what the truth is.
You have more enemies, because some people are so fragile and insecure they can't handle the truth.
The Pros of this
When you do make friends they tend to be more thorough an higher quality. Lovers of truth. Usually the opposite of cowardly.
They tend to be more righteous and real then the average person.
I tend to avoid people that I don't like. When I tell the truth it is for 2 reasons. I love you and I want you to be the best person you can be and I want you to accept what you need to hear not what is pleasant to your ears.
Its either that or I feel righteous indignation towards a person then my truth comes out in a passionate way. For example if someone is a racist and they are spouting racist rhetoric to deceive others. I will tell the truth to protect the naive so they won't be decived and also I will tell the deceiver about theirselves because I feel so disgusted by their deception, disguised bigotry and the lies they tell. That's just an example/
If I don't tell you the truth, and I tell you what you want to hear, it means basically one thing. I probably don't like you in fact I may even despise you. I probably see you as an evil weakling that will probably get mad at the truth if I tell it like it is. so I turn my charm switch on. I don't charm people I love I charm people I don't like. That would probably cause me problems if I told them the truth.
Life is much harder for people like me. The truth makes people hate you. It makes you many enemies. It got Jesus crucified.
It makes you stronger, but at the same time it causes you alot of problems. You make enemies. Not only that when you keep it real all the time you have less friends because most people like to surrround theirselves with people that whisper sweet lullabies in their ears that aren't based on the truth.
I think if I just was less honest, then I'd have more friends and less problems. I do have friends but they are few and far in between and they are usually like me. Tough as nails, and keep it real type of people. Should I just stop being so brutally honest with the people, and also defending the truth when the wicked people spread lies to further whatever agenda they have? I have found that the majority of people even christians are like sheep. They base their views and opinions whether falsehoods or not based on whatever the majority goes along with because they want to be accepted. They are scared to keep it real because then, maybe people won't like them. I've always been cool with speaking the truth, and being rejected. I feel like most people don't know how to be 100 percent honest with theirselves and others, because they will either not be accpeted by whoever the majority is, or they will catch flack for their honesty. To be bluntly honest I feel like most people that have alot of friends are the opposite of me. They tend to want people to like them so they hold out on telling the truth to be accepted. Of course their are exceptions to the rule. For example, a beautiful women that has alot of friends, because she get alot of male attention for her physical assets. lol. Or guy that is famous or poular so people want to be his friend because they think it will increase their social status.
Should I just stop being so honest. Or should I stay the same person I've always been and keep it real with people. Because I'm not bragging or anything, but their are few people out in society that are like me. Most people don't keep it real to the extent I do. I feel like being so honest even i it makes people dislike me has turned me into somewhat of an outcast in society. People either love and respect me for it or they get insecure or mad. Should I just be quiet, and curb the truth, and have alot of friends and less enemies or should I stay telling it like it is have less friends and alot of enemies.
P.s. I don,t mean if my wife asks me if she looks fa,t I tell her Yes. Or if a woman cooks for me I tell her that the food is nasty. Not that kind of honesty. I mean giving people what they need rather than they like. It's kind of like eating healthy. Junk food tastes better, but it will make you unhealthy and obese. Eating healthy and excersizing isn't fun but it will help you live longer and will make you healthy and strong. Should I start giving people the junk food they want or should I give them the less tasty, but more healthy TRUTH.
Their way of dealing with each other rubbed off on me and I must say this is a good thing and a bad thing.
I tend to be brutally honest with others, even i it is an unpleasant truth. I have an uncanny superpower of thinking outside of the box, and I tend to tell it like it is, even if that's not what people want to hear.
The cons of this
You tend to have less friends, because the majority of people want you to tell them what makes them feel good rather than what the truth is.
You have more enemies, because some people are so fragile and insecure they can't handle the truth.
The Pros of this
When you do make friends they tend to be more thorough an higher quality. Lovers of truth. Usually the opposite of cowardly.
They tend to be more righteous and real then the average person.
I tend to avoid people that I don't like. When I tell the truth it is for 2 reasons. I love you and I want you to be the best person you can be and I want you to accept what you need to hear not what is pleasant to your ears.
Its either that or I feel righteous indignation towards a person then my truth comes out in a passionate way. For example if someone is a racist and they are spouting racist rhetoric to deceive others. I will tell the truth to protect the naive so they won't be decived and also I will tell the deceiver about theirselves because I feel so disgusted by their deception, disguised bigotry and the lies they tell. That's just an example/
If I don't tell you the truth, and I tell you what you want to hear, it means basically one thing. I probably don't like you in fact I may even despise you. I probably see you as an evil weakling that will probably get mad at the truth if I tell it like it is. so I turn my charm switch on. I don't charm people I love I charm people I don't like. That would probably cause me problems if I told them the truth.
Life is much harder for people like me. The truth makes people hate you. It makes you many enemies. It got Jesus crucified.
It makes you stronger, but at the same time it causes you alot of problems. You make enemies. Not only that when you keep it real all the time you have less friends because most people like to surrround theirselves with people that whisper sweet lullabies in their ears that aren't based on the truth.
I think if I just was less honest, then I'd have more friends and less problems. I do have friends but they are few and far in between and they are usually like me. Tough as nails, and keep it real type of people. Should I just stop being so brutally honest with the people, and also defending the truth when the wicked people spread lies to further whatever agenda they have? I have found that the majority of people even christians are like sheep. They base their views and opinions whether falsehoods or not based on whatever the majority goes along with because they want to be accepted. They are scared to keep it real because then, maybe people won't like them. I've always been cool with speaking the truth, and being rejected. I feel like most people don't know how to be 100 percent honest with theirselves and others, because they will either not be accpeted by whoever the majority is, or they will catch flack for their honesty. To be bluntly honest I feel like most people that have alot of friends are the opposite of me. They tend to want people to like them so they hold out on telling the truth to be accepted. Of course their are exceptions to the rule. For example, a beautiful women that has alot of friends, because she get alot of male attention for her physical assets. lol. Or guy that is famous or poular so people want to be his friend because they think it will increase their social status.
Should I just stop being so honest. Or should I stay the same person I've always been and keep it real with people. Because I'm not bragging or anything, but their are few people out in society that are like me. Most people don't keep it real to the extent I do. I feel like being so honest even i it makes people dislike me has turned me into somewhat of an outcast in society. People either love and respect me for it or they get insecure or mad. Should I just be quiet, and curb the truth, and have alot of friends and less enemies or should I stay telling it like it is have less friends and alot of enemies.
P.s. I don,t mean if my wife asks me if she looks fa,t I tell her Yes. Or if a woman cooks for me I tell her that the food is nasty. Not that kind of honesty. I mean giving people what they need rather than they like. It's kind of like eating healthy. Junk food tastes better, but it will make you unhealthy and obese. Eating healthy and excersizing isn't fun but it will help you live longer and will make you healthy and strong. Should I start giving people the junk food they want or should I give them the less tasty, but more healthy TRUTH.
