People helping guilt

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ArtsieSteph

ArtsieSteph

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So there was a person on the side of the road today, someone with a sign that said "Homeless, please help" ect. I passed by the person and handed them some money, and he was just inordinately grateful.

Then came the guilt. The people helping guilt. Doesn't make sense since I just did a nice thing, right? Well whenever I seem to do something like, the very first emotion that comes up in me is, "that's not good enough" or "there's more you can do." I just walk around ripping myself apart for what else I could do, like give them water, buy them a meal, ect, ect.

Does anyone else have this? I feel like if that's my first reaction then maybe I'm not doing it for the person but rather for myself and not feeling guilty for what I could be doing.
 
Tinkerbell725

Tinkerbell725

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ArtsieSteph said:
So there was a person on the side of the road today, someone with a sign that said "Homeless, please help" ect. I passed by the person and handed them some money, and he was just inordinately grateful.

Then came the guilt. The people helping guilt. Doesn't make sense since I just did a nice thing, right? Well whenever I seem to do something like, the very first emotion that comes up in me is, "that's not good enough" or "there's more you can do." I just walk around ripping myself apart for what else I could do, like give them water, buy them a meal, ect, ect.

Does anyone else have this? I feel like if that's my first reaction then maybe I'm not doing it for the person but rather for myself and not feeling guilty for what I could be doing.
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I have felt something like that too. It only means you have a big heart and so much compassion for the helpless and needy. I have thought that if only I were rich I could help a lot of people. I could put up a charity foundation to help people in need who only need a glimmer of hope to have a fresh start towards a better life.
 
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