Text to an ex...

Yeah i know, but, unfortunatly i cant change the past...
Do you think I am wrong for sending it?

Thanks.... I still feel a little wrong, but idk...
And in the future i will try to refrain from profanity, especially in the presence of women.

But I just honestly hope I dont crush her... I know its probably going to hurt her some... :/

Just tell her sorry and you still love her. Its obvious that you can't get her out of your mind. Why is it so hard to say sorry? Treat a woman right and love her well and she will love you more. Give her crap and she will give you hell.

But, what does he have to apologize for? For standing up for himself? Seems to me SHE treated him like crap, not the other way around. So how about instead of the whole, "Men should treat a woman right," how about we change that to, "Everyone should treat everyone right"?

No, T_Laurich, do not apologize for that. I think texting her, you are fine with the texts you sent. Don't send another one. If she responds and is hurt, then you can say something, "It was never my intention to hurt your feelings and I do apologize for that, but I can't continue on with this and I need to do what is best for me."

People need to learn how to do boundaries and setting up boundaries with one another, no one should ever apologize for. You must ask yourself why you feel the need to say sorry. Is it becaue you feel bad? Bad for what? Evaluate your feelings before you make a decision. If you are feeling bad because you expressed your feelings, then why apologize?

Honestly, man...if she treated you that terrible, the thing is, she may not even care that you're walking away. As harsh as that sounds, she may just not care.

So i texted an ex i started hanging out with again recently and of course you cant possibly know the full story or her side of it... But she is sleeping and i know i picked a bad format of explaining these things but i tried talking in person... what do you think of the text??? Be honest, whether it hurts my feeling or not.


Below is the very long text...
This is probably going to make me seem like an *** but i dont feel like one.You can show this to who ever you want

Im just done being nice and not cared for... im done never being given the time of day... Im done being compared to guys i know im better than... And have someone look at me like im junk, but then they talk about others like they are gold... I know we are not dating but today reminded me of how i felt when i broke up with you, even though you broke up with me the month before....
You might feel different, but this is how i feel... at one point in time i really thought you were the one... I secretly wrote letters every day explaining what we did and how i felt about you... i planned on giving you them on our wedding day...
Everything was always about you and never about me... But maybe i made it that way, giving you all my money, all the attention i could give, and all the spare time I had... Maybe i am an ****e that is selfcentered and i treated you like ****.. I did some bad things to you, but in all, i feel like i treated you as best as a human being could, i dont feel like a bad guy... I actually feel better right now than i have in a month...
And no offence is meant by this... you are an amazing chick, you are hot as hell, and by no means are you a *****... But i finally realized me and you are not meant to be.... You probably realized that a long time ago considering you told me that you were most likely going to break up with me after the arizona trip, and you didnt want to spend time with me on your birthday even though i spent hundreds on you and your friends to be there.... I think you never understood me or who I am... And i think all of this was caused by me... I am the one who fast forwarded the relationship before we knew eachothe

If we stay friends after you read this then good... you are a good friend.
I was going to tell you all this in person but when i tried you didnt listen... What ever happens next, is what happens...

He said he did something wrong to her too. We don't know her side of the story. And it takes two to dance. If they still love each other why waste time and why not make things simple and just make up and work things out by changing their attitudes? If it does'nt work then at least they tried.

Thanks everyone for satisfying my wondering mind, and offering your thoughts

This is what she sent me this morning.

Thank you Tony and to be honest I think when we dated that we both had no clue in hell on what we were doing with each other and when I wanted to break up I wanted to be friends again so we could know more about each other before we dated or anything again and a year ago was a total different person then I am today cuz Idk what I'm doing anymore with my life...to be honest I kinda feel like I said screw it and just stopped caring about a lot and gavin up. ..I probably shouldn't be saying that but it is what it is I guess with life...and thank Tony for saying how you feel I'm sorry I didn't really listen to you at the fire...when I'm at bonfiers I'm so scattered brained it's stupid....@





So we are going to talk in person sunday after she gets off work.

We knew each other before hand, as acquaintances and worked at the same place for a year... Then started hanging out a lot... Then about 2 weeks later we started dating.
So we knew each other enough to hang out, but not enough to know each other.

But yeah, she isn't as bad as I make her seem... She is really a good girl, just idk when the camels back breaks all its load goes everywhere...