Lonely marriage

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Ariel82

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lv2ski said:
Please, notice that though I did say women, I do realize that there are plenty who take good care of their husbands. However this is huge problem in marriage that doesn't get addressed very much, but anyone who does marriage counselling will tell you that its very common. There is no shortage of preaching down at men about their roles, and how insufficient we are. I believe it only justifies indifference. And if we say anything it just gets turned back on us. So we don't and the unintended consequences are bad for all.
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Nagging..,,there are so many bible verses about nagging that many women don't want to hear.

I have learned alot from older women who have been married a long time and one of the best advice is not to go to bed angry.

There is even a Bible verse about it.


Some night I stay up a long time trying to figure out why I am angry and pray. If I am still upset in the morning, we talk about ...otherwise I give it to God.

Often my husband will bring it up or say his sorry for being a jerk or I apologize for overacting.

You have to work out the little issues and forgive or it will fester.
 
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Charley720

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I sent her a nice text earlier today that mentioned "Hope your having a great day,my beautiful bride"
She replied back with "Hope your having a good day too, my handsome husband" It is small but making progress. Thank you!!
 
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jenniferand2

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There is hope there can you all turn off the electronics and take a walk and hold hands or just play a game together like gin rummy or something? we often get so caught up in everyday life we forget to connect with each other. I live with a dead horse lol I could stand on him and beat him begging for attention and nothing no response except a blank face saying what are you doing. I have given up some days i feel like it is not even worth wasting my time when he does not even care to treat me right. I will pray you guys reconnect.
 
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Charley720 said:
I sent her a nice text earlier today that mentioned "Hope your having a great day,my beautiful bride"
She replied back with "Hope your having a good day too, my handsome husband" It is small but making progress. Thank you!!
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Good job. Be honorable and blameless. Dont be part of the problem . God will work for you, when He's not always having to deal with your sin on top of it all. Love and Respect is a greatt marriage book/seminar with workbook that you could do together . He does an excellent job helping you to understand each other. Without psychology . biblical base. Hang in there!
 
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oldethennew

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it is impossible for a carnal marriage to prosper in God's will and to pretend that it is Holy...

for those who would pretend so, with wearing 'white' as their mantle of purity is such a universal lie...
do we really believe that such a falseness could make one believe and pretend that it could be Holy?
and that God's blessing would be upon them?

REV. 13:4.
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

LUKE 17:27.
They did eat, they drank, they married wives, they were given in marriage, until the day
that Noe entered into the ark, and the flood came, and destroyed them all.

REV. 19:9.
And he saith unto me, Write, Blessed are they which are called unto the marriage supper of the Lamb.
And he saith unto me, These are the true sayings of God.
 
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Charley720

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I will pray for your marriage too. God is great,and there is nothing He can't do!!
 
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Ariel82

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Charley720 said:
I sent her a nice text earlier today that mentioned "Hope your having a great day,my beautiful bride"
She replied back with "Hope your having a good day too, my handsome husband" It is small but making progress. Thank you!!
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We always give hugs and kisses in the morning and before parting from each other and remember to say we love each other because you never know what might happen.

It might be the last time you see them this side of heaven.

We equals my husband, my kids and I.

Someone on here posted that they wrote love notes in their kids lunch boxes.

When we were dating I would leave flowers and love notes in my husband's study area, dorm, car, etc.

Random and whenever I felt moved to....I would also try and sneak up and pounce on him, but he only pretended to be surprised most of the time....lol, but pouncing is still fun.

The kids are easier to pounce on though and they are ticklish so that's nice. Lol.
 
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lv2ski

lv2ski

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oldethennew said:
it is impossible for a carnal marriage to prosper in God's will and to pretend that it is Holy...

for those who would pretend so, with wearing 'white' as their mantle of purity is such a universal lie...
do we really believe that such a falseness could make one believe and pretend that it could be Holy?
and that God's blessing would be upon them?

REV. 13:4.
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

LUKE 17:27.
They did eat, they drank, they married wives, they were given in marriage, until the day
that Noe entered into the ark, and the flood came, and destroyed them all.

REV. 19:9.
And he saith unto me, Write, Blessed are they which are called unto the marriage supper of the Lamb.
And he saith unto me, These are the true sayings of God.
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What are you talking about??
 
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esb2nd

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I can relate. My marriage has been difficult for many years. My depression and anxiety has been the main cause. Also intimacy has been non existent but it's mainly because of me. I have difficulty with ED because of my low self esteem.
 
lv2ski

lv2ski

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esb2nd said:
I can relate. My marriage has been difficult for many years. My depression and anxiety has been the main cause. Also intimacy has been non existent but it's mainly because of me. I have difficulty with ED because of my low self esteem.
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Very sorry to hear that. Immerse yourself in the scriptures. That's where the healing is. You owe it to Him, her and yourself. Our emotional health is our responsibility. Jesus can and will heal you.
 
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