Excessive fear of rejection!

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Romans837

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I have an overload of a fear of rejection! And it is driving me nuts. I feel rediculous being afraid to talk to someone for fear of them rejecting me. How can I get rid of that fear? Due to that fear I am pretty much secluded emotionally from Everyone but my immediate family and best friend...and even then I have to constantly make sure they are not mad at me for fear of them leaving me. But it is so bad that I won't even talk to a lady that is my age that goes to my church that I have been.wanting to be friends with for several years. I am afraid she will have no desire or time to even talk to me because she has children and I don't. I want to be rid of this fear! I hate it and it is so illogical. I know just because I have been rejected in the past by many people, that not everyone will reject me...but how do I get that out of my heart?
 
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HisHolly

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Know what you have to offer and realize everyone gets rejected.. find circles of folks with like interests.. less likely to happen if you need a boost;)
 
BruceWayne

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Talk yourself up, know that it's okay if sometimes you get a rejection, and go talk to them. That's how you get over it, at least to the point where it won't hold you back. And if they're not interested, then at least you did it and know that you can and that's progress.
 
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Romans837

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BruceWayne said:
Talk yourself up, know that it's okay if sometimes you get a rejection, and go talk to them. That's how you get over it, at least to the point where it won't hold you back. And if they're not interested, then at least you did it and know that you can and that's progress.
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Yeah, I have done that before which shocked my parents at the time cause it is so out of character for me. It still hurts to get rejected though.
 
Willie-T

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Romans837 said:
I have an overload of a fear of rejection! And it is driving me nuts. I feel rediculous being afraid to talk to someone for fear of them rejecting me. How can I get rid of that fear? Due to that fear I am pretty much secluded emotionally from Everyone but my immediate family and best friend...and even then I have to constantly make sure they are not mad at me for fear of them leaving me. But it is so bad that I won't even talk to a lady that is my age that goes to my church that I have been.wanting to be friends with for several years. I am afraid she will have no desire or time to even talk to me because she has children and I don't. I want to be rid of this fear! I hate it and it is so illogical. I know just because I have been rejected in the past by many people, that not everyone will reject me...but how do I get that out of my heart?
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Boy! Are you ever a prime candidate for Rational Behavioral Emotive Therapy (REBT)
 
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Have people lay hands on you and pray you will be free---I was afraid and addicted to many things 40 years ago---you can be free...
 
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