Blain and Stephanies future wedding fantasy thread

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Let me fix this for you a bit...
Blain said:
I have the things a man have but a real man is something else entirely. I am not talking about physical features I am talking about inner features. I developed my own view of what I real man is and maybe it's not what a real man is but it's what I believe to be one. A real man is brave, and, although afraid, stands for what he knows is right after weighing the consequences a real man has a sense of virtue and honor a real man puts needs far before wants a real man is responsible and tries not to let his emotions get the better of him a real man is not lazy and not afraid of hard work a real man looks out for others, especially his family, and doesn't consider himself above anyone else.

A real man matures and while not perfect will take full responsibility for his mistakes even if it takes him sometime to get to that point a real man is not afraid to admit he was wrong even if it takes him sometime to get to that point a real man works at being slow to speak and quick to listen and when he does speak his words show integrity wisdom and he works at never lashing out at others, a real man isn't afraid to show his tears or his tender side when it is safe to do so (will not cause harm to those he loves -- because honestly? Not good to fall apart, when someone is counting on his strength at that moment, but the moment does pass) even though many see this as a sign of weakness he gives instruction to those willing to hear it or to his family he helps others to learn and grow if they are willing and he has the ability because he himself learned from the mistakes of his past and not too many are willing to learn from others' mistakes a real man will always aims to put God first he will always aims to do what is right before anything else even if it hurts and if he has a family he try to bring them together through God and love and has God as the center of it.


This is only a sample of what I have thought a real man is and sadly I am lacking in this
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Because if you wait around to become that ideal man, you will die alone and... very disappointed in yourself.

Next question for you. Are you planning on waiting around for Stephanie to become the Proverbs 31 woman, before you marry her? Does she have to be perfect too? No? Let me guess. You're willing to give her a break on being perfect because you love her just as she is, right?

Yeah. No kidding. That's a two way street.

Here's 30+ years down the road for you. I didn't wait for my perfect man. I found the man who was perfect for me. BIG difference. Loved him for who he was so much, it actually scared me the first time he took off his beard, because I feared he'd change too much. He has changed. So have I. Life does that to people, not waiting around to get to that perfect spot. You either grow together, or you don't. But you're never ever going to grow into that perfect man. At least not in that body. Next one gets you there, and that is by way of God, just as is this path to get that far.

Start with the assumption that you are not perfect. It's okay. Stephanie already knows this about you. (Granted, she's going to have to dig deep to see how you're not perfect, because, guess what, you are perfect for her!) As for being a real man? You don't get any realer!
 
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Let me fix this for you a bit...

Because if you wait around to become that ideal man, you will die alone and... very disappointed in yourself.

Next question for you. Are you planning on waiting around for Stephanie to become the Proverbs 31 woman, before you marry her? Does she have to be perfect too? No? Let me guess. You're willing to give her a break on being perfect because you love her just as she is, right?

Yeah. No kidding. That's a two way street.

Here's 30+ years down the road for you. I didn't wait for my perfect man. I found the man who was perfect for me. BIG difference. Loved him for who he was so much, it actually scared me the first time he took off his beard, because I feared he'd change too much. He has changed. So have I. Life does that to people, not waiting around to get to that perfect spot. You either grow together, or you don't. But you're never ever going to grow into that perfect man. At least not in that body. Next one gets you there, and that is by way of God, just as is this path to get that far.

Start with the assumption that you are not perfect. It's okay. Stephanie already knows this about you. (Granted, she's going to have to dig deep to see how you're not perfect, because, guess what, you are perfect for her!) As for being a real man? You don't get any realer!
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I can never be the perfect man but I want to become the kind of man that I feel I will be one day, it's not that I am waiting around to become this man before I do anything but this is the kind of man that I strive to be day by day and it may in fact take me 40 plus years to become this kind of man and I am fine with that after all the great oak tree takes many many years to fully grow.

I will not be waiting until I become this man to be with stephanie or to live life but every day I am working on growing into this kind of man because this is the kind of man i admire. Besides as for me becoming that kind of man it's not my main priority God is and if it's God's will then surely he will help me to become that kind of man. as for stephanie I love her just for who she is but I also know she is working on herself inside as I am and Whatever kind of women she wants to mature into I will be there for her step by step all the way.
 
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Blain said:
Besides as for me becoming that kind of man it's not my main priority God is and if it's God's will then surely he will help me to become that kind of man. as for stephanie I love her just for who she is but I also know she is working on herself inside as I am and Whatever kind of women she wants to mature into I will be there for her step by step all the way.
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Yet another quote I am saving ❤. My heart is so full by that there are no words
 
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Aww, double aww.

You are both real people in the eyes of God, as well as lambs,
gold coins, pearls of great price.

The joy of the Lord is your strength, in Him you are both perfect. :)


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Blain said:
I can never be the perfect man but I want to become the kind of man that I feel I will be one day, it's not that I am waiting around to become this man before I do anything but this is the kind of man that I strive to be day by day and it may in fact take me 40 plus years to become this kind of man and I am fine with that after all the great oak tree takes many many years to fully grow.

I will not be waiting until I become this man to be with stephanie or to live life but every day I am working on growing into this kind of man because this is the kind of man i admire. Besides as for me becoming that kind of man it's not my main priority God is and if it's God's will then surely he will help me to become that kind of man. as for stephanie I love her just for who she is but I also know she is working on herself inside as I am and Whatever kind of women she wants to mature into I will be there for her step by step all the way.
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Do you know what makes me this wonderful, awe-inspiring, easy-going, soft, ladylike,... eh-hem, 'cuse me while I go vomit. (Okay, 'fess up, who laughed at that description of me? lol)

Ummmm, actually, I'm not the woman I'm supposed to be yet either. But I have changed. I no longer cry at every conceived attack. I've actually gotten to the point where attacks don't change my life. There was a time when I'd hide when someone was attacking someone else. I used to not talk as much. Never could get what I thought out... well, actually no one ever cared to listen to me as a yammered to get to my point, so maybe that hasn't changed as much as I think, but people listen sometimes, and I surprise them when they do. See me out in public, and I could spend the whole day not saying more than "Thank you." Now, I talk to the people at the bus stop, the cashier, the other people in line, people on elevators, strangers in waiting rooms, hospitals, and nursing homes. And my goal is usually the same thing -- give them a reason to smile that day. So I have changed, and in many ways for the better.

Know how? Married the man who loved me for who I was and yet saw who I could become. Not that he wanted me to change, he just wanted me to be all of me. Not to be so unsure of myself. Spouse are wonderful people. They're like diamond cutters with a big ole piece of clear crystal, and they know where to chip away the boring stuff to expose the light. They are FOR you. They are the ultimate cheerleader, always seeing the best and encouraging you to be the best you you can be. They forget that bozo moves you make, and remember a great move even years later. And they'll laugh at your silliness, just to make sure you're head doesn't get too big. (At any given moment, he can tell me both the dumbest and best thing I've ever done. And it works, because I then remember I can do good, and he doesn't run from me when I do dumb.)

So one other thing that makes us become a real (wo)man -- a spouse.

Show me a 50 year old man and I can tell if he is married. The ones who are married tend to be more mature. And, heaven forbid, I'm not saying the wife makes him mature. The responsibility for that wife makes him mature, just like the responsibility for that husband makes a woman mature.

Many times, I've done telemarketing work, janitorial work, typing, and all sorts of jobs I wouldn't have done, simply because me doing that meant he didn't have to work 60--80 hours a week. I learned I don't puke cleaning out the drain or suctioning out the trac tube. I did it for him. I'd stay up for 36 hours after he had chemo, in case he need my help. and then I slept after he had his chemo because I was hovering. lol

He stayed home every night when I first became disabled, to be there if I needed him, and the only thing I need was someone to listen to how bad I felt and accept that I was furious with God. How can you not be a real (wo)man in marriage? It's a commitment to take care of someone for the rest of your life, (without hovering. lol) And it is a very long shortcut to become more of a real man.

You are the man. Stephanie can only make you more so, just as you will make her more of a woman.
 
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I know for sure if steph and I were married and we had a home together we would both grow as both people and believers drastically. We both have different weaknesses and are vastly different in many ways, a lot people call the one for them their other half I have always thought that meant a person like them that they fell in love with and married and I don't know if that is true or not but I would disagree with that kind of logic.

I think like the body of Christ it's what is different about us that makes us stronger it's our weaknesses and strengths colliding together that makes a perfect diamond. On a another Christian forum I used to go to I chose the username heartsearcher because that is what I do on a daily basis I search my heart I ponder the deeper things and I glean all I can from it I see and know my weaknesses and I search my own motives and who I am and who i will be. I search many things within myself and one thing I always notice is that when I look in the mirror I don't recognize my own face because i used to look at my face and be disgusted I hated how I looked I hated who I was I didn't just see a worm lower than the dirt I saw the dirt the worm eats.

But now as I am slowly beginning to see who God sees and as I continue to work everyday to be the person I know I can be while I am not even half way there I see a stranger in the mirror because I don't see who i was but I also do not fully see what I know he sees. and upon thinking about this I think to myself I am not who I want to be yet however I also am not who I once was.
 
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I want these for a topper but with a Pikachu and an Eevee

 
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How about this one.

I like this as marriage is the start of a journey. :)


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I got bored and looked up funny marriage vines and I saw this and I nearly had a heart attack XD

[video=youtube;6a_FI9wIPAg]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6a_FI9wIPAg[/video]
 
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This shows me how changeable I am: what if it was a japanese nerd type wedding? With like a pokemon topper, boxes of Pocky for the wedding favors, little japanese looking mini cakes for the cake! I'm sporadic hahaha
 
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It's so funny I feel guilty because I just want to be with him so much and just sit with him and tell him about my day and I feel like I'm almost kind of hoarding his attention away from all you guys here on CC because I just want to be with him so much all the time ha ha Ha
 
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ArtsieSteph said:
It's so funny I feel guilty because I just want to be with him so much and just sit with him and tell him about my day and I feel like I'm almost kind of hoarding his attention away from all you guys here on CC because I just want to be with him so much all the time ha ha Ha
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No worries I have time for both you and everyone here, if something is important to you you make time for it :)
 
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This thread is so funny. It always turns into the "watch Blain and Steph be all goofy and lovey towards eacthother and go 'awww'"

But back to serious times. I want things to be like Blain wanted them in the first post in the end. A pretty, simple, garden wedding. Outside, someplace in the high country up north so we can have his little creeks and the wonderful sound of wind rushing through the trees. There are even areas in Arizona where we have fireflies. Or if God wants us somewhere else to be together, wherever that is. I totally want those custom pokemon plushies to exchange because it would be adorable. And anything other than that? It can be totally simple, doesn't matter. In the end, it's about him and me.
 
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ArtsieSteph said:
It's so funny I feel guilty because I just want to be with him so much and just sit with him and tell him about my day and I feel like I'm almost kind of hoarding his attention away from all you guys here on CC because I just want to be with him so much all the time ha ha Ha
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There is no need to feel guilty. Of course, you want to spend as much time as you can with him discussing things and the future that your going to have together.
 
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Granted my brain is still like "BUT THERE NEEDS TO BE A THEME." I think the best thing is just go simple outdoors/forest theme with a little pokemon flavor. And mostly? God. God themed. There are so many great things to incorporate God into things. Like praying before we see eacthother, doing one of those cord things where it says "a 3 chord knot isn't easily broken," have guests highlight what verses would be good to know, making letters to each other before the ceremony, ect.
 
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I guess the best way to describe it would be a "Christian, rustic, outdoors wedding with a nerdy slant" XDDD
 
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