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ekundayo

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How can we break free of damaging relationships emotionally??
 

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How can we break free of damaging relationships emotionally??
**** I avoid those relationships as much as possible---- if you have to be around someone that disturbs you pray up and watch your mouth..
 
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How can we break free of damaging relationships emotionally??
Depends who it is. If it's a parent it will be different then a group of friends or someone we were more intimate with. Our parents are our first programmers, so if they damaged us, the hurt runs deep. Friends you choose so you can unchoose them and find new ones. A mate is a person you cleave (join) to. Separating from them is painful. like taking off a bandaid. The slower you do it the more pain it is? These are just generalizations every situation is different. I found ways to boost my confidence and this helped me tremendously with dealing with controlling people. When you don't evaluate your self worth from other people your feelings won't get hurt when they are abusive. You become more rational about it. You can identify when they are using your emotions to manipulate and control you. When they get angry or sad you don't take it personally. You identify that they are responding to their hurts and fears and programming that they received growing up.
 
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How can we break free of damaging relationships emotionally??
More information is needed.

I can tell you that my husband still carries the load, to some extent, of his previous relationship with his ex-wife. She's been his ex for about 38 years. On the positive side, he learned so much from that damage, he's a better man for it.
 
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Galatea

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Without more information, it is hard to give any advice. If you are in an emotionally damaging relationship with a friend or boyfriend, cut off all communication. Don't speak to them, and don't go to the places they frequent. If it is a family member, that is a little more complicated.

If you want the person in your life, then you must ask yourself, "What am I getting out of this?". If you think it is emotionally damaging, yet you can't bear to cut off all communication, then there must be something beneficial you are deriving from the relationship.

I am not suggesting you broadcast all your private business, but if you provide more information, it might be easier for readers to make suggestions.
 
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Yeah, the more information needed is more about which kind of relationship. After all there is family, friends, business, and romantic. We're stuck with family most of the time.
 
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carnally related relationships can never be over-come',

'but with Christ, All things are possible."