I can kinda see the logic but still don't entirely agree with it.

On arranged marriages.

At first it seems wrong even evil to force 2 people to spend their lives together not only living together but loving each other and starting a family together(I think that love between the parents is necessary for the family).

But after reading singles posts just out of curiosity it occurred to me that many unhappy people might be happy if they were forced to accept their situation then they can move on to making it a positive situation for them.

I don't think that it should be necessary so I don't agree with it im just saying that I can see how it maybe came about in the first place.

Im not posting this in the singles section because it doesn't really involve them also they'd probably just be insulted.

And im posting this because I'm learning about religious beliefs right now so with these sometimes strange posts im kinda thinking out loud so to speak.

A lot of you guy's/gals think that you know what you are talking about when it comes to religious beliefs,you almost certainly know more than me, so im also running sttuff by you guy's because sometimes I get really good input.

Thanks for your time

Arranged marriages were traditionally started, as girls were married off as young
as 12-13 maybe even younger. They were probably betrothed even younger.

They are still continued in some cultures as a way of creating good relations
between families and business leaders. Some couples might get lucky and actually
have some say in whether they want to marry a person or not, many don't.

In the UK there is a recognised problem where young Muslims girls are brought
up in the UK, then sent to Pakistan etc to mary them off without them even knowing
about it. It's their way of trying to install some Muslim culture into anglicised Muslim women.

Its completely wrong.

So to summarise, its was or is used for control purposes, for cultural purposes,
to trade child brides, to cement personal gain or commercial gain. For greed where
money is involved i.e the dowry.

It has also been used in the past to improve relations between countries i.e. daughter of
French king marries son of British king.

Very rarely is it done with the best interests of the couple in mind.

I'm not entirely convinced they even did it with the right motives in bible times.
It was just the culture of the day.

I'm so glad my parents didn't employ this practice! I don't think they knew me very well, and I would have ended up married to some guy like my dad. 'Nuff said...

Wow! that sucks some just wake up one day and POOF!!! they are married?that is wrong.

I fully agree with you guy's I was half sarcastically saying that if people were forced into a situation they might deal with it and possibly live a happy life.

Have you guy's seen the singles forum? it's full of unhappy people and in some cases that unhappiness is because they have too many choices so they can't figure out the correct one or more often they make the wrong one.

My sarcasm will get me into trouble one day.

Thanks for your input.

Meh. Sometimes don't count on what we think. I'm as curious about it as you and still haven't wrapped my head around it.

I also have trouble wrapping my head around golf, sushi, dichotomy or trichotomy of Man, high-heels, ties, and pantyhose/stockings.

I did pretty good picking out my own Husband but it seemed to take a long time. The thing with me was if my Mom didn't care for the person I was dating it drew me to that person more. Don't ask me why, it was stupid. She did and does like my Husband so that's good.

I think that rebelling against parents is just a natural phase I did the same,you did it with your dating,I did it with eating habits.

My mother's first responsibility was to make sure that me and brother always ate right,so when I got old enough to choose my own eating habits I'd go all day without eating id never drink milk because my ma said that it was necessary so I drank a glass with every meal so because of that I didn't touch the stuff for years.

I paid the price for that rebellion though because im probably 6" shorter and 20lbs lighter than I should due to malnutrition for years that I subconsciously did to my self out of spite.

The mind can be a terrible thing it's the starting point of our nature.