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renewed_hope

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A few months ago my boyfriend and I were talking about a future together and asked me what I thought about living in a different country. At first I was taken back because I wantes to stay close to my family and friends until he brought it up. I told him that it would be a lot of fun to adapt to a different culture and way of life and that I was in and we still talk about it to this day.

So, tell me would you ever consider living in a different country? If yes, where would it be and why? Now, it's okay if the answer was no because I was like that until I met this wonderful man and God changed my perspective on a lot of things
 
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Yahweh_is_gracious

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I certainly would live outside the US if I had the opportunity. I've often thought about SE Asia as a potential move. Right now though, it's just a mental exercise. Too many things would need to align to make it happen, and I might not be able to live the kind of life I am accustomed to someplace different. I might end up just visiting SE Asia and then continuing to live in the US someplace where I can be a hermit.
 
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I live in NY, but I wish and pray to move to another state probably if I get married, that for me is an easier answer. As for a different country, I only speak english and spanish and no way am I moving to a spanish speaking country (no offense but my personality doesn't fit). I would move to lets say England, Italy, Netherlands. I want a place where I can learn a language quick and communicate in english.


I wouldn't mind Canada either
 
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renewed_hope said:
A few months ago my boyfriend and I were talking about a future together and asked me what I thought about living in a different country. At first I was taken back because I wantes to stay close to my family and friends until he brought it up. I told him that it would be a lot of fun to adapt to a different culture and way of life and that I was in and we still talk about it to this day.

So, tell me would you ever consider living in a different country? If yes, where would it be and why? Now, it's okay if the answer was no because I was like that until I met this wonderful man and God changed my perspective on a lot of things
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***pray about it and if you can deal with missing family and other American things*** it could be God's Will...
 
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renewed_hope said:
A few months ago my boyfriend and I were talking about a future together and asked me what I thought about living in a different country. At first I was taken back because I wantes to stay close to my family and friends until he brought it up. I told him that it would be a lot of fun to adapt to a different culture and way of life and that I was in and we still talk about it to this day.

So, tell me would you ever consider living in a different country? If yes, where would it be and why? Now, it's okay if the answer was no because I was like that until I met this wonderful man and God changed my perspective on a lot of things
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I was fortunate to marry hubby. Whereas I will follow him wherever he may go, he considers my feelings enough not to go where I'm unwilling to go.

But that's not to say we haven't ever gone anywhere. I'm a smalltown girl from South Jersey and he's a Philly boy.

Philly terrified me. Not once was I able to go to Philly without getting lost for two hours before finding a bridge (any bridge, I don't care, just get me back to Jersey!!!) out of this town. Bad enough that I got lost and ended up on the bridge to Philly one night and didn't have to pay a toll to return because I burst out crying to the tollbooth person, who let me turn right around. That bad.

He was kind of exiled into Jersey and always wanted to go home. So he asked if I'd be willing, particularly since he worked here and where he wanted to move to was within walking distance to work. (One-car family vs. two-car family rational, although, YIKES! I'm supposed to be the one driving through that terrifying town? Is he crazy? :eek:) And, buying a house in this part of the city meant $69,000 (1991 prices) for a three-bedroom rowhome, versus $150,000 for a two-bedroom home in Jersey.

So, I prayed about it. And I wrote a pro/con list, and truly thought it over. (Some of the pros included the liberal governor of NJ would be in office longer than the liberal mayor of Philadelphia -- ends up both were replaced by even-more-liberal. lol I needed a job, and there are more jobs in Philly than the county we lived in. More nearby churches. AND, local, truly authentic Italian restaurants versus Ruby Tuesdays and Olive Garden. Really thought this out.)

He drove me over (notice, I did not drive over) to look at the neighborhood. I remember two guys joking and laughing as they crossed the street in front of us on a winter night, and told hubby, "Gee, they seem happy. Must be a nice area."

Only after I chose to move here, did he tell me they were playing openly with their switchblades. :eek: (It's 27 years later, and I haven't seen a single switchblade in this town. Okay, I didn't see any that night, so maybe what I've not seen doesn't count. lol)

I did choose to move to Philly. On our first evening stroll together, I saw a police-surveillance van not far from where we lived. (The end of mafia wars, so likely the reason.) I bet you want to know how I knew it was a police-surveillance van. It had a decal on the back that said just that! (About when I started thinking this is a really stupid town. lol)

But strangely, it has grown on me. Completely different culture than small town. Or, it was. When I lived in South Jersey, everyone said hi to each other. If you knew the person, you made small talk before continuing to walk. About six months after we moved into this house, I was still doing that, despite no one acknowledging my existence. On a particularly nice day, a woman was sitting on a stoop about a block from us, and as I was walking by, I said, "Wonderful weather, isn't it?"

She stared at me, so I kept walking. A block later, she yelled at me, "What did you call me?" :eek:

I turned around, pointed up at the bright blue sky and shouted, "It's beautiful out!" (Thankfully, she relaxed, at least.)

Here stop signs and red lights are more of a suggestion than a law. And when I first moved into the city, everyone seemed to be going twice as fast as I move.

A couple of years ago, I had to go to Jersey to buy something, and stopped off to grocery shop, since I was near a store. Now everyone over there seems to be moving twice as fast, and won't say Hi. While my neighbors have taken to asking us if we need help bringing in the groceries, or just stop to talk to me about whatever. (I just met another neighbor last week, because she wanted to tell me how much she likes my flowering bushes in the springtime. I was clipping one. lol) The big city and the small town has changed.

Also, if it weren't for living in this city, all of of health problems wouldn't have been addressed by some of the best hospitals in the country. And, that "mother of all blizzards" back in the 1990's would have had us in serious trouble. Here we can walk wherever we need to go. Smalltown means you have to drive great distances to go anywhere. The roads were closed for a week!

I'd follow him wherever he may go, but he picked a good place for us to grow old together.
 
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Hubby and I seriously considered moving to Brazil at one point. But after prayer and searching, we felt it was not the Lord's will at that time. We ended up changing careers, and we moved a lot within the US. Now we're completely settled in our area and will not move again -- unless God really mixes things up for us!

BTW, I think it's terrific that you and your bf are talking about this stuff NOW instead of waiting until you're more committed to each other! Good for you!
 
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Socreta93 said:
I live in NY, but I wish and pray to move to another state probably if I get married, that for me is an easier answer. As for a different country, I only speak english and spanish and no way am I moving to a spanish speaking country (no offense but my personality doesn't fit). I would move to lets say England, Italy, Netherlands. I want a place where I can learn a language quick and communicate in english.


I wouldn't mind Canada either
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My college roommate went to Spain for three weeks in high school for a class trip. She fell in love with Madrid, but no way was she ever going to learn to speak Spanish. She met many ex-pats from English-speaking countries in the following four summers when she kept returning for the summer. ($500 for a one-way ticket, so she got a job until she got the $500, got the next plane to Madrid, and then, having no money, she dialed her friends until someone was able to pick her up from the airport and let her stay with them, until she could afford other arrangements. Every summer, until she graduated. After graduation, $500, one last trip and she stayed.

She taught "conversational English" to business men in Madrid. (The American University. Most countries have a branch.) Two years later, she married one of her "students." Two years after that, they had their son. Two years after that her father died and her mother needed her, so she called me when she came home. She was terrified. She was terrified because her husband's primary language was Spanish, she finally learned it, and she had just started dreaming in Spanish. lol

Ten years after that she finally missed America. Alas, her husband will never move here. His family has had that business for hundreds of years and he's the owner now.

You don't have to learn the primary language in a country. You just have to find the neighborhood where Americans land when they choose to move there.

Most of my neighbors are Italian. The first generations do or don't know how to speak American, and if they don't, it's not a problem. Most can speak their language. And for those like me who don't? We know the hand gestures just fine, and I'm not just talking cursing. I've talked gardening with a neighbor. She can't speak English and I can't speak Italian. Still, she went home with a bunch of pumpkin flowers to saute (Yes, I know they're delicious, but I can't take that much fried food -- and she thought I was nuts, but understood.) And I got some of her blue flowers to grow.
 
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Yahweh_is_gracious

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Good tip on the ex-pats. There are ex-pats nearly everywhere and they can definitely make the transition to a new country, new language, and new culture a lot easier.
 
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I wouldn't live in another country considering the current circumstance of the world,I'm from the US and it's open season on us in many parts of the world.
 
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I wanted to move away from USA when Obama was elected president in 2008. But I couldn't really decide if there was anywhere better.

I thought about South America. Maybe Brazil or Argentina. But I never really settled on anything.

Maybe Australia...
 
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Sure, more now than ever, even.
 
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