Does absence really make the heart grow fonder?
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One time when we moved, we lost our blender. It was somewhere in one of those boxes we had no room to unpacked (downsized), but didn't have the blender for a year-and-a-half. Yes. I missed the blender, but, whenever we couldn't find something else, we said it was right next to the blender. (Still do.)
I recently found my cleaning-supplies caddy. (Sort of like a toolbox for sponges, bleach and cleaners to go from one part of the house to another.) It was lost for over a decade. I didn't miss it at all. Didn't even remember I had it.
Mom died decades ago. I still miss her, but I also suspect I've turned her into a perfect saint over the years. I've become quite a bit like Mom the older I get. If this is true, than Mom was never even close to perfect. But fondness has increased.
Been married for 36 years now. For the first half, we were like most couples -- working all day, sleeping half the time we were together, and fumbling between Us Time and Me Time the other part. Both of us became disabled within a couple of years of each other, and we live in a small house. So, we're together most of the time. I distinctly remember wanting a bit more Me Time in there, but I do like him being around. He spent seven months away from me a while ago. Couldn't help it. Hospital followed by nursing home/rehab. Ends up I still wanted some Me Time in there that I rarely got, (I get more now, because we really do split chores), and really, really like him here, even if he's sleeping when I'm not. Am I fonder with that absence? Not really. I'm very fond of him if he's here or not. Always have been.
So, I'm thinking absence makes the heart go fonder works for blenders, doesn't work for cleaning supplies caddy, works for people we love from way back when, but doesn't change at all for people we still love now.
Just my experience. Yours may be different. (And for anyone who likes cleaning, guaranteed to be different. lol)
I recently found my cleaning-supplies caddy. (Sort of like a toolbox for sponges, bleach and cleaners to go from one part of the house to another.) It was lost for over a decade. I didn't miss it at all. Didn't even remember I had it.
Mom died decades ago. I still miss her, but I also suspect I've turned her into a perfect saint over the years. I've become quite a bit like Mom the older I get. If this is true, than Mom was never even close to perfect. But fondness has increased.
Been married for 36 years now. For the first half, we were like most couples -- working all day, sleeping half the time we were together, and fumbling between Us Time and Me Time the other part. Both of us became disabled within a couple of years of each other, and we live in a small house. So, we're together most of the time. I distinctly remember wanting a bit more Me Time in there, but I do like him being around. He spent seven months away from me a while ago. Couldn't help it. Hospital followed by nursing home/rehab. Ends up I still wanted some Me Time in there that I rarely got, (I get more now, because we really do split chores), and really, really like him here, even if he's sleeping when I'm not. Am I fonder with that absence? Not really. I'm very fond of him if he's here or not. Always have been.
So, I'm thinking absence makes the heart go fonder works for blenders, doesn't work for cleaning supplies caddy, works for people we love from way back when, but doesn't change at all for people we still love now.
Just my experience. Yours may be different. (And for anyone who likes cleaning, guaranteed to be different. lol)
My son has done 11 years in prison so far, yes his absence has made my heart grow fonder, more so since i have been saved...The Lords love for me has made me a strong hold for my son, I love my son even more than i could imagine...My son got life, a minimum of 16 yrs, what that means in England is If he behaves in prison, then he can be let out in 12, but if he serves his 16 years, then when he comes out, he will have to commit no other crime, for if he does, he will be sent back to prison and serve the whole 16 years without parole, that it his life sentence... My heart grows fonder for my son each day, it is only through the GRACE of God that carries me...I miss my son...xox...
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I would say this is true on my relationship with my better half. Friday evening was the last time I spoke with him and I was getting extremely concerned with worry and heartache because I missed him so. I knew he was busy and I had family stuff going on and we weren't fighting (which we never really do) but was concerned for his welfare because we talk every single day and all of a sudden he went MIA. I felt led to call him this morning and he was so touched that I reached out and made sure he was okay. Turns out he was fasting from his phone, but he said he missed me too 
Hi Socreta...To be honest i have felt resentment in the past towards him but not now since i been walking with our Lord...There was many emotions going on because he has 4 children, it was my grand children that has suffered for his crime, but they know their dad now as i have always made sure to bring them up to prison so they have a relationship...When i got saved 22 months ago, i surrendered my son to God, i knew i could not change him no matter what i used against him to make him change his ways, as a mother i love my son deeply, and i have never turned my back on him \o/ Praise God, but my heart was full of anger, pain and every thing else, 3 months or so ago my son gave his life to Jesus ...
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I would say this is true on my relationship with my better half. Friday evening was the last time I spoke with him and I was getting extremely concerned with worry and heartache because I missed him so. I knew he was busy and I had family stuff going on and we weren't fighting (which we never really do) but was concerned for his welfare because we talk every single day and all of a sudden he went MIA. I felt led to call him this morning and he was so touched that I reached out and made sure he was okay. Turns out he was fasting from his phone, but he said he missed me too
I'm definitely not a phone person.