Marriage and religion

Hi guys,
I come from the town that's filled with faithful Christian. My mom is a Christian, my father is a Christian. And I am a Christian. However, my girlfriend is not. I love her. We've been planning the wedding and suddenly my mother disapproved. She thinks that would be a disgrace to the family and I will not have a happy marriage with my gf. It seems like, I'm kinda stuck between a rock and a hard place. My mom and my gf, both are important to me.
What should I do?

Well, disgracing the family is a worldly attitude, so I consider it irrelevant compared to the potential spiritual issues. So many negatives people ignore.

If you have kids and one parent is a Christian and one is not, how do you raise them?
If your kids believe how do you tell them you chose to explain that you picked a mother for them that is destined for hell? Or do you lie to them and not tell them? Thereby setting a bad example?
How do you mirror an example of a biblical husband by choosing someone that prevents you from doing so?
Just a few of many more issues that can arise.

There comes a time when a man leaves his mother and clings to his wife. Your mother does not know whether or not you will have a happy marriage or not. Having been married 3 times I can say that mom is never really truly happy with the choice her son made but eventually may come around, accept her, and eventually love her. You say that your girl friend is not a Christian but does she have any Christian values that guide how she has lived her life? Your girl friend is engaged to you so she obviously loves you. Is it worth breaking her heart just to keep mom happy? You could dump your girlfriend today and tomorrow your mom is bugging you to get a haircut. And you will be alone. The question is, what is most important to you. Regardless, glad to have you join us. Welcome to CC.

1JOHN 1:5.
This then is the message which we have heard of Him, and declare unto you, that God is Light,
and in Him is no darkness at all.

How can you share your whole life with someone who has a totally different set of values? And if you don't have different values, why not?

Yep. Not a chance i am going to ever marry a non practicing Christian much less someone from another faith.
God take me to heaven first.

Well you are an adult and im sure capable of making important life decisions. Do you think you could ever convince her to become christian. You do say you love her and him sure you are concerned about her soul. As long as you feel it wouldn't affect your personal relationship with God, he would honor you trying to lead your beloved to him

The guest preacher at our church recently was a very-experienced Christian counselor and former pastor. He addressed this very issue by saying that he has counseled many Christians who were married to non-Christians, and he says that their pain in among the most profound any human feels in any context.

His explanation was that love is a fruit of the Spirit of Christ, and the person who has not bowed her knee to Christ cannot truly love her husband.

I wrestled with this question when looking, after my divorce. I concluded that Christ was more important to me, and sharing my relationship with Him with my g/f (and hopefully, future wife) was far more important than any other factor.

Jesus warns against be equally yoked with an unbeliever. So if you both have different values than she does, you may differ in major life choices. Also you may argue about how to explain certain things to your future children, but for all we know God may have givne you that relationship to witness to her and tell her about Jesus. Love her and show her Jesus!

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precious, little one, it is what most humans in the whole-wide-world settle for -
(for our ancestors separated us from Yeshua, - 'not really their fault, but we, now,
have to bear our own reaping, inherited or not, as they did...
being awakened, called, to His Holy, Righteous Ways, this changes us big time!
most 'took-on' what their 'inter-mingling mates and familes were worshipped and many are still worshipping,
in this way today... -
not (OUR HOLY, ONLY ONE, REAL, YAH, our CREATOR, Yeshua, Adoni, Emanuel) - but instead, they worship
their own 'man-made idols.
Holiness is Holiness, there's only ONE READ, ONE-TRUE GOD/CREATOR...

God will call some now, and He will call some later...

your question would mean that those that stayed together in 'misery', 'what by the way, my REAL GOOD,
friend for around 45yrs., as we were leaving the 'drive-through', stopped the car and said, straight ahead,
not AT me directly, she said, "I've been married for almost 50yrs, and have been miserable the whole time".

of course, Hub and already knew this by our knowledge of their past history, what they had told us and what
their 'relatives' and neighbors of course wanted to gossip about, yeah, years ago, I LISTENED...

it still made us weep and break our hearts...

READ, LEARN, APPLY, LIVE, SHARE, our Holy Gift, The Bible...the earlier, the better, but,
better late than never!