"They only call when they need something"

Do you find yourself being that person? Cuz I do! I am horrible at keeping in touch with people unless they are always on my mind, like my parents or Blain. Then for those who I don't always think of, I end up only really talking when I feel like it or when I have a request or need.

AND I HATE IT! I HATE being so self centered about my communication.

Sadly I think it stems from a feeling of "If you don't have a reason to talk, then you're bother that person." If they have a need, of course I'll help! If they start the conversation, then I have confirmation that they actually want to speak to me a bit!

Honestly and truly my internal signals tend to try and tell me "no one is interested in hearing you unless they say they are." Or maybe more to the point, "no one cares what you're saying."

Is anyone else like this? Like dang.

Nah, I simply don't call.

Actually I tend to be the same way I have lots my family in my contacts you know the one the Callaways helped me to escape from? Well I have never once received a call or text from them unless it was a serious family matter like my grandpas birthday and I honestly haven't attempted to contact them either and they always get mad at me because i never call or text and I'm like well you never do either so you must not want to talk that badly lol. And every other contact in my phone I always have to wait for them to contact me or else I just don't converse I don't know why and sometimes it worries me.

Anti social much

I'm the "I'll see ya when I see ya" type. I don't mean to be, but I don't call or visit people unless there's some business to discuss or eventually they'll call or visit me.
I somewhat feel bad about it, but there's two sides of the coin. Why didn't they call me or come to my house to just say hello?

Now I don't mind just being a listener when someone else wants talk, but most of the time I don't have much to talk about. I guess I don't really put in enough effort to get to know people, and that's just one of my charter flaws.

Steph, i'm going to tell you a boring old lady story.

my friend Amanda and i can be invited to the same social gathering. Mandy knows she has to go because though she's busy and tired, the hostess has invited her because she needs Mandy to be there and be the life of the party. it just won't be a party without Mandy (and she's right! it is more fun with her there!). Mandy isn't all about how great she is, just this is where her mental health is a bit wonky. she goes when she really hasn't time, or even desire. she goes because she thinks someone is depending on her.

i get the invitation and think i'm invited because my friend is kind and doesn't want to leave me out.... more of a pity invite, you see. that's where my own mental health is wonky.

maybe you're a little more like me than you are like Amanda?

"They only call when they need something"

You know my family?

ha! our caller ID is blocked. (Mark's job; he'd get all kinds of calls no one has any business making)

but i can unblock it, so when you see the dreadful first name, answer it!! lol

Honestly I am horrible at using my phone, I used to get so upset when I would call my mom and she would never answer even though her purse is always right there and her phone is right in her purse but now that i have a phone and people call and text me I realize how horrible I am at answering my phone. Oh the shame......

I don't know about calling - I only make a phone call when I have something to say - but there's this one lady at church who has chickens, and I usually buy eggs from her, and occasionally I'll make a point to say hi and talk to her when I DON'T need eggs, just so I won't only be talking to her when my egg supply is running low.

I picked my car up from the mechanic the other day. He's a friend of my family, and he's a good mechanic (so he stays busy all the time, hard to get a car in to get fixed) and I said, "Some time I'm going to have to stop by and say hi when I don't need you to fix a car, just because. I only talk to you when my car is broke."


Yeah, gotta love that Amanda with Cardholder Services.

Or the foreign guy who is allegedly calling from Microsoft about my computer, claiming there is something wrong with my computer and my computer alerted Microsoft, so this helpful guy called me to help fix my computer. I always tell him my computer is running Linux and if something did go wrong I doubt my Linux computer would be calling Microsoft.

Of course the guy never knows what Linux is, at which point I hang up. Any tech support who has never heard of Linux is not real tech support.