When is it being sick and when is it moping?

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ArtsieSteph

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Since this morning I was feeling like crap, throat ache and feeling chilly and just not good in general. So I went in my room, as per protocol with my dad being in chemo, and have just sorta been watching TV and playing games. I slept for a while too.

Thing is though when I’m in here I don’t feel “rested.” I don’t feel like I’m having to do anything right but I can’t talk to anyone, I am in a cramped space, and I just....I only like it maybe 20 mins then I’m like ok when do I get outta here. And I’ve had infections and things and had to stay in here and I wonder, am I getting them because I’m cutting myself off from things that relax me or am I moping around? I did have to say bye to Blain this week and of course it made me sad but....


I mean it’s so weird what level am I trying to keep dad from getting sick and what level am I just wanting to sulk and do my own thing? It sucks.
 

ArtsieSteph

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Thing is too even if I’m trying to keep daddy from getting sick I also feel guilty for not doing anything.
 

blue_ladybug

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The thing is, you CAN'T keep daddy from getting sick. He's gonna have good days and bad days, and you cannot prevent the bad days from coming..

Thing is too even if I’m trying to keep daddy from getting sick I also feel guilty for not doing anything.
 

blue_ladybug

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Feel guilty for not doing anything, or feeling guilty because you're trying to take over God's job in helping daddy? Just an observation. :) There's only so much "helping" you can do, before it becomes a hinderance.

Thing is too even if I’m trying to keep daddy from getting sick I also feel guilty for not doing anything.
 

ArtsieSteph

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Oh no I mean from getting any kind of sniffles or cold or something like that that I have, I mean germs spreading not the chemo feelings or anything related to that. Basically making sure if I have a cold I don’t give it to him.
 

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Try getting outside it's a great day today low 80s .I find some alone time walking can help tons . Pray while ya walk . The thing is get moving don't stay in one spot an think your self to death .
Blessings
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As someone who cares for a parent, I can tell you that no matter what precautions you take, you'll eventually exhaust yourself, which just compromises your own immune system and allows you to get sick. When you're sick, you're sick. You do what you are able to and you try to not spread germs to your sick parent, but there is only so much you can do.

It's one thing to take care of a parent, but you have to take care of yourself too. I give this advice now because a couple of years ago I didn't follow it and I worked myself into such a compromised position I had to go to the ER and even after I was discharged I was sick as a dog for about 3 months.
 

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Since this morning I was feeling like crap, throat ache and feeling chilly and just not good in general. So I went in my room, as per protocol with my dad being in chemo, and have just sorta been watching TV and playing games. I slept for a while too.

Thing is though when I’m in here I don’t feel “rested.” I don’t feel like I’m having to do anything right but I can’t talk to anyone, I am in a cramped space, and I just....I only like it maybe 20 mins then I’m like ok when do I get outta here. And I’ve had infections and things and had to stay in here and I wonder, am I getting them because I’m cutting myself off from things that relax me or am I moping around? I did have to say bye to Blain this week and of course it made me sad but....


I mean it’s so weird what level am I trying to keep dad from getting sick and what level am I just wanting to sulk and do my own thing? It sucks.
Hello, ArtsieSteph! :) Throat ache = sick. Is your throat still sore? Do you have a thermometer? Can you take your temperature? Wait fifteen minutes after you've had anything to eat or drink, and then take your temp! Go! Scoot! Find a thermometer! :)
 
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Hi Steph, just a thought. My aunt is very prone to catching colds, chest
infections, flu etc. They land her in hospital. So the carers who end up with bad colds flu
etc swap with others so they don’t infect her. Those with mild colds, feeling off it or at the
back end of a cold wear face masks to our house so as not to infect her.

Maybe you could try that around your dad, you would also need to wash your
hands a lot as well. It might be a better solution to staying in your room.

Fortunately for me I hardly get any colds, I can go a year or more without
catching anything.
 
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ArtsieSteph

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Oh yeah any time I feel bad at all I wear a face mask. I don’t feel like I have a fever but sometimes I feel like weird temperature changes like feeling chilly, but it’s hard because I don’t know if it’s just cuz I been on my butt. I hate it. For a week one time I had a bacterial infection and felt ok ish but still had to stay in. Maybe it’s environmental in my room....
 

Jenizona

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Oh yeah any time I feel bad at all I wear a face mask. I don’t feel like I have a fever but sometimes I feel like weird temperature changes like feeling chilly, but it’s hard because I don’t know if it’s just cuz I been on my butt. I hate it. For a week one time I had a bacterial infection and felt ok ish but still had to stay in. Maybe it’s environmental in my room....

I think take your temperature! If it's 99 degrees or over, take some Nyquil and go to bed!! Anything under 99 degrees, you're good to go. :)
 
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if in your mind you only have 'ONE-ROOM' in which to heal, hide, or help, then something is
very wrong,,,
Get OUTSIDE and at least allow your body to absorb some natural Vit, 'D', this will help
you in so many ways, not to mention take your 'mind OFF of YOURSELF', at least for
a little while...and by-the-way', take 'daddy outside, he needs the 'D' also, it will definitely
help the 'both'of you...also, if you can do this, take your Bible, and read to the both of you...
His Words will never fail you...please, just KEEP trying to do your Saviour's Will...
 

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Go outside and get some fresh air. Stay out an hour or two and just relax. Hopefully, you'll get some sun too.
 

ArtsieSteph

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I got to sit with daddy a bit while mom was outside. Really helps
 

Angela53510

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Try getting outside it's a great day today low 80s .I find some alone time walking can help tons . Pray while ya walk . The thing is get moving don't stay in one spot an think your self to death .
Blessings
Bill
Sooo jealous! I’m in Calgary, Alberta right now. I woke up to -23 C/-9.4 F. It went up after that, but not a lot! Oh, and the sun was shining! Big deal!

As for you, Steph, do get out every day. And try and find some indoor activities you enjoy doing, for when your dad is sleeping. Whether you are sick or not. And wear a mask, and get someone else to help sit with your dad if you get worse.
 

Laish

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Sooo jealous! I’m in Calgary, Alberta right now. I woke up to -23 C/-9.4 F. It went up after that, but not a lot! Oh, and the sun was shining! Big deal!

As for you, Steph, do get out every day. And try and find some indoor activities you enjoy doing, for when your dad is sleeping. Whether you are sick or not. And wear a mask, and get someone else to help sit with your dad if you get worse.
It’s sweater weather in the valley of the sun ( the Phoenix area ) when it gets below 90 . Ha ha
Blessings
Bill
 

ArtsieSteph

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I think it becomes hard on myself since me and mom are it. Mom works too so when I’m sick she has to stay home and it becomes a real problem.

BUT. I do a lot of leisure activities, I don’t over exert myself, my main thing is that I don’t go out too much so I need to do more of that and socializing. It’s like I’m doing ok in certain aspects but not quite others. Trying to balance.
 

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It’s sweater weather in the valley of the sun ( the Phoenix area ) when it gets below 90 . Ha ha
Blessings
Bill
Phoenix! I'm in Tucson! Was 81 degrees today, and gorgeous. <3
 

ArtsieSteph

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Oh hey I'm in Scottsdale! XD yeah it's finally getting nice at night
 

ArtsieSteph

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Sick again, felling a little achie. Not sure if it's all in my head or what level I need to legit stay away. I hate being a germaphonr AND my dad being on chemo