Why are some people mean?

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slave

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We let (our) emotions out and then we let them reign and call it what God made me to be. Yet, God has let nothing of our old life to be.We have this idea that our personalities are different, (which is true), therefore God made some to be mean and some to be not so mean; but the essence of any Christian, regardless of personality, is a life found in Christ Jesus. Thus, we must first sit in things already accomplished in Christ in all things in our lives to see the point of any speaking or acting or allowance of emotions. As Lord, He will shine His light thru us, always lifting Him up in our behavior as the standard He implants within us. We are dead; yet we are alive in Christ!

3 Don’t let selfishness and prideful agendas take over. Embrace true humility, and lift your heads to extend love to others. (Philippians 2:3).

When one is mean acting to represent God they are seeking exceptional moments and are living a lie. When one is mean and claim, " This is what God has made me to become..." also is living a lie and the truth is not in him. God will give us His touches of inspiration only when He sees that we are not in danger of being led away by them. We must never consider our moments of inspiration as the standard way of life - our work is our standard. To live a life alone with God does not mean that we live it apart from everyone else. The connection between godly men and women and those associated with them is continually revealed in the Bible. Being mean is never in the economy of God's work or in the economy of the Children of God by way of personality. Whether a right of ours, or a means to an end in His work - being mean is simply ungodly.. Hate that which is evil, cling to that which is good, but never be mean; otherwise it is fruit of self-awareness over righteousness in our lives; and as we look inward from without, instead of looking from within outwardly thru the spirit, we will be rocked emotionally and tossed by every wind out there ..
 
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slave

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The reason people chose to be mean is obvious biblically. It is a matter of Spiritual warfare and surrender. Now, I am not talking about the unsaved. They serve their master. But to the Christian, they too must relevance and relinquish their whole life to the Father practically and wholly. This is the battle therefore in the mind and heart.

Satan takes ground mindfully, if we as Children of God do not keep our minds from being passive in Christ. We must always move onward and upward in our righteousness relationally with Jesus in obeying Him and placing our minds in Him. Therefore, those who have had more of a disposition to being mean in their past, must surrender this subject more to Christ mindfully and behaviorally perhaps than others, but we all must surrender the whole of our lives to Christ as to what Satan has gotten his ace's on in our old life, that now, thru Christ, no longer holds power to bind us.
 

richard34

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Most people are mean because they are bitter inside! Usually they have been hurt by someone in the past or even been hurt numerous times. It usually starts out as a sadness inside but after you've been hurt so many times that sadness turns into a hardness and eventually a hatefulness. In turn they take it out on other people. They want to see others hurt the way they do. It's a lose -lose situation and it's never solved and they are never healed. I think the only way for people to have that pain removed is just to give it all to God. Let His love cover all the pain and heartache then they would find true happiness. This may be something most of these people have never experienced. I can tell you one thing for sure, the people who enjoy being mean to others are some of the most unhappy people in the world and I feel really sorry for them. They need Jesus! The whole world need Him! There is a joy unspeakable and a love so profound that you hurt inside when you see another person hurt. You know if you try hard enough though you can love the hurt out of people.
 

Waggles

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Why do people chose to be mean, chose to hurt others, chose to cause pain to others when it isn't necessary? What causes someone's psyche to go in that direction. What satisfaction does someone have being mean to people?
Watched a DVD the other night ...

1996 production of "IN Cold Blood"
starring
Anthony Edwards, Eric Roberts, Sam Neill


While in prison, Dick Hickock, 28, hears a cell-mate's story about $10,000 in cash kept in a home safe by a prosperous rancher. When he's paroled, Dick persuades ex-con Perry Smith, 31, to join him in going after the stash. On a November night in 1959, Dick and Perry break into the Holcomb, Kansas, house of Herb Clutter. Enraged at finding no safe, they wake the sleeping family and brutally kill them all.

This is a frightening confronting movie of how two men, but one in particular,
Perry Smith, could just blow away an entire family including two teenage
children for the sake of gaining $40 from a failed robbery.
In the end they hang for it - but the film story explores the regret of Perry
who can give no other explanation other than he is sorry it happened.

This movie and also Clint Eastwood's "Changeling" confront us
directly with the truth that Jesus spoke so much about -
out of an evil heart comes evil things
and out of a good heart comes good things.

Why this is so and how it is that some are kind-hearted and
others are cold- or hard-hearted is a spiritual mystery.
I do not believe it is simply conditioning or behaviourism
but there is something spiritual as to good and evil within
us all.

In the movie Perry sings a gospel song earlier the same day
that he and Hickock slaughter the Clutter family.
Why this movie is so scary is the awful truth that when it
comes to evil there are no easy answers.
Hickock has no remorse. Just shrugs it off.
Perry apologies for his wrong actions.

So if being mean and nasty is human nature then what
is it that stops you and I from being mean or nasty to
others? The gospel? The fear of God?
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AuntieAnt

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It is horrifying that there are people in this world who operate with absolutely no mercy. Equally horrifying is the fact that in our own understanding, we might believe we are more worthy than murderers and other convicted criminals.

So what is it that stops you and me from being mean or nasty to others?
The love of Christ constrains us. [2 Corinthians 5:14]

Therefore, if any man be in Christ, he is a new creation. Old things have passed away; behold, all things become new. [2 Corinthians 5:14]

As the Apostle Paul stated, "For I am the least of the apostles, that am not fit to be called an apostle because I persecuted the church of God. But by the grace of God I am what I am, and His grace toward me was not in vain." [I Corinthians 15:9, 10]

As Paul stated in Ephesians 3:1, we are prisoners of Christ.

And as Jesus’ half-brother Jude said, “Now unto Him Who is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the Presence of His Glory with exceeding joy; to the only wise God our Savior, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and ever. Amen.”
 

Tommy379

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My Mama says that I'm so ornery because I got all them teeth and no toothbrush.
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toinena

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When you leave Jesus and God out of the manners, you get mean. That is as simple as 1+1
 

Lynx

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There are some people who are mean (insensitive and treat others harshly) because they are in physical or emotional pain. I've been there myself, although with me it usually comes out as sarcasm rather than meanness, but not always...

Even when an animal is in pain it will lash out at anyone that comes near it. Its a natural reflex and there are plenty of people out there experiencing chronic physical and emotional pain (depression, anxiety, grief, resentment, anger, etc..)...

I read once that "We should be kind to everyone because we all have struggles and we don't know what struggles someone else might be going though.." (I'm paraphrasing)
Yup. In the first ten seconds directly after being stung by a wasp, it's downright hard to say anything nice.
 

PennEd

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Simple answer you may think but really think about it. Why do people chose to be mean, chose to hurt others, chose to cause pain to others when it isn't necessary? What causes someone's psyche to go in that direction. I know the answer someone may give is the apple and the forbidden tree, Adam and Eve, blah blah blah... I get that is where sin resulted from but what causes someone to chose evil over good. What satisfaction does someone have being mean to people?
When you are in pain you cause pain.

Think about hitting your thumb with a hammer. You KNOW it's nobodies fault but yours, yet anger and hurt at the pain can cause you to lash out at those around you.

The same is true when our spirit is in pain or hurting. The ONLY cure for the pain is Jesus, and even then we can sometimes struggle and walk in the flesh, and hurt others. Stay close to the Lord, and the pain others inflict will bounce off like spitballs.
 

mcubed

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It depends on the definition of mean. When I pick up a subscription from the pharmacy for my mom and give them the date of birth 1941, then they make a stupid reply like, is it “YOUR” …. I reply I look great for being born in 1941… NOT MEAN (funny in my own mind). My ex-husband who was great until he drank dark liqueur was nice then he would beat the crap out of me. He was not mean either, just a mean drunk. Too bad he got drunk almost every day…. Then there are just mean-spirited people… thought, word, and deed mean… I have seen them born again and transformed to loving kind people, better than me… they wouldn’t say the caddy remark to their cashier at the pharmacy… (only because they do don’t have a dry sense-of-humor like me…. Therefore I honestly do believe it is an evil spirit attached to a person. I know this is your apple but the real deal is we live in a fallen world. People do need to get tough skins (I do not apologies for a dry sense-of humor, like at the pharmacy) others need SAVED… PRAY FOR THE MEAN PEOPLE!!!!!
 

Eromonnis

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Simple answer you may think but really think about it. Why do people chose to be mean, chose to hurt others, chose to cause pain to others when it isn't necessary?... What satisfaction does someone have being mean to people?
Ego validity.
It empowers their sense of controlling their own validity.
 

JaumeJ

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Some folks hate themselves even without knowing Jesus.

I know of one individual who actually attempted to kill

others on more than one occasion. Perhaps he really

did not want to succeed. About four years ago this person

came to the Feet of our Lord in total frankness and he

was saved, just months before his own demise. He really

loved Jesus because Jesus loved ¡him first, but he still hated

himself, but only when he saw himself next to Jesus. He became

a lamb of the Good Shepherd, amen.
 
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this is a very wise and informative Post, as we both have known many, many, people
who actually hated not only themselves, but others as well, and they never knew the
'why of it',...but of course, we do now, and much grief comes along with this knowledge,
as we know that only our Holy Saviour can save such ones as this...we all were once such
at some level who were in some way as Jaume has described...

everything in this 'fallen-world' only gets worse and worse, but those of us who
Love and Adore and Serve our Master, Jesus Christ, will be able to tell the difference
and may-haps, our Father in Heaven will allow us to help them in their time of greatest
need - unfortunately, this usually is not the way that it goes, for it is always about what our
Saviour allows for each of us; but we must always be ready and willing servants to help, succor
those who Jesus puts into our paths and we must be always be ready, at all costs to serve Him,
and them...of course within His Holy guidance and not our sometimes misguided 'emotions'...
 
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Mean people find fault in others and try to correct everyone because it makes them feel righteous and important. They act like they have it all together and never make mistakes. They won’t accept correction themselves and in fact are shocked, offended and lash out when someone tries to show them their error. The Pharisees were like this. Jesus said they don’t know what they’re doing because they’re spiritually blind.
You've practically described a narcissist to a T.
 

JaumeJ

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One of your "points" made in this post gave me a smile, when you say Weverything in this fallen world only gets worse."

When I share with others, and the subject of this age, this world, the politics, the economic situation, comes up, I almost always finish my portion of the dialogue with, "It will only get worse." I say this as one who believes Jesus Christ, Yeshua, and I usually have a bit of a wistful and understandable smile going on.........

Praise God, it will only get worse as long as men continue in their endeavor without consulting our Maker.God bless all in the patience of the saints, amen.


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this is a very wise and informative Post, as we both have known many, many, people
who actually hated not only themselves, but others as well, and they never knew the
'why of it',...but of course, we do now, and much grief comes along with this knowledge,
as we know that only our Holy Saviour can save such ones as this...we all were once such
at some level who were in some way as Jaume has described...

everything in this 'fallen-world' only gets worse and worse, but those of us who
Love and Adore and Serve our Master, Jesus Christ, will be able to tell the difference
and may-haps, our Father in Heaven will allow us to help them in their time of greatest
need - unfortunately, this usually is not the way that it goes, for it is always about what our
Saviour allows for each of us; but we must always be ready and willing servants to help, succor
those who Jesus puts into our paths and we must be always be ready, at all costs to serve Him,
and them...of course within His Holy guidance and not our sometimes misguided 'emotions'...
 

G00WZ

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Simple answer you may think but really think about it. Why do people chose to be mean, chose to hurt others, chose to cause pain to others when it isn't necessary? What causes someone's psyche to go in that direction. I know the answer someone may give is the apple and the forbidden tree, Adam and Eve, blah blah blah... I get that is where sin resulted from but what causes someone to chose evil over good. What satisfaction does someone have being mean to people?

Simple answer really.. Not enough God in their heart, and not nearly enough fiber in their diet
 
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most cannot help it, for the most part, they are serving the god of this 'fallen-world'...,
not yet called...