Thoughts on reunions......

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renewed_hope

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I ran into one of the girls I went to high school with six months ago and she told me there was talks about our reunion and if I was interested in attending. My first thought was absolutely not because I have spent the last ten years healing and growing from being there and I didn't want to deal with people try to upstage one another by bragging and telling half truths in order to feel superior.

Have you ever went to a school reunion and if so what did you like or didn't like about it? Also, if you haven't gone to one do you regret not going?
 

JaumeJ

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Mhy own approach to such interaction is my havingmaintained contact with some acquaintances from high school and university days.....

I do not feel a need to immerse myself with all the student bodies....not for me, but, if you are so incline, perhaps there woudl be some kind of discovery for you.....j
 
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renewed_hope

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Mhy own approach to such interaction is my havingmaintained contact with some acquaintances from high school and university days.....

I do not feel a need to immerse myself with all the student bodies....not for me, but, if you are so incline, perhaps there woudl be some kind of discovery for you.....j
Nah! I am not interested in going. I was curious as to what other people's thoughts were on this. Thanks for your input :)
 
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Me going to a high school rerun is a waste of time. Not because reruns are, but because I'm forever stuck with, "which one?" I went to three different high schools in three different states, and even for the one I went to for two whole years, they were my freshman and junior year, so might as well consider it four high schools.

And college was big enough that even if they divided up reunions by majors, there were 7000 students in my major for my year. Add to that, my friends didn't have the same major, nor were they the same year I was, so that would be visiting a bunch of people I don't know.

Would like to know what became of Danny though. Only guy in the Communications class who got an A on that grammar test, (Communications and half of us failed it -- twice! lol) We dated for a couple of months, but he was the guy who got along with everyone, and ran the student events, so had dinner with everyone from Timothy Leary, to Vincent Bugliosi, to Kool, AND the Gang. lol What did be become after college? Struck me as the guy who would end up running Madison Square Garden or being a CEO of a Blue Chip company. Unfortunately, I can't remember his last name.

That said, I have "reunioned" with old classmates and roommates.

Still, I think it might do you good to go, OR if not go, look up old classmates and have a mini-reunion. First of all, the biggest change of personality takes place between 18-25. It really is. At 18 we are cock-sure we have everything figured out, and we are the smartest people in the world. Everyone should learn from us how to live. There is an old joke that is funny because it is true. "At 18, I couldn't believe how naive and stupid my parents were. How had they survived all these years? At 22, I couldn't believe how smart and wise they'd become." Your classmates aren't as stuck on themselves as you remember. You probably remember accurately, but they changed, just like you have.

Second, I was in your shoes. When I went to high school, being perpetual new-girl made each year become the same thing. No friends the beginning of the year, and only 2-3 by end of year. Plus, you know my personality still. I don't make a great first impression, so it took me half a year to make a friend. We weren't good friends until springtime. High school was hell until spring. Not really a confidence builder in that sentence. BUT those who became friends are worth seeing again. (Really fun at my age, because we're the grannies laughing at how the grandkids are making the same goofs we made and they don't even know they are goofing. lol)

You had a couple of friends in high school. Contact them to see if they're going. If they are, go together. It's great catching up. And, if they're not? Well, then set up a get-together with just them. Life goes by fast. It's good to find out you're not the only one who is surviving it, out of all the people you ever knew. And, they tend to be a lot of fun, because you have one thing in common -- you liked each other.
 
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I ran into one of the girls I went to high school with six months ago and she told me there was talks about our reunion and if I was interested in attending. My first thought was absolutely not because I have spent the last ten years healing and growing from being there and I didn't want to deal with people try to upstage one another by bragging and telling half truths in order to feel superior.

Have you ever went to a school reunion and if so what did you like or didn't like about it? Also, if you haven't gone to one do you regret not going?
I was in two high schools, one was huge, the other tiny. Neither of them have ever contacted me about a reunion and i'm perfectly happy with that. I hated school. Not because there was so many bad things, i just hated school. So i'd have zero interest in seeing those goons again.
 

JaumeJ

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I must admit, the though has crossed my mind for the HS reunion a few times, but like you, naw!

Nah! I am not interested in going. I was curious as to what other people's thoughts were on this. Thanks for your input :)
 

mailmandan

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I ran into one of the girls I went to high school with six months ago and she told me there was talks about our reunion and if I was interested in attending. My first thought was absolutely not because I have spent the last ten years healing and growing from being there and I didn't want to deal with people try to upstage one another by bragging and telling half truths in order to feel superior.

Have you ever went to a school reunion and if so what did you like or didn't like about it? Also, if you haven't gone to one do you regret not going?
I did not attend my high school reunion for the same reasons you mentioned. I was not a fan of high school. A friend of mine from high school who did go afterward showed me pictures of the people who showed up to the reunion and I'm very glad that I did not go! There was nobody there (other than him) that I would like to have seen.
 

melita916

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I didn’t go to my 10 year reunion. A few weeks ago, they had a hang out time. I didn’t go because I was on my anniversary trip that weekend. Even if I wasn’t on my trip, I wouldn’t have gone. I don’t talk to anyone from high school simply because we just grew apart. And everything I need to know about people is on Facebook lol.
 

HoneyDew

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I didn't go to my high school reunion or get togethers. I was not interested in seeing any of the people that were going. I am friends with several from high school and we still keep in touch and they felt the same as I did.
 

Joidevivre

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For a few years, it was fun. Got to see how the "kids" settled into maturity.

But, after 40 or 50 years, it is weird to see all the old people there. You now know that you really do fit into the elderly group. And you really do not feel like you do! And I absolutely do not want to see one more picture of a grandchild!
 
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renewed_hope

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I did not attend my high school reunion for the same reasons you mentioned. I was not a fan of high school. A friend of mine from high school who did go afterward showed me pictures of the people who showed up to the reunion and I'm very glad that I did not go! There was nobody there (other than him) that I would like to have seen.
Ya know I am so thankful I am not alone in this
 

Magenta

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Have you ever went to a school reunion

Also, if you haven't gone to one do you regret not going?
No, and no :)

I have, however, remained in touch with my best friend from high school.
We did have a bit of a falling out at one point, but remained in contact
over the years (almost fifty! :eek:) and we patched over the rift many
years ago, and are still close in heart, though separated by many miles.

When I became a Christian fourteen years ago, I eagerly anticipated
letting her mother know, for she'd had much care and concern over
the state of my soul, and I knew she would rejoice... and she did :D
 

maxwel

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I think if you enjoy hanging with everyone from high school, you should go.

But I've never been to a reunion.

I always thought of high school like being drafted for war:
endless months of mandatory trauma with a group of people you didn't choose,
and just when you think you can't take any more, you get a short break...
only to receive another tour of duty.
Eventually, when you've seen enough carnage, you just wander around with the "thousand yard stare."
: )
 
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La_Vie_En_Rose

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My 20th was last year, I was going to go if I had gotten to the size I wanted, but I did not meet my weight loss goal. I am facebook friends with some of the people I went to high school with, and I noticed that most people change, we grow and mature. So, the snob or the jerk you knew in high school might be the most humble adult you would ever want to meet. I regret not going (in a way). If we have a 25th, I’ll definitely go, regardless of my weight.
 
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renewed_hope

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My 20th was last year, I was going to go if I had gotten to the size I wanted, but I did not meet my weight loss goal. I am facebook friends with some of the people I went to high school with, and I noticed that most people change, we grow and mature. So, the snob or the jerk you knew in high school might be the most humble adult you would ever want to meet. I regret not going (in a way). If we have a 25th, I’ll definitely go, regardless of my weight.
I thought about going to my 20 year because I figure during those second ten years life has a way of ironing out the people who want to flaunt their money and successes of their "perfect families". I mean, I had to work very hard to get where I'm at and nobody has the right to make me feel like everything I worked for is never good enough. I grew up in a community where most of the kids came from affluent families and now are constantly showing off their trips around to several countries and how many houses they own. I mean if their world comes crashing in around them I would genuinely feel bad but hopefully it would make them a better person
 
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La_Vie_En_Rose

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I thought about going to my 20 year because I figure during those second ten years life has a way of ironing out the people who want to flaunt their money and successes of their "perfect families". I mean, I had to work very hard to get where I'm at and nobody has the right to make me feel like everything I worked for is never good enough. I grew up in a community where most of the kids came from affluent families and now are constantly showing off their trips around to several countries and how many houses they own. I mean if their world comes crashing in around them I would genuinely feel bad but hopefully it would make them a better person
I don’t know how I would feel coming from an affluent school- different I guess. I am from a small, working class town. Things are different in a way, I think most of us are happy if anyone succeeds. The mayor recently called our town a “mud hole” so that tells you something. I am not trying to be a reverse snob (there is some of that in me and in my family), but people who are from a poor place are a little more “real” and less about keeping up with the Joneses. We congratulate each other on finding something cute in Wal-mart.

I realize not every place and school is the same. I do think that most people find out what is important by their 40s, family, kids, and just having enough.
 
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For a few years, it was fun. Got to see how the "kids" settled into maturity.

But, after 40 or 50 years, it is weird to see all the old people there. You now know that you really do fit into the elderly group. And you really do not feel like you do! And I absolutely do not want to see one more picture of a grandchild!
A couple of decades ago, I organized a family reunion. At the family reunion my aunt and uncle said they had just gone to their 40th college reunion, (and enjoyed it.) In all honesty, I thought, "Man! They're really really OLD!"

40 years and two days ago was the college graduation anniversary.

Man! My aunt and uncle were really, really YOUNG! lol
 
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Quite a few people said they wouldn't go because they hated school. Can I ask the obvious question? Does anyone know anyone who liked school by the time we hit being teenagers or older? No one going to class reunions are going back because love of school. They're going back because either love of classmates or just to see how they turned out. That's not school. That's people.
 
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La_Vie_En_Rose

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Quite a few people said they wouldn't go because they hated school. Can I ask the obvious question? Does anyone know anyone who liked school by the time we hit being teenagers or older? No one going to class reunions are going back because love of school. They're going back because either love of classmates or just to see how they turned out. That's not school. That's people.
I liked school, lol. But I was a nerd.
 
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I thought about going to my 20 year because I figure during those second ten years life has a way of ironing out the people who want to flaunt their money and successes of their "perfect families". I mean, I had to work very hard to get where I'm at and nobody has the right to make me feel like everything I worked for is never good enough. I grew up in a community where most of the kids came from affluent families and now are constantly showing off their trips around to several countries and how many houses they own. I mean if their world comes crashing in around them I would genuinely feel bad but hopefully it would make them a better person
Hi there! I am that person. I wasn't showing off the trips. I was telling people what happened on my summer vacation, and we just happened to go fishing in Canada. It's beautiful there and fun! I still tak about my Canadian fishing trips.

My family, generally speaking, is somewhere between four-bedroom house in suburbia rich to mansion on a hill rich, to polo ponies/fashionable balls/buy a used mansion to rehab it rich. Most of them. And yet most of them didn't inherit millions or billions. (I don't think anyone inherited billions, but never asked to find out. They're cousins, not celebrities. lol) Their parents lived the average number of years people live, (or sometimes quite a bit longer), so each generation did exactly what you did to land where they were. They started with an edcation, and did the rest on their own. The ones who didn't start on their own, got stuck with the family's EIGHT businesses to run. (Does NOT sound like fun to me. lol)

Me? I was accepted into ever college I applied to, becuase my high school grades did not suck and I liked being active in clubs and such, (when I could.) I went to college to become a teacher and failed. A teacher. Says, right there, I wasn't out to make a mint. Failed at teaching but still got the degree, so worked at places where that degree barely got my foot in the door. (Cleaning houses and businesses did not require that degree. lol) Found a heating mechanic, fell in love, got married and happily ever after. At least that's how we see it.

The world sees us as failures. He broke his back two years later, so we had to start from scratch and work our way up again to middle-class. Did inherit $18,000 from my very rich grandmother, (only because Mom died, so she gave Mom's inheritance to Mom's four kids.) Bought a three-bedroom rowhome in Philly. And eight years later, (21 years after graduating college), you get to see what you want from the affluent kid's lives. I became disabled. He became disabled, and we've been living on SSDI ever since.

BUT, we are not failures. The Lord has us exactly where he wanted us, and has done some serious boot-camp style training to get us up to this condition. It's working out perfectly. Just as it is working out perfectly for the rich folks, and the poorer folks in my family. (Yeah. We're not the poorest people in my family either. lol)