Hello, I've only talked about this with two friends. Neither of which are Christians but I don't judge them all the same.
I'm in a long term relationship with a Christian man, we used to get on like a house on fire, but lately he seems to care less and less about myself and about God.
I pray for him but not sure what I can do.
I suffer with mental health problems which he was fully aware of when we met before we even dated.
Now he expects me to push all of my health aside to take care of him. He doesn't allow me to open up to him about my unhappiness. He expects 'perfection' in his eyes. No matter what I do or what I change I'm still not doing enough. I'm getting very sick and very weak because I'm depriving myself of sleep and constantly having to look after him.
He compares our situations too much and always puts himself as the 'bigger victim' despite our situations being completely different and often I'll even admit some of what I've been through was much more severe than him but he always plays the victim and acts like I don't matter.
He often disappears at nights and I'm left crying and suffering with suicidal tenancies which he's known for well over a year now. My only comfort is prayer but I fear he is turning away from our faith and finding comfort in ungodly things.
He confessed to cheating in the past. Though I have stayed faithful my past was ungodly and he used this as his excuse to be with these other women. Although I had repented my ways a very long time ago and have not had sexual relations with my new Christian partner as I want to honour gods word now onward.
I have spoke with someone at my church who advised that what he is doing to me god would not want, because I am being treated poorly and is not repenting his sinful ways and i am not the cause of this. My atheist friends have said his behaviour is bordering on emotional abuse too because I am begrudged having friends and doing anything that doesn't involve him. He also is very jealous of male friends or my finances being higher than him, despite him being unemployed and me having only a small job that just helps pay the bills and a few luxuries for myself (we do not live together). I lost a lot of friends because of him and he is often in "competition" with my male friends wanting to be better than others and jealous of their physique or wealth. I have to assure him constantly I am with him, not them and only have interest for him and I have been faithful our entire relationship.
I love him dearly but he's not caring for me in the slightest any more where as when we met he was the kindest gentlest soul who was doing everything in his power to make sure I was alright.
Im not sure what to do because we are engaged to be married and such but I do not trust him any longer and feel like I deserve more care and consideration in this partnership now because I feel like he is being selfish and uncaring.
I'm happy to discuss more under private message's if anyone has advise or anything for me.
God bless and thank you for taking the time to read this.
- Katie
I'm in a long term relationship with a Christian man, we used to get on like a house on fire, but lately he seems to care less and less about myself and about God.
I pray for him but not sure what I can do.
I suffer with mental health problems which he was fully aware of when we met before we even dated.
Now he expects me to push all of my health aside to take care of him. He doesn't allow me to open up to him about my unhappiness. He expects 'perfection' in his eyes. No matter what I do or what I change I'm still not doing enough. I'm getting very sick and very weak because I'm depriving myself of sleep and constantly having to look after him.
He compares our situations too much and always puts himself as the 'bigger victim' despite our situations being completely different and often I'll even admit some of what I've been through was much more severe than him but he always plays the victim and acts like I don't matter.
He often disappears at nights and I'm left crying and suffering with suicidal tenancies which he's known for well over a year now. My only comfort is prayer but I fear he is turning away from our faith and finding comfort in ungodly things.
He confessed to cheating in the past. Though I have stayed faithful my past was ungodly and he used this as his excuse to be with these other women. Although I had repented my ways a very long time ago and have not had sexual relations with my new Christian partner as I want to honour gods word now onward.
I have spoke with someone at my church who advised that what he is doing to me god would not want, because I am being treated poorly and is not repenting his sinful ways and i am not the cause of this. My atheist friends have said his behaviour is bordering on emotional abuse too because I am begrudged having friends and doing anything that doesn't involve him. He also is very jealous of male friends or my finances being higher than him, despite him being unemployed and me having only a small job that just helps pay the bills and a few luxuries for myself (we do not live together). I lost a lot of friends because of him and he is often in "competition" with my male friends wanting to be better than others and jealous of their physique or wealth. I have to assure him constantly I am with him, not them and only have interest for him and I have been faithful our entire relationship.
I love him dearly but he's not caring for me in the slightest any more where as when we met he was the kindest gentlest soul who was doing everything in his power to make sure I was alright.
Im not sure what to do because we are engaged to be married and such but I do not trust him any longer and feel like I deserve more care and consideration in this partnership now because I feel like he is being selfish and uncaring.
I'm happy to discuss more under private message's if anyone has advise or anything for me.
God bless and thank you for taking the time to read this.
- Katie
