Could you date or marry someone with a disability

For a while, I have this question that has been nagging me. Could you date or marry someone with a disability? I post the question so that males and females could answer. I should explain why I ask this question. I was born with a birth defect that was a result of being born three months early and being an Identical twin. For a long time i didn't know what caused the defect or had a name for it. Because, this defect affected my feet (turned out to the side, flat, and some over turn) and have a speech impairment ( example r sounds like w, long vowels sound like short vowels), I always felt that I couldn't date or would never get married (low self esteam). I have always wanted to ask this question but never had the nerve too. Also, If someone with a disability asked you out, what would your reaction be? Be honest with both answers.

No doubt what you experience is difficult, however, what you describe does not strike me as a major "disability" (I don't mean that in a disrespectful or belittling way). If you were a paraplegic or quadriplegic, for example, that would make more sense in regards to your low self esteem and asking this question.

My answer though: Yes, I could easily love a person that is disabled. The outwardly means little to me, and yours is no shame.

God bless!

May the peace of our lord Jesus Christ be with you! my answer to your question is a big yes! we are wonderfully created by God we are all special to Him.God said in his word in Romans 2:11 for GOD doesn't show favoritism.Just continue on walking His will and maintaining a close walk with him.God said in Phil 4:6 be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your request be made known to God and He also said In his word in Ecclesiastes 3:1 To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven. don't underestimate yourself I believe that GOD has something vital plan for your life. actually i was proud of you! GOD bless you and more power!

Due to my work and social contacts in the disability area I know many 'mixed' couples, of an able-bodied person and a person with a disability, and even some couples both with a disability.

I know of quadraplaegics in full-time ministry, paraplaegic counsellors, spina bifida administrators, and a woman with no legs whatsoever a personal life trainer and etc, all married to able-bodies spouses.

As we say man looks at the outward appearance and God looks at the heart. And we as Christians should see things God's way.

I suggest you go among folks who know this and live it. And avoid people, even Christians, who do not.

It is, afterall, just ignorance.

Also, people with a disability have much to offer the church. Doesn't it say that the part of the body we at first regard as weaker, when we consider, it has a unique and vital place. And the scripture there is talking about the church. I may speak (or post) about this more some time later...

What I wanted to say is that your thoughts are those of any single woman. And the situation is the same. It is not wise for a woman to make the first request for a closer relationship. (There are new ways these days but all the implications have not been assessed.) Men and women are different and there are all sorts of timeless dynamics that are messed up when the "prize" does the chasing.

At the moment you're just wondering, and that's fine.

In the meantime, the timeless situation for a woman is to live and love, and continue with her specialities, which may be helpfulness, or comfort, or companionship, or counselling, etc etc etc, (these things men actually do like) until some blockhead finally wakes up and realises how wonderful she is. (Then he has to be civilized, but that's another story...)

Every woman is a wonder. All the best to you.

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"Though the outward appearance is perishing, the inner man is being renewed day by day."

I think I would under certain circumstances. We all have our disabilities, fortunately mine are not physical.

My wife married someone with a disability.
Worse than that, she married an Irishman with a disability!

Joking apart I truly think there is something in the "DNA" of a disabled person that makes them more driven, more determined & more intent on succeeding in their life path.
I attended a sports awards ceremony recently where the winner of the 2011 Athlete of the Year went to a cerebral palsy patient who, despite a growing & crippling cruel illness, beat every able bodied athlete into a cocked hat.
His acceptance speech was simply shouting from the rooftops;
"The cripples are coming"!!
The cheers that guy got nearly blew out the windows!

Life for me is not about living with your disability or accepting it or resigning yourself to a life with it. It's about embracing it & adapting yourself & circumstances to make it work for you.
Ok- So I suffer up to 10 seizures in a week - mostly minor but some serious & a few that would basically be the end of me. But there's nothing I can do about that.
However I can do something about my relationship with my God, my life with my gorgeous wife & wonderful kids. I have a very good job for which I'm very well
paid but often wake up in strange hospitals in odd parts of Europe! But that too
is a challenge that this cripple rises to. Life is no breeze & I could have a mega Sz & die @ any time.
But until that day comes I will tackle whatever he day brings, in company with my God.
Nar lagai Dia do lamh.
J.