Hello Everyone. I would like to ask everyones opinion and advice please.. I am a Christian but I am going through a rough patch. I pray but after praying I still feel bad why is this? I am told that the person I am meant to forgive I have a fear of. I do not understand this is it fear for her wrong doing? I cannot for the life of me be nice to this person how do I overcome all the above???????????

You know how Jesus told us to love one another as He loves us? Most likely, you won't feel happy at all being nice to that person. Why? In order to love one another like Jesus did, we have to choose to do so. At the time Jesus was on the cross, I bet He wasn't very happy at all on the inside. Yet the Bible says He did that because He loves us. God's kind of love isn't a feeling; it's a choice. With Him, it's possible. You can do it (in Him)!

As for forgiving them, I'm not quite sure about the fear thing (I can't relate at all and even if I think about it I don't have any understanding)... If God forgave us, we should be able to forgive other people no problem. I don't say that to condemn or convict, but it's definitely possible (in Him, of course).

Lastly, if you want to feel good, go read the Word. Best peace giving living Word I have ever read Also, your heart may be convicting you. God is greater than our hearts (1st John 3:20 - "For if our heart condemn us, God is greater than our heart, and knoweth all things."). It could also depend on what you're praying, too.

If not for the life of you, do it for His sake! You can do it (in Him)! All the strength you need to do this is right inside of your spirit!

I hope this helps. God bless you!

The bible does talk about if you cannot forgive others, it hinders God from forgiving you. How can you expect that you should walk in forgiveness when you yourself don't do the same? My suggestion, keep praying that God will help you to forgive and work this situation out.

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1st - If this person did something bad to you then be aware that she is your enemy
2nd-Pray for that person
3rd-Ask God to forgive you
4th-Prepare your heart that if in case that He touch the heart of your enemy, that enemy can change into your sister in Christ and you be ready to accept her as your sister
5th-Decide to forgive that person
6th-Go and worship God

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2 Timothy 1:7 "For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind."

In the new covenant- Colossians 3:13, forgive as the Lord forgave you.

If Gods forgiveness of us depended on our forgiveness of others, we wouldn't stand a chance. For example, just before we die, a little unforgiveness rises up before we get the chance to forgive. Then God doesn't forgive us............

So praise God, through Christ He HAS forgiven us. Still we should forgive others and flee from other sin, for our sake, their sake, and to Gods glory!!! not so that we can stand before God, He's perfect, it's only by the righteousness of Christ we can do that!!

By the blood of Jesus we are washed white as snow people, hallelujah

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Thank you to each and everyone of you for your responses I am truly grateful. God Bless

Hi Ellen! It's good to forgive the person in your heart, and perhaps to their face as well, if God leads you to do so. But that doesn't mean that you are obligated to become friends with the person, particularly if they don't apologize to you. It's perfectly fine to love your enemies from a safe distance . God Bless!

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I couldn't agree more. Forgiveness is in the heart.