Relationship Advice, Im so confused it angers me

This is a long story, if more details are needed let me know but i wanna make this as short as i can.
I love my boyfriend. I have loved him since we were in high school. We broke up when he went into the military because i couldnt handle a long distance relationship, and he was really jealous because he couldnt see what was going on at home. Well years past and he remarried. He got a divorce but he recently found out something didnt go through right so hes not technically divorced. Since July we have been together and at times i really am happy. The thing that made me the happiest is his neice, her parents dont really take care of her, so my bf anf his mom does. My bf lives with his mom and sister.
Well i got sick around the time i moved in, or alittle before, and i that made our relationship tense.
They dont have much money so me moving in brought them some, but when i couldnt his mom quickly told me i couldnt stay there. I felt very hurt by that cuz I want a man who is going to be able to take care of me in sickness and in health ya know. Also I began being confused in my heart when he told me he is against making goals or plans, or thinking about the future. He just wants to live in today. That lifestyle along with some other reckless behavior, has him in jail right now. I mean it seems like the more i feel like God is watching me and helping me personally, the lazier or recklesser (dont think thats a word) he gets. And i mean he is happy for me, but shows no intention that the path im going is one he wants to follow, and i just feel like we arent equally yoked. Then again hes not leaving my life, granted sometimes its been pure hacking/stalking, i do something for him and he needs me.

My sister felt it in her spirit when he came over unannounced to pick me up, but he actually tried calling me i just had my phone in another room. Ive ran from alot in life, but i ihave also wasted alot of time in a situation that hurts me just cuz it made someone else happy. I really dont know what to do. If God wants me to stay with him, to try and lead him to God i dont wanna run away thinking its the devil trying to hold me from being all i can be.

Listen to your sister. That is the holy spirit. You listen to the holy spirit. If you re-read your post, as if you were another person reading someone else's post..you would say "That girl needs to get away from that man!" he is not ready for a relationship. he is not ready to settle down and take care of someone else. He is not ready to make right choices. And you are in for a world of hurt. You can't save him. Only God can. And God will call to him. He just hasn't not responded because he is caught up in himself and his sins.

Seems like you know the answer. You just don't want to admit it. I'm guessing him being divorced in his early 20s, living at home, now in jail and you said something about 'hacking/stalking' which you didn't explain what that meant, but if its in reference to his treatment of you, it sounds like he has nothing to offer personally, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, financially. Don't let old, dated emotions keep you in a bad situation. You've changed, hes still in high school. Time for you to find a man, not a boy.

Im just now getting to read these responses. Wow, those are really Awesome, I thankYou both so much. Tearose84 "You can't save him. Only God can. And God will call to him. " That was the exact thing God told me last night. I stayed on CC for awhile cuz i just was just so confused. But God doesnt create confusion. He told me what i needed to do, both back then and now. Ugly when you said " Don't let old, dated emotions keep you in a bad situation. You've changed, hes still in high school. Time for you to find a man, not a boy." It rings so true, many times with different type of relationship i let things stay bad, cuz they once was good, or they helped me at one time so i feel like i owe them. But i serve God only and God will love me and prepare me for my husband and him for me.

Glad we were able to help. Now the hard part, following through. haha.