Have You Lost A Friend To Death ?

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J-Kay-2

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She Was Snatched Away ~
Some will not understand why I am writing this
that is okay. This is my 'life' my emotional pain.
When I awoke this morning Sandra, my friend
came to mind, and once again, it hit me. She is
gone.

There are things I want to share with her or ask
her, and it hits me! She is gone ! I ache inside.
Then it dawned on me, I feel like she has been
snatched from me. No one to talk with about
her life.

She was not perfect, neither am I. I have no one
to share and talk with about her and the funny
things she could do. Sometimes she could make
me laugh and sometimes we would reminisce.

I have memories and no one to reminisce with.
She was snatched away and it is hard to believe
she won' t be calling or sending that 'thinking
of you' card. Always signed, Friends Forever.

It is lonely without her. I see her house in my
mind. I see her vehicle in the driveway, and I
want to call her, then I remember she is not here.

Where ever you are Sandra, know I will love
you, too, "from now and into eternity."
Always, your friend forever.
Rest in Peace my friend.

Judy ~ 4.13.14



I am sure some wonder why I have the feeling my friend was
snatched away. I can explain it here.
Her family ( sister ) is having to care for a husband dying
of cancer. I can't talk with her and add to her grief.
My friends brother is very ill and has been in and out of
the hospital. I can't talk about her with him and upset him.
Her children have their own busy lives and can't be bothered
by my grieving spirit. I don't want to add to theirs.
That being said, I have no one to talk to about her and
the feeling is like ..... I am alone... She was snatched away
before we could talk and say good-bye.
We grew up from fifth grade, middle school, and high school.
We raised our family together by camping, swimming, get
together for dinner.
We both lost an adult child. We grieved because we knew
one another so long and so well.
She is resting now and I am blessed knowing that.
One day I will be snatched away too.
I have two best friends left. I am blessed.
Cherish your friends while you have them. You never know
when they too will be snatched away.
J~ Kay~ 2
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Pie

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J-Kay-2 said:
She Was Snatched Away ~
Some will not understand why I am writing this
that is okay. This is my 'life' my emotional pain.
When I awoke this morning Sandra, my friend
came to mind, and once again, it hit me. She is
gone.

There are things I want to share with her or ask
her, and it hits me! She is gone ! I ache inside.
Then it dawned on me, I feel like she has been
snatched from me. No one to talk with about
her life.

She was not perfect, neither am I. I have no one
to share and talk with about her and the funny
things she could do. Sometimes she could make
me laugh and sometimes we would reminisce.

I have memories and no one to reminisce with.
She was snatched away and it is hard to believe
she won' t be calling or sending that 'thinking
of you' card. Always signed, Friends Forever.

It is lonely without her. I see her house in my
mind. I see her vehicle in the driveway, and I
want to call her, then I remember she is not here.

Where ever you are Sandra, know I will love
you, too, "from now and into eternity."
Always, your friend forever.
Rest in Peace my friend.

Judy ~ 4.13.14



I am sure some wonder why I have the feeling my friend was
snatched away. I can explain it here.
Her family ( sister ) is having to care for a husband dying
of cancer. I can't talk with her and add to her grief.
My friends brother is very ill and has been in and out of
the hospital. I can't talk about her with him and upset him.
Her children have their own busy lives and can't be bothered
by my grieving spirit. I don't want to add to theirs.
That being said, I have no one to talk to about her and
the feeling is like ..... I am alone... She was snatched away
before we could talk and say good-bye.
We grew up from fifth grade, middle school, and high school.
We raised our family together by camping, swimming, get
together for dinner.
We both lost an adult child. We grieved because we knew
one another so long and so well.
She is resting now and I am blessed knowing that.
One day I will be snatched away too.
I have two best friends left. I am blessed.
Cherish your friends while you have them. You never know
when they too will be snatched away.
J~ Kay~ 2
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This is really beautiful and a wonderful reminder to cherish the time with your loved ones because tomorrow is never promised. I lost a beloved pastor who was like a 2nd father to me and he died at 50. His wife died 3 years later due to breast cancer in her 40s. It was a long time ago but I still grieve them. However, they are with Christ in eternity now. I feel like they were snatched away too..since they died relatively young and of disease. Their genuine love and compassion for the broken-hearted was unrivaled. It was truly Christ's love that shown through them. However, you knew your friend since childhood. So I can't imagine the emptiness that left in your heart. All I can say, is that compared to eternity our suffering here will seem like the blink of an eye. I know that doesn't really make us feel any better, but I think you writing out your emotions and pain in poetic form is a wonderful way to start dealing with the grief. You'll be in my prayers.
 
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jogoldie

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One of the treads asked who on cc that we would like to meet....I would pick you as one....I know you dont know me but...
Since we both lost people we loved dearly and with all we have....i would love for you to tell me about your friend....
Sometimes the people close to us dont want us to share because its so upsetting....they dont understand our need to share..
Well I do...and I want you to know you can pm me any time....I never had a friend like you have had and I feel I missed out...
I will pray for you...and I know there are no words ....but im sure your friend loved you just as much...hang on my sister
time does heal.....with Gods help.....so if you want to share some silly stories or times you shared i would love to listen..
Peace be with you......jo....
 
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secularhermit

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I do... I did...

I know too many stories I wouldn´t dare to share. :(
 
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secularhermit

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@ Mrs J-Kay

Thanks for being one of those I have loved, sister. :)
 
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J-Kay-2

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secularhermit said:
@ Mrs J-Kay

Thanks for being one of those I have loved, sister. :)
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You are kind Mr. Hermie: Those who have loved and lost are at best,
blessed, aren't they? Those who still have time to make friendship
should value it, no matter how difficult it is to maintain. It is not always
perfect, but when they are gone, those imperfect times were always
erased and we moved on. God bless you kind heart. ~ J~K~2
 
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J-Kay-2

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jogoldie said:
One of the treads asked who on cc that we would like to meet....I would pick you as one....I know you dont know me but...
Since we both lost people we loved dearly and with all we have....i would love for you to tell me about your friend....
Sometimes the people close to us dont want us to share because its so upsetting....they dont understand our need to share..
Well I do...and I want you to know you can pm me any time....I never had a friend like you have had and I feel I missed out...
I will pray for you...and I know there are no words ....but im sure your friend loved you just as much...hang on my sister
time does heal.....with Gods help.....so if you want to share some silly stories or times you shared i would love to listen..
Peace be with you......jo....
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Hello Ms. Jo... You bless me all the time. Your kindness reaches out and wraps
love around all the lives you touch. Thank you for offering to listen. I have had
good times, and I have had bad times with her. Odd isn't it ? How the good does
outweigh the bad. I miss her and it hurts because I can't speak with family re:
the things she went through and how she was always loving and giving when
she was in good frame of mind. We will cherish the memories as time goes on.
God bless you for caring with the love of Christ. ~J ~K~ 2
 
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jogoldie

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Now you did it........someone got a tissue.....your so sweet.......thanks j
 
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jogoldie

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But I would never be so bold as to take credit....I just pray before I type......All credit goes to God...
 
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J-Kay-2

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Pie said:
This is really beautiful and a wonderful reminder to cherish the time with your loved ones because tomorrow is never promised. I lost a beloved pastor who was like a 2nd father to me and he died at 50. His wife died 3 years later due to breast cancer in her 40s. It was a long time ago but I still grieve them. However, they are with Christ in eternity now. I feel like they were snatched away too..since they died relatively young and of disease. Their genuine love and compassion for the broken-hearted was unrivaled. It was truly Christ's love that shown through them. However, you knew your friend since childhood. So I can't imagine the emptiness that left in your heart. All I can say, is that compared to eternity our suffering here will seem like the blink of an eye. I know that doesn't really make us feel any better, but I think you writing out your emotions and pain in poetic form is a wonderful way to start dealing with the grief. You'll be in my prayers.
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Hello Pie: Wow, your loss was a complete surprise. The Pastor was so young,
and his wife too. We don't always understand the why's, but we do know
one thing, God sends each of us here for a reason and we should really make
best of it. I got up this morning and it is true, Sandra came to mind. I just
have that feeling like....she is out there somewhere, but she was snatched away.
As I write my feelings it helps me get through my griefs. She was the second
best friend I have lost, but this was different.

My first best friend of 29 years, died one year almost to the day my 45 yr.
old daughter died. I knew my best friend went to be with Jesus. It was awesome.
She had been ill. She called me 6:30 pm and said, "I wanted to call while I am
not having coughing fit." We talked briefly. She was my prayer partner, my
confidant. We buddied around while our husbands worked out of town. The next
morning I was unable to reach her by phone. At 1:00 PM. after I spoke with
Charlotte the night before, her son called and told me she had been found dead
in her recliner, with her Bible on her lap, ( open ) the dog lying beside her and
the phone. She had always asked God to take her with dignity, and He did.
She was a prayer warrior, and I missed her, but she was on dialysis and her
body was so tired. What helped me get past the grief was seeing her son at
the store weekly and we could talk about her and share our funny moments.

This death of Sandra, is as I said, I can't talk with anyone about her because
of reasons stated. And I saw Charlotte in her casket, beautifully dressed and
she always dressed elegantly. I know where she is in a small mausoleum beside
her husband. But, Sandra was to be cremated. I have no idea when they were
going to put her beside her husband in a grave. So, in a way... I have no closure.
Her health was declining. Her husband was gone, an adult son passed away and
great grandson, never breathed on his own, w/ life support for 2 mos. and taken
off and buried. So she was actually wanting to go. When there is no closure,
it does leave a vacancy. But, as you know, being close from grade school and so
many years went by, there will always be that part of her, like a family member,
we won't forget. Thank you for commenting and understanding.

One more thing I would like to say. When I saw my friend of 29 yrs. (Charlotte)
in her casket, as I sat in the chair just before funeral started, I was bemoaning
inside, what I was going to miss by not having her. And the Lord spoke to my
spirit and He said, " that is just her house she lived in ". Wow. what a release.
I honestly did not grieve so much as I normally would have. So between that and
seeing her son, I have that awesome knowing she is with Jesus and I will one day
see her again. Both friends knew each other, so I am certain they have a joy
unspeakable praising Jesus. God bless you for allowing me to share. ~ J~K~2
 
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Nancyer

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I may be losing one today or tomorrow. Last stages of cancer. Last night we were told he's been moved to a comfort room and it's just a matter of time, nothing more they can do, nothing more he wants them to do. Thought for sure the pastor would announce his passing this morning but he did not. So I posted prayer requests on Facebook and have been asking for a miracle. Actually, been asking for one for weeks now. He is such a sweet young man (mid 40s) and has a young son (12). This family has been through so much in the past couple years. I'm praying for all of them.

God bless you and all who knew your friend. Our losses are heaven's gains.
 
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J-Kay-2

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Nancyer said:
I may be losing one today or tomorrow. Last stages of cancer. Last night we were told he's been moved to a comfort room and it's just a matter of time, nothing more they can do, nothing more he wants them to do. Thought for sure the pastor would announce his passing this morning but he did not. So I posted prayer requests on Facebook and have been asking for a miracle. Actually, been asking for one for weeks now. He is such a sweet young man (mid 40s) and has a young son (12). This family has been through so much in the past couple years. I'm praying for all of them.

God bless you and all who knew your friend. Our losses are heaven's gains.
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God bless you Nancy. I posted this a week ago and did not see your post until today
4/19/14.... I am sorry you have to know you are going to be losing someone you care
about. I wonder, since he was put in the comfort room and a week has gone by, did
the Lord take him yet ? It is always difficult to know when one is told they have
certain amount of time and we feel so helpless. I too, am seeing the same thing with
a friend. He was ill in Dec. and in Jan. given 3-6 mos. He is still living but I don't have
update on his condition. They too are praying for a miracle. Thank you and God bless
you with a Blessed Easter.. He is Alive forever more.. Amen ~ J~K~2
 
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Nancyer

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J-Kay-2 said:
God bless you Nancy. I posted this a week ago and did not see your post until today
4/19/14.... I am sorry you have to know you are going to be losing someone you care
about. I wonder, since he was put in the comfort room and a week has gone by, did
the Lord take him yet ? It is always difficult to know when one is told they have
certain amount of time and we feel so helpless. I too, am seeing the same thing with
a friend. He was ill in Dec. and in Jan. given 3-6 mos. He is still living but I don't have
update on his condition. They too are praying for a miracle. Thank you and God bless
you with a Blessed Easter.. He is Alive forever more.. Amen ~ J~K~2
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Thank you for asking. Yes, he went home to the Lord Monday night. Very sad. His battle was hard fought for 10 years. So sorry you are dealing with this too. Prayers for strength and understanding and that the Lord's presence is felt by everyone. There is a comfort knowing the person you love will be out of pain and with the Lord but we miss them so much. Years ago I attended the funeral for a coworker's husband and the pastor kept calling it a "Home Going" which I really liked.

Bless you always
 
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J-Kay-2

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Nancyer said:
Thank you for asking. Yes, he went home to the Lord Monday night. Very sad. His battle was hard fought for 10 years. So sorry you are dealing with this too. Prayers for strength and understanding and that the Lord's presence is felt by everyone. There is a comfort knowing the person you love will be out of pain and with the Lord but we miss them so much. Years ago I attended the funeral for a coworker's husband and the pastor kept calling it a "Home Going" which I really liked.

Bless you always
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Thank you Nancy for responding regarding your friends 'home going'. It does help
tremendously when they know Jesus and we can know they are with Him. It gives us
peace and even though we miss them, it is easier to get through those moments they
come to mind.
(( Hugs )) and prayers to you ~ J~Kay~2
 
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