IT'S HARD TO SAY GOODBY

I'm sorry to hear about Baby. Know that you've done everything you could and what ever decision you made was out of love. There's gains and losses, especially and unfortunately when it comes to departing with animals but it is selfless love to not see them in pain anymore. They gave selfless love all of their lives for those who they love, and for some maybe to everyone. I understand that there's guilt when losing a very loved pet as well as anyone you lose. I've experienced that guilt quite often when my dog who lived over fifteen years name Mercy, had to be put to sleep due to a tumor that grew on her face and a fast spreading cancer that started taking its toll on her and making her become very thin along with other unpleasant complications. She was the sweetest thing in the whole world and it meant so much to my family, and she seemed to have even been the glue that stuck us together to begin with. It was heartbreaking with everything that went from there. I could go into a very long story with how it all went, but it might make you feel worse so I don't know... As far as it raining while you were at the clinic, we've experienced a very similar thing on two trips with our dog. It's never easy, at all. She was so loving that I wouldn't have asked for anything more. Had to be put down late August of 2009. You take them for granted and never would even think the possibility of them going through anything that would lead to their death or acknowledge that their death would even come to begin with.

I did eventually find peace that I know was from something greater than myself. I know that Mercy is okay and the pets I currently have I will try to stay strong for when their day comes, however it will happen. Especially since the oldest cat I have is now thirteen and will be fourteen by the end of the year and that worries me sometimes. They know that we love them and there couldn't be any other way than to lessen the pain that would have resulted so much differently otherwise, and it requires strength. Also know that there's nothing wrong when grieving, too. It took me a long while to find that closure and just before when first seeing this topic, I shed a tear or two when I thought of Mercy.

Also know that if you feel like you can't take not having a cat around after Baby's passing, maybe you should try and adopt a new cat or kitten. It's not really a replacement, but it can fill the void and make you go through the grieving process a bit better. It's not for everyone and certainly wasn't mine to accept that we may get another dog someday, but it's just a suggestion. You could give that same love and home for that future cat if you do.

What also reminds and somewhat helps me is when I saw this and it goes for any type of pet, for the most part:




I may have helped somewhat, maybe not, I could've made it worse... But my condolences are with you and I hope this grief will pass for you soon. An animal *lover (LOL, forgot to put lover after that, but I could be one heck of an animal too) saying this to another animal lover even if it's only specific types of pets, I understand completely just like others here and won't judge.

The thing I hate about death is the raw emotions it brings out of me. I am not a crier I am usually the stiff upper lip gal that powers on, but death wears me out and wears me down till I just break. I hate it and look forward to heaven where death will be done away and never will we have to deal with it again.

Death and I have danced too close together for most of my life and I will not let it consume me forever. I found my mother dead from a heart attack at the age of 8 and my father died from cancer when I was 12. I am sick and tired of the people and animals I love dying. My ex-husband died this past March and my daughter's father died in January of 2010 - he was the love of my life. Death is not my friend and I THANK GOD THAT HE SOMEDAY WILL PUT AN END TO IT!!!!! YES I AM SHOUTING.

I feel better now... thanks for reading my rants....love goes out to those of you and for the comforting words you have given. I promise I won't be like this forever.... Just working through grief.

The thing I hate about death is the raw emotions it brings out of me. I am not a crier I am usually the stiff upper lip gal that powers on, but death wears me out and wears me down till I just break. I hate it and look forward to heaven where death will be done away and never will we have to deal with it again.

Death and I have danced too close together for most of my life and I will not let it consume me forever. I found my mother dead from a heart attack at the age of 8 and my father died from cancer when I was 12. I am sick and tired of the people and animals I love dying. My ex-husband died this past March and my daughter's father died in January of 2010 - he was the love of my life. Death is not my friend and I THANK GOD THAT HE SOMEDAY WILL PUT AN END TO IT!!!!! YES I AM SHOUTING.

I feel better now... thanks for reading my rants....love goes out to those of you and for the comforting words you have given. I promise I won't be like this forever.... Just working through grief.

I revisited your thread today Baby and I still miss you a bunch, but have accepted that you are gone. But you would like the new man in town. His name is tourist and he has helped me more than I knew. I didn't realize he had posted a couple of times on your thread before he really knew me. I guess he started to know who I was watching me going through the pain of your loss. We might not have met in a serious way if you had not died.

I am still sorry you are gone, but my new best friend wants to be my husband and a thread that had broken my heart ends up being the thread that led to a new heart love for me...what a wonderful God we have Baby. One who was helping dry my tears and give me one of the best gifts I could ever have which is someone new to love. If I believed cats were in heaven I would see you purring in pure pleasure at my new happiness and you would probably wink at God too as you crossed your paws as if in a job well done at this match made by God. I love you both....

Hey just remember I get to be at the wedding and give tourist the if you hurt my mom your dead look lol

July 24th was a year since I had to say Goodbye to Baby......a year of silence from the meow and purr area, a year of not cleaning a cat pan, that part I did not miss so much, a year that in November added a spouse and bonding with a person instead of a pet.

It has been a great 8 months having a husband.....I do miss the white cat doing a love rub-by on my legs and coming to the door to greet me when I came home, looking at me as if to say my water dish is empty will you be doing something about that soon? Plus his look of you do know the food dish is empty right?

Thinking about another pet but have not decided if it will be a dog or cat or maybe one of each.....still thinking, but in the mean time enjoying my spouse bunches......we even speak the same language.....lol Miss you Baby Cat....