Husband had and still is having an affair

Hi I am new here. I need some advice from anyone who has any helpful advice for me. I was married for 30 years. My husband had an affair. After seven months we got a divorce. I filed for the divorce because he wouldn't stop. He kept coming back and telling me he wanted us to work. Then he would go back. Over and over again. I am to imbarresed to even say how many times I kept letting this happen. In January we were divorced. As of today he wants it to work for us. As of today he isn't living with anyone but still has to have other woman around to talk to. Like singles sights and text and Facebook. Things like that. I have been still seeing him and when he knows I'm walking away he says and does all the right things. I keep falling for it. I truly love him still. Please help I keep falling for him because I really want him back. The real him not this him.
thank you for anyone with honest help or advice. Just something I am still devastated today.

It sounds like the "real" him has become the "this" him.

I recommend you get in to see your pastor for some regular counseling.
Also, you need to get involved in some women's bible study groups, or something similar for some extra support, so you have some Godly women you can talk to and pray with.

There isn't a simple answer when you love someone and they're in sin.
You're divorced now, it's legally over.
If you get involved again, you should view it like evaluating a guy for a brand new relationship.
Well... is he measuring up?

This is why you need some support and counseling.

Thank you. Please pray I have hit rock bottom. I have never needed the Lord more. I have literally lost everything. I know the Lord is the only one who will never leave me nor forsake me... Thank you

I know you love him and it seems like hes all you really know. 30 years and who wants to truly start over? But then who wants to keep getting hurt? I would pray girl and ask God what He wants you to do. God can change His heart, so I cant say its hopeless or he will do it again if He changes, because God can do anything.

I was married after my husband left me for a year and a half. After my husband left, I got into a relationship, because I was scared to be alone, because we were together since we were 15. After that relationship ended, I was still married mind you, God wanted me to fight for my marriage. I didn't know if I wanted this marriage, it had been a year at this point since he left. I listened to God to fight and I prayed, wrote him letters, invited him to church and to Christian concerts......nothing. Finally one day, I felt God preparing me for divorce. I didn't understand because I didn't know what the purpose was. Looking back, I know now it was for me, to know I did everything I possibly could and I now can go thru life not regretting anything. Allow God to speak to you and work thru you in what to do. Your not "bound" to him anymore, but for your peace of mind, allow God to release you if that is His will. Im praying for you girl!!

Welcome to Christian Chat, Tmb. I think the quicker you leave him and forget about him, the better.