Newlywed Struggling with Betrayal

My husband and I have been married for 5 months. In that time I have come to realize that my husband is a chronic liar. We have been attending couples counseling throughout our marriage to deal with various issues. However, regardless, my husband continues to struggle with dishonestly.

At this point, I am so exhausted trying to make sense of lies and half truths. We dated for several years before we decided to marry. I knew he would lie about small things but I trusted him. Eventually, it came to pass that we broke up after he disappeared for a weekend and was unfaithful. After a month apart, he came back claiming he had changed and was truly repenting. We married shortly after getting back together.

Now he is lying about where he is, who he is with, and what he is doing. Sometines he doesn't come home. When I try to talk about these things he somehow turns it around so he is the victim. I'm so confused. I love my husband. I want to find a way to fix this, but the stress is making me physically and mentally sick. We talk about building trust in counseling and the next day he is dishonest. I keep praying for patience and strength but I'm losing my mind trying to cope with this constant betrayal. I feel tricked and trapped.

Not to sound mean, but it sounds like you put yourself into this. You married a man who had recently cheated on you, and didn't even allow for time for him to prove his change was real and not just a ploy. So now, unless you can prove he's cheating or unless he becomes abusive, you're stuck.
What it sounds like is he needs counseling of his own, not just marriage counseling.

5 months is not a very long time to make any decisions or to give up on a marriage or your loved one. You went into the marriage knowing he committed many little lies. You went into this marriage after cheating on you..yet you went into the marriage. You said you trusted him.. Trust in God... Don't exhaust yourself because of his lies and possible unfaithfulness. Trust God. Trust God and put the marriage into His hands. Do you go to church? Pray always for your husband to open his heart to God. I have been married 25yrs. It has been a difficult marriage yet I have now trusted God to lead me where he wants me in this marriage. After 25yrs I have been led to pray for my husband even though things are difficult. I trust I will be rewarded in the end..marriage is a commitment, not a piece of paper to be torn.. Pray, pray, pray

I'm so sorry. My husband lies too and now I can't believe anything he ever says. He also turns things around when i confront him and has no idea what logic or reason is. I'm so empathetic to your pain. I am praying for you!!!

Two things come to mind while reading about your troubled marriage, (1) He isn't a born-again believer or (2) He is a born-again believer who is in bondage to a besetting sin, Either way they are in sin. Demand that the two of you have a morning or evening devotional together as well as prayer time together every morning and night. I promise you will get results one way or the other be it good or bad. May God show mercy.

Matt 6:24
~No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other

first off.
LEAVE, you wasting time on this guy , precious time that you could be spending on the only Man who is never unfaithful. God
leave him. PRAY &FAST and if God wills it then he will bring your husband back to you. but if you keep taking him back on your own accord and so quick after he keeps screwing up. then he will never learn. like a child if you give a lollipop to a kid everytime he hits or does something not nice. he will not learn that his actions are wrong.
step up and leave. then step down and let God handle it.
the enemy loves to see you hurt and he will be super confused when he has to find something else to screw with you lol
I REBUKE THE ENEMY FROM YOUR MARRIAGE. LORD GIVE HER STRNGTH AND HAVE MERCY ON THEM, LORD YOU KNOW HOW MUCH WE CAN HANDLE BUT YOU ALSO SAID TO SEPERTATE OURSELFS FROM BAD. I ASK YOU TO MAKE SOMETHING HAPPEN TO HER HUSBAND TO STOP HIM FROM BEING UNFAITHFUL AND LYING. YOU ARE THE JUDGE LORD. AND IF HE NEEDS A SPANKING THEN LORD YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE TO DO SO. LORD HELP THEM AND GUIDE THEM.

Annointed, this thread is over a year old and the OP's last online activity was December of 2014. Please don't pull zombie threads forward.. They clog the forums and are most often replied to by a person, not knowing that the OP is no longer here, left the site, or was banned.

To ladyblue
didn't know I needed permission to comment on a forum
and didn't know theres a time limit to voice my opinion.
you can pass over my comments or ignore what I comment on lol
thanks

Anyone else here will tell you what I told you, concerning zombie threads. Many people pull them forward and reply to the OP, not bothering to check if they've been banned or left. The mods will even ask you (and anyone else) to not pull them forward. As I said before, they clog up the forums and push newer, more relevant threads to the back pages. It would be better to start a new thread, than to go back a few hundred pages and reply on a zombie one..